Female bisexuality vs. male bisexuality

[B_Stronzo]

I'm using generic terminology in the word "bisexuality" in this opening post. I use it simply for clarity.

I hear (and see) much in the media about female bisexuality and what's called "lesbian chic". I encounter it in day-to-day life too.

It occurs to me that more men play doctor growing up than women do during those formative years. I've asked around a great deal and goodness knows all my schoolmates had their cocks out at a moment's notice between 12 and roughly 16.

Don't confuse women's ability to be affectionate with sexuality please. That's social and not the phenomenon to which I refer.

Yet many heterosexual men with whom I speak use phrases like "the right kind of threeway" (MFF) versus "the wrong kind" (MMF).

Seems to me six of one half dozen of the other and a blatant double standard.

To me it's increasingly offensive to see one mainstreamed (MFF) and the other spoken of largely as "the wrong kind".

I'm interested to learn how many women have indulged in a MFF ménage à trois simply to satisfy the urging of their male partner. Or, how many are truly interested in other women sexually who normally would identify themselves as heterosexual?

(Opinion only please) Thanks. :smile:

 

[441873]

Stronzo you are a gay/homosexual man so why does this matter to you? I could care less if a straight guy only wants a MFF 3 way or a MFM 3 way. I am gay and I do not want a MMF 3 way, a MFM 3 way, or a FMF 3 way I just want a MMM 3 way but I prefer sex one on one with another guy without anyone else there. Stop trying to enforce your opinions and values on other people. I really do not care or loose sleep over the fact that some straight men want and have 3 ways with just women. Stop being one of those queer men who thinks that deep down inside all men somehow want sex with another man or have a sexual attraction towards men but they repress it. This is just as bad and as hypocritical as close minded straight men and the Born Again Christians think that all men even us fags somehow want a woman or deep down inside we all want pussy.

 

[doctorro]

let's ask redneckipedia:

ok, female bisexuality is reasonable, because women are hot.
male bisexuality is grosse, because men have penisses.

topic closed

 

[B_Artful Dodger]

Stop trying to enforce your opinions and values on other people. I really do not care or loose sleep over the fact that some straight men want and have 3 ways with just women.

He's not trying to force (not enforce... i despair sometimes), his views on other people. He asked a question, which, if you havn't noticed is the format of a large proportion of the content of this site.
If you don't like the topic - don't post on the thread.

To answer the OP, I would say that although girls consider themselves heterosexual, if the situation is hot, then they could bend a bit in a genuine way... and not only to get their guy off.

 

[B_Stronzo]

I can't help you there Stronzo (I don't think I can at least)

I'm personally offended by any legal sexual acts being spoken of as "wrong" in any sense, as sexual beings with the intellect required to both convey our desires and gain the willing consent of other legal adults I can't find any reasonable excuse for such opinions and have to therefor put it down to ignorance and intolerance.

You can and have helped.

The second paragraph you write is particularly well put when you say "with the intellect required to both convey our desires and gain willing consent of other legal adults". Yup. That's my feeling too.

To answer the OP, I would say that although girls consider themselves heterosexual, if the situation is hot, then they could bend a bit in a genuine way... and not only to get their guy off.

As long as it's genuine I'm with you 100 percent AD. Thanks.

lol@ docttoro's response! I need to buy me a copy of that tome. :biggrin1:

 

[b.c.]

Curiously, I was discussing the flip side of this question just the other day because I know of women who've had their faces buried in more pussy than most guys, yet have a great disdain for any hint of bisexuality in men.

In their scenario, MWW would be totally acceptable but never MMF, which has always struck me as being rather odd.

 

[B_Stronzo]

Interesting b.c.

Were you discussing it with men or women who've done the "burying"?

Most of the straight women I speak to (and that number's fairly substantial) think the notion of two guys together is hot.

They're probably loathe to admit it to a general audience since socially we know the implication. But when Queer as Folk was on the demographic showed that one quarter of the viewing audience were heterosexual women.

 

[greatdickismydrug]

I think that in general many straight men find the idea of MFF threesomes "the right kind" because it has been mainstreamed in porn and in the media in general. You cannot watch straight porn without the obligatory girl on girl action scene.

When I was younger, I was asked a few times by men to engage in MFF threesomes and would put the question to rest immediately by explaining to the man that I was about as turned on by eating a pussy as they were about sucking a cock. They would look at me with a puzzled look on their face and say, "Really? you're not into women?" Like they expected all women to be into sex with other women from the porn they had been watching.

If they continued, I would start listing some of their friends whom I would really like to have a MFM threesome with... LOL, that pretty much made them drop the subject for good.

 

[B_Stronzo]

I think that in general many straight men find the idea of MFF threesomes "the right kind" because it has been mainstreamed in porn and in the media in general. You cannot watch straight porn without the obligatory girl on girl action scene.

When I was younger, I was asked a few times by men to engage in MFF threesomes and would put the question to rest immediately by explaining to the man that I was about as turned on by eating a pussy as they were about sucking a cock. They would look at me with a puzzled look on their face and say, "Really? you're not into women?" Like they expected all women to be into sex with other women from the porn they had been watching.

If they continued, I would start listing some of their friends whom I would really like to have a MFM threesome with... LOL, that pretty much made them drop the subject for good.

Thanks.

This is what I was interested to hear; the perspective of a heterosexual female.

And it's what I've heard from all the straight women who've had this MFF thing pushed on them too.

It seems to me (now this is only my OPINION) that what constitutes heterosexual male gratification becomes the sexual standard invariably and half of the public - if not more - doesn't even see it coming in the never-ending battle to keep the reigns of control in the hands of "the Man" <<-- that, admittedly, was a mini-rant.

If it gets heterosexual men hard it's "cool". If it doesn't it's "uncool".

Horse manure.

 

[b.c.]

Interesting b.c.

Were you discussing it with men or women who've done the "burying"?

Most of the straight women I speak to (and that number's fairly substantial) think the notion of two guys together is hot.

They're probably loathe to admit it to a general audience since socially we know the implication. But when Queer as Folk was on the demographic showed that one quarter of the viewing audience were heterosexual women.

Stronz,

I was discussing it with a (male) buddy of mine who encountered similar.

Your information is probably more accurate than ours because our observations were based on specific incidents or people, whereas yours are based on conversations with women who were apparently more open to discussing the notion with you.

Admittedly, It's a question I've never asked of a woman (and I'd assume my friend hasn't either). So maybe our conclusions are quite inaccurate.

 

[B_Stronzo]

All info is valuable b.c.

I guess I'm really trying to get to the bottom of why we have to relegate our sexuality to categories for ready-comprehension.

I know that when I ask the women (most college age) at a bistrot we frequent about the topic they feel comfortable with us because they know we're gay men. I'm sure that figures in somehow.

Thanks for your insight.

 

[b.c.]

Thanks.

This is what I was interested to hear; the perspective of a heterosexual female.

And it's what I've heard from all the straight women who've had this MFF thing pushed on them too.

It seems to me (now this is only my OPINION) that what constitutes heterosexual male gratification becomes the sexual standard invariably and half of the public - if not more - doesn't even see it coming in the never-ending battle to keep the reigns of control in the hands of "the Man" <<-- that, admittedly, was a mini-rant.

If it gets heterosexual men hard it's "cool". If it doesn't it's "uncool".

Horse manure.

Well yes, a valid observation. In fact, I recall getting into a rather heated discussion (years ago, in another forum) by making pretty much the same observation as yours.

(As I recall I managed to piss a bunch of people off, big time.)

 

[B_Stronzo]

Well yes, a valid observation. In fact, I recall getting into a rather heated discussion (years ago, in another forum) by making pretty much the same observation as yours.

(As I recall I managed to piss a bunch of people off, big time.)

DID you? Goodness b.c.

Of course you'll understand me when I say I believe you but have never experienced the same phenomenon...

Nice to be posting with you again btw.

 

[b.c.]

DID you? Goodness b.c.

Of course you'll understand me when I say I believe you but have never experienced the same phenomenon...

Nice to be posting with you again btw.

yes, and good to have you back.