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i just cant seem to get a gf every time i get close something comes up and we stop talking i was just thing maybe some one feels the same way
 

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I had the same feeling for a long time... I think that you should stop thinking about it and try to be natural. Avoid thinking about past experiences and just try to be yourself, if you think about something else during your conversation you won't be focused and it will be a bit awkward

I know it may seem difficult, but there are plenty of girls out there waiting for a good caring boy, so hold on!
 

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i just cant seem to get a gf every time i get close something comes up and we stop talking i was just thing maybe some one feels the same way
I know the feeling more than you can imagine.

I have asked 5 girls out in my life (I know, not that many), 1 said no (she had a bf) and 4 said yes. And yet, I havent had a date in my life yet.

1 straight stood me up, ended up getting an accidental call from her that same night at about 2AM, she was at what sounded like a party

The other three just never came to happen for whatever reason.
 

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Yes, sort of. Being homosex I've never had this problem with women, but men can be equally elusive.I went a year+ without sex at my longest, and didn't have my first boyfriend until just last year. Just have to be yourself, and don't expect anything from anyone--that way, there's no disappointment if things don't pan out. In other words, Good Times (an awesome show) was famous for the line "keeping your head above water, making a wave when you can." Solid advice. Hang in there.
 

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Like they said dont think about it ... Let things go and it will come naturaly... If u try to much , u wont be urself... And its wont wont.. But it still doesnt mean that u dont have to make effort for that girl but not to much ... My opinion and its worked for me
 

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Life is not a game.

Nor is it a series of objectives, projects, methods, techniques.

It's just about trying to experience things naturally, without the superstructures of words and theories getting in the way.

Just BE. Be yourself, in each moment. And be fully present.

Loosen your grip on your needs ( that doesn't mean drop them all together though ) and paradoxically, all you need will come to you.

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Been married for the past 18 years. All of the sudden my loved one wants a divorce. :eek:

Now I am living alone in a one bedroom apartment, re-aquainting my hands with the main unit. :biggrin1:

Just take it one step at a time, do not sweat it. The more you think on it, the less likely you will attain your goals.
 
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Some people just aren't built to have partners. Maybe they are awkward around others, maybe they try to be funny and end up offending, maybe they aren't motivated to go the extra mile to have a partner. There are lots and lots of reasons that a majority of people in the world are single. Having a partner is not guaranteed in life. Real life is not a John Hughes movie in which the person you are lusting suddenly gets the hots for you and brings you a cake on your birthday. Being in a relationship takes timing, as well as work, compromise, and sacrifice that many people aren't willing to make.

All that said, if you want someone in your life...you can a) hope that a person will randomly enter your life like a Hughes movie, or b) you can develop a social life that includes a large circle of friends to increase your odds in meeting someone. A larger social circle might help you hone social skills and empathy so that if you do meet someone you fancy, you can connect with them.

I appreciate those that hold a romantic perspective on life, it certainly looks great in movies. It has never worked out that way for me...but I deal with it by learning to enjoy my own company and not pining for that which I don't have much control...the existance of a partner.

On the other side of the coin...at least you aren't partnered with someone that hates you, belittles you, or to whom you owe a larger percentage of your paycheck. If you want to see real suffering...talk to some of the people that have toxic relationships that they have to struggle with every day. Be glad that's not in your life.

I hope I'm not a downer...but I wanted to add some contrast to the perspectives of the charming posters above me. :smile: