Female Orgasms

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  1. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    Ok gals, i have a question that only you can answer.

    Does your vaginal orgasms feel as good as clitoral orgasms do?

    I can have like 50 clitoral orgasms in an hour if i want to, they are mind blowing. They make me go into convulsions and moan like crazy. The 8 to 10 involuntary PC contractions afterwards are so relieving. I have even more intense orgasms when my husband fingers my gspot, but i have rarely been able to concentrate and tighten up every muscle in my body to orgasm during sex with clitoral stimulation.

    What am i supposed to be looking for with vaginal orgasms? Because if they arent the sensation i am used to with clitoral orgasms then i am not going to consider it an orgasm for me. I think my standards are too high or something. I have no idea.

    They say if you have to ask, then you havent had one. Do you consider a vaginal orgasm a clitoral orgasm without any outside stimulation needed, or do you consider it an vaginal orgasm because you had something in your vagina?

    I'm very confused and i can see why people have always had a contriversial conversations about it if so many women havent had one. I think sex feels just as good as it did when i was a teenager, but nothing feels like the clitoral orgasm for me.
     
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    Apparently (according to some), the "G-spot" is really the underbelly of the clitoris.

    If that's true, then the only real difference is which SIDE of the clitoris is being stimulated -- the top (a "clitoral orgasm") or the underside (a "vaginal orgasm").

    I don't really know if the above is true or not, however I will say that...

    -- Vaginal orgasms, in my humble opinion, really aren't that much different

    -- However, for me, a clitoral orgasm without penetration is kind of like a fire-cracker versus a rocket on the 4th of July: no big deal.

    Whichever way I come, the penetration is what makes it feel better.
     
  3. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    Thanks so much for giving me your view on it. I've never really thought about the subjective side of it that what some consider to be the "penacle" of pleasure during sex might not be an orgasm to someone else.
     
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    50 orgasms per hour? Are u serious? This shit is like a foreign language to me! I constantly read women say they can't have an orgasm & then I read others saying they have hundreds! CONFUSED.COM
     
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    My body experiences each orgasm differently

    • The clitoral are very strong, deep contractions that I feel throught my pelvic region and upper thighs.
    • G-spot feel like an almost painful release of pressure, but good kind of pain. With these I will on occasion squirt out a tiny amount of clear or slightly creamy thick fluid. Other times I feel a sudden rush of fluid from my vag which drips everywhere... making that always pleasant loud squish, squish sound until I can wipe some away. :rolleyes:
    • Vag orgasms are like long, slow waves. Imagine the clitoral orgasm but in slow motion and holding the contraction longer. Also, it is sort of localized to my vag, whereas after a few clitoral I feel like my lower belly, thighs, everything in that region, has been through a rigorous workout. Hope that makes sense?
     
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    Which do you prefer, if you have a preference. Maybe because I'm male, but I can't really tell which one is "better" so to speak. Though they all sound fantastic! I can only hope I can provide such a full range! :tongue:
     
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    I prefer the clitoral because it is easy to achieve, deep, and satisfying. :)

    The vag rarely happens, and both it and the g spot only happens after a few clitoral - plus the g-spot really kind of hurts/aches until I release the pressure with a squirt or that super wetness.

    Happy to have experienced each, though. :)
     
  8. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I feel the same way as you, MR. My clitoral orgasms are SO much better than my vaginal ones. I prefer them by quite a margin. :smile: I guess that's part of the reason why size doesn't matter to me... I prefer oral sex anyway!
     
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    I find a difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms. I have anal and nipple play orgasms too. And sometimes I can cum without even being touched (i worship my bf!!).

    Rated according to strength and pleasure
    1. clitoral
    2. hmmm, it's a tie between vaginal and anal
    3. mental
    4. nipple

    I have multiple on top of multiple orgasms through vaginal sex. It feels like a pressure, building then release. Though most of the time it doesn't build for long and I don't have a lot of "downtime" cause bf can fuck forever.
    I haven't had anal very often, but when I have, the orgasm is very, very strong.
    I love my mental orgasms, sounds funny but I don't really know how else to describe it. We could be sitting across from each other and he will look at me a certain way and whisper naughty, naughty things to me. He likes doing this in public.

    Nipple orgasms, the pleasure is there and builds but it's almost a painful thing.
     
