Originally posted by Doctor_Ay@Jan 9 2005, 11:54 PM
What about the 'social taboos' of female ejaculation? I, personally would argue that women have trained themselves to NOT ejaculate... they just need to learn how to let go of their inhibitions and it would come naturally to MOST.
Yes, I believe in it... yes I try to get each one of my partners to ejaculate. You have no idea how many times ive heard 'I dont wanna pee on you'. Just go to the bathroom beforehand, and get OVER the fear of making a huge mess, and have a blast (heh).
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DoctorAy, yes I did miss this post. You have surely hit on the most significant reason for the lack of evidence of the female orgasm, let alone ejaculation! Women don't live in the same world as men. We don't learn to masutrbate in our teens, we don't know what our organs look like, we are taught "good girls don't", and our orgasms are rarely acknowledged, let alone encouraged. My own roommate (knowing how I spend my time online!
talked to me about this last week. She was sure she had wet the bed and asked if there was any way to keep from peeing when she orgasmed. She's 20. We talked about it at length and she is the youngest woman I know of who's experienced ejacualtion. I told her to keep her b/f and never let him go!
By the time a woman opens up to explore sex, we already have a whole host of preconceived notions about how it's supposed to be. We're supposed to look pretty and be interested in the guys' pleasure. That's it. Sex is over when HE cums, and let's face it- very young guys can cum pretty quick if most of their experience is with masturbation! We've all read the threads on j/o contests.
We're supposed to be gracious, supportive and kind. We're not allowed to say "What? That's it??". Young men are not taught about the differences in our physiology, so they often think we're the same. Someone posted a while ago "Everyone's responsible for their own orgasm", well that's only true in masturbation! In sex with a partner, each should be concerned with both parties' mutual pleasure. Women have to fight with all of society's pressure, and then contend with our partner. A little real sex education in schools would go a long way, but alas, it is not to be for quite some time. Even many Biblical views have us regarding our bodies as "unclean". We are embarrassed about our mentruation. We are told sometimes that our natural body odor is unpleasant (bullshit!
. Long before I ever ejaculated, I remember a guy telling me I was "too wet down there" like it was something I could control. It's no wonder we're often afraid to really let go and have fun in sex.
And it goes on and on. If men have preferences on what they like, it's okay, but if women do, we're bitches. Apparently, not being willing to have sex with just anybody makes you a bitch, but if you are, you're a whore. What are we supposed to do? Men take out their anger at their own inability to perform on us, often times. We're too loose, too tight, too smelly, not enthusisatic enough, too eager.......it's always our fault. Enter ejaculation. If a man has never experiences a partner who does this, he will swear it's a myth. Why? Because he refuese to believe that he isn't the very best lover on Earth (along with having the biggest dick). I've had guys who have actually nearly demand that I tell them their dick is the biggest one I've ever seen (regardless of actual size). Also, if he knows a woman can experience this kind of orgasm, he may actually have to put out more effort that just addressing his own needs. Not everyone is willing to do that. Here's a fun one: since I've had this experience, I've actually had guys rather jealous (not in a good way) that's I'm having more fun than they are, ie, "getting more out of it" than they are. That point is true, I can have an unlimited amount of orgasms whereas most men can only have a couple at one session. Just another way our bodies are different. But I find it overwhelming that women (who can have multiple orgasms given the proper stimulation) very often don't orgasm at all!
Okay, I'll wrap up this dissertation with an address to your second post. I do drink tons of fluids, water, coffee, tea, pop, I'm sure that has an effect on the amount of fluid I produce. I have no way to measure it, but suffice it to say I can leave several drenched spots on a bed that are wet enough to soak through to bedspread, sheets, right down to the matress, leaving the poor guy to wonder where he's going to sleep. I also pee immediately before and after sex (as all women should) to help prevent UTI's and peeing on my partner. I am always amazed at how much I pee after sex when I've just cum so much! Also, I used to put a white towel under my ass to make sure it wasn't pee coming out (I was afraid of this at first), and I can tell you the fluid is completely clear and very watery with only a slight scent of vaginal fluids.
Doctor Ay, thanks for posting here, and I'm sorry we missed your first one. I'd like to know what kind of doctor you are, and some of your experiences or knowledge of this phenomenon.