BluECliQ: Hi ladies, and gents if you're reading. Me and my girlfriend are both 19 and have a relatively healthy sexual relationship, thought theres one tiny problem. She's never had an orgasm before. I know female orgasms aren't as come and go as male ones, and I know they require a lot of things to be right. But heres my specific issue...I read on various sites and internet mags that a girl is unlikely to experience orgasm with her mate if she hasn't had one by herself. I'm beginning to think this might be the problem, because she insists everything feels great, but no orgasm from both oral and intercourse. I brought this up with her but shes kind of conservative with her sexuality and thinks playing with herself is dirty or something. I know once she has her first one there will be many more to come, but getting over the hill has been tough. She's just not comfortable "letting loose" even though I tell her its ok. Any ideas or things I can do?