Female Masterbation issue

[noface60]

Okay, thanks. Sometimes she doesn't like giving me oral. But it's a good idea to just switch it up like you guys said. I'm tired of our sessions always ending in me jacking off and her just watching lol.

 

[dolfette]

i want to try one of you're out because in my experience girls seem to have no idea how to give a hand job. they just tug away like crazy without any appreciation for the fact that nerves don't just feel pleasure. they also feel pain. also women seem to forget they have nails.

never understood that one.
if you're not playing with his reactions then what's the point? watching the little clues in his face, in the tension of his muscles, in the way he's breathing. every guy has different ''omg!'' triggers and finding them is like sport.

...obviously i'm completely fucking bored of you once i find them all :smile:

Oh, sorry that I didn't explain further.

The reason that it bothers me that she doesn't "join in" or "assist me" when I'm fingering her is because when she's jacking me off, she never finishes because she claims that jacking off my cock "tires her out" so I always have to finish myself off. I enjoy seeing her hand jacking my cock off (guess it's a mental thing even though I could physically make myself reach orgasms faster than she can make me), so why should I get the short end of the stick like this? Why do I have to jack myself off if she doesn't have to finger herself? Is this fair?

fair? that she doesn't cause herself pain in the pursuit of getting you off? and the burn of lactic acid IS painful.

you really don't want to know my thoughts on that one.

 

[noface60]

no, dolfette. I think that I DO want to know your thoughts on how jacking off the partner that you love can cause you PAIN.

Sometimes after a while, my arm feels like it's on fire from fingering her continuously for over 20 minutes! But do I stop? NO! Because I love her. So I keep going regardless of my pain! I would expect the same from her! Why am I at fault when she is not?

 

[dolfette]

no, dolfette. I think that I DO want to know your thoughts on how jacking off the partner that you love can cause you PAIN.

Sometimes after a while, my arm feels like it's on fire from fingering her continuously for over 20 minutes! But do I stop? NO! Because I love her. So I keep going regardless of my pain! I would expect the same from her! Why am I at fault when she is not?

no, you CHOOSE to do that. it's choice. we shouldn't expect our partners to suffer. people cope with pain in different ways.
you're at fault for expecting her to suffer for her art.
she's only at fault if she expects you to suffer too.

 

[Jhbmeetbuddies]

I can understand how you feel. When I finger my gf she loves it when I get involved, inserting my finger with hers, rubbing her clit while she fingers herself. I would not have enjoyed it that much if she didn' get involved as well.

 

[D_Tina_Ciao]

I was definitely shown how to finger by a guy when I was like 19, and while I enjoy it now, I kinda get bored sometimes. I'm with Rouge and Petite; more fun with a hot guy doing it for you, because it's not all physical.

Bingo! Oh, I can do it - fast/frequently - and have to at present (no guy for over 5 years and I can't go completely without), but I'd *far* rather have my guy do it as part of making *love*! Just don't have a special man in my life who loves/wants me.

Mm Rouge and others who have husbands/bfs who love and care about you - you're all so blessed!!! :fing02: :wink:

 

[big_tits4big_dicks]

no, you CHOOSE to do that. it's choice. we shouldn't expect our partners to suffer. people cope with pain in different ways.
you're at fault for expecting her to suffer for her art.
she's only at fault if she expects you to suffer too.

Yep. If your arm hurts, stop. Or Don't, you have the freedom of choice. I get tired sometimes, I get awful joint pain. My husband always stops me if he thinks I am in pain. Because he LOVES ME and does not want me in pain. Even though he will wear himself out for me, I don't ask, he just does. I figure he is just taking care of me...So you want your girlfriend to be in pain so you can get off? Just because you want to work through the pain, does not mean she does, or can! If you think it's not fair then don't do it yourself.

 

[dolfette]

Yep. If your arm hurts, stop. Or Don't, you have the freedom of choice. I get tired sometimes, I get awful joint pain. My husband always stops me if he thinks I am in pain. Because he LOVES ME and does not want me in pain. Even though he will wear himself out for me, I don't ask, he just does. I figure he is just taking care of me...So you want your girlfriend to be in pain so you can get off? Just because you want to work through the pain, does not mean she does, or can! If you think it's not fair then don't do it yourself.

your hubby sounds like a treasure.

 

[sovicious]

Probably she just prefers you to do it or the way you do it. She has tried doing it the way you do it herself and hasn't gotten that same umpf. So she likes when you get down there and get the correct angles and what not I don't see the thrill in touching my own nipples at all. Pretty pointless if you ask me, now if someone else does it?! They are pretty much guaranteed results. Just keep making the magic happen she loves it apparently.

 

[tinydick4u]

A girl that I messed with couldn't give herself an orgasm.She said she would get an intense sensation, but then got tense and could never get into sex or fingering.I have tried,as have many others, to tell her to relax and let go.Still she can't get off and has become frustrated with any sexual activity.So, you have her as long as you keep doing what you're doing.