Feelings towards straight

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  1. johnjacobs

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    What do you do when you have sexual feelings for straight friends? I have several friends who I want to experiment with but they're all presumed straight.

    With that said - I've had some kind of heterosexual interaction involving them in some way; that's where the attraction started. I had a threesome with one friend, found out that he has a huge dick and another friend I use to always look at porn with and talk about double teaming girls with.
     
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    You have several options:

    1. Get drunk together and spill it. Tell them you're curious about exploring with dudes one on one, but that it would need to be somebody you're comfortable with. Say, "Hey, since we had that threesome together (or since we watch porn together), I thought you might be up for it. Interested?" If they're clearly not, change the subject and move on.

    2. If you're afraid of their reactions (them being grossed out, or not wanting to hang out with you as closely anymore), then put it out of your mind. Maybe try to find some random guys on-line who would be up for fooling around.

    I have a couple of 100% straight friends I've thought of fooling around with before. But, they're 100% straight, so they would not be into it. I know them well enough to know that for sure. I think one of them loves me so much as a friend that he might even do it just to make me happy if I asked him, but I would never do that. In any case, it can easily totally change the dynamic of the relationship, and I wouldn't want to do that with my closest friends. On the other hand, I do have bi friends I have fooled around with. It's been fun.
    Bottom line is that I think it's important to first get a sense of whether they'd be into it or not.
     
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    you are gay, just cut loose and enjoy it
     
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    Thanks for the input.

    Some of my friends tell me they're "straight"; I feel like they're very closeted. One of them wants to see what it feels like to have another guy's dick in his hand and the other has asked me if I fantasized about him and asked to tell him things I thought about with guys. I really wish they'd just come out to me if there is something up. I can't help how I feel and I wish they just really knew I wouldn't ever think to bad mouth them about it OR think of them badly if they really were gay or bisexual. I've tried telling them this but I don't think it's done any good.
     
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    If they're that curious, then what are you waiting for? Starting the conversation by telling them that YOU are at least bisexual might make it easier for them to spill it as well. If you're hot for these guys telling you these things, then go for it!
     
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    People come to these realizations about acting on their fantasies at different times in their lives. Some just aren't ready to handle it and then others are. You can't expect your friends to act on some time table that might work for you. Like every one else here has said, ask them what they're feeling about you. Attraction is a two-way street.
     
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    I'm one of those guys who thinks there are enough gay guys in the world who are aware and confident about themselves and their sexuality without dealing with the emotional and psychological drama of attempting something with a conflicted guy. Life is challenging enough without adding another heaping helping of drama to your plate.

    My two cents: take it for what it's worth.
     
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