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    I've had girlfriends who've had both so I would say I am experienced on the matter....even being a guy. The clitoral orgasms seemed to be achieved nearly always from an external stimulation, in my case it was usually a vib, but oral works for many women. Vaginal or g-spot stimulation through intercourse is more difficult and takes more of a cohesive effort. In my experience it happens once she's well lubed up and the sex has been going on for at least 10 minutes. pressure needs to be applied to the back of the clitoral area, I'd say 2-3 inches in, and having an upward cock curve helped me greatly I'm sure. Also, at least 50% of the time she would get very wet while "cumming" and sometimes a bunch would "shoot" out, which I found extremely hot. I really think for a woman to cum in this manner during intercourse, the guy can't just be slamming away or only be concerned about himself. There was a very specific "rubbing" motion that had to occur and could only occur in variations of the missionary position. I actually loved to hold out until she came, cause it would be super wet and I would be so turned on and cum about 20 seconds later.
     
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    ...but as far as which feels better, never really asked and have no way of ever knowing! but the way the ladies have posted so far sounds about right as far as what ive noticed...clitoral, a whole body quiver and vaginal, a deep expelling of sorts.
     
  12. ManlyBanisters

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    I started to reply to this yesterday and got distracted (no! not like that - dirty mind! :tongue:)...

    I can have a clitoral orgasm pretty much anytime I want - I give them to myself easily and my man assists me in that manner easily too. Vaginal orgasms are rarer not because I find them difficult to achieve but because they just take longer and, certainly when I'm by myself, I don't always take the time to make them happen. So in a way I perceive the vaginal orgasms as better because they feel a little more special. In terms of release of sexual tension they are equal. In terms of repeatability, clitoral orgasms are very easily repeated - I find vaginal orgasm almost impossible to repeat quickly on my own, not so when I'm with my man, and when they do repeat in quick succession they turn in to a long continuous orgasm more easily than a series of clitoral orgasms, which always feel distinct to me - a series of peaks.

    As for the actual difference in feeling, well, I find orgasm quite hard to describe anyway - for me a clitoral orgasm is a high up feeling, a plateau I have to rise to, there is a distinct build up and I (or he) can edge it - and once there moving on and off the peak is easy. A vaginal orgasm is a much deeper feeling and it feels more like it comes to me than I go to it, like waves lapping up the beach as the tide rises. And while I can bliss out and enjoy the clitoral orgasm it doesn't overwhelm me in the same way a vaginal orgasm does.

    To answer your questions, the vaginal orgasm with penetration is a bit different (for me) from a g-spot orgasm (which is like a combination of the best bits of the two and really blows me away). Because the orgasm feeling is different I wouldn't say a vaginal orgasm (for me) is the same only without the external stimulation. Also I don't consider it a vaginal orgasm just because there is penetration, as sometimes there isn't - it's rare but I can achieve the vaginal orgasm feelings without penetration (or clitoral stimulation). As to what you should be looking for - well, I don't know. All bodies are different. You obviously enjoy the sensation of your man fucking you - does that sensation heighten as you fuck? Does it level off at a point? Does your vagina ever contract involuntarily on him without you or him stimulating your clit at the same time?

    Here's something you can try if you want to experiment - it's how I gave myself my first vaginal orgasm through masturbation. Get a dildo that's a comfortable girth but longer than you can take. Kneel with the dildo penetrating you, don't bounce on it, just have it inside you - I find it most comfy if I start leaning forward with one hand supporting me - that way you can also brace the dildo with your feet and push back on it til it's as far as it comforatably goes. Masturbate with your free hand - as you get more turned on you should be able to push back further on to the dildo. When you feel you could come from the clitoral stimulation sit up and lean back, bearing down on the dildo, stay with that for a while but don't let yourself cum (clitoral orgasm, I mean). When I can't edge any longer I take my fingers off my clit and have quite a profound vaginal orgasm just rocking my hips very slightly and bearing down on the dildo. And as that ebbs off it's nice to reapply fingers to clit and add a clitoral orgasm on the end :smile:

    That's me though - no guarantees anyone else will get the same out of it, of course. Still - it's fun way to kill 15 minutes :biggrin:
     
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    :popcorn: This thread is like a window into a woman's mind, awesome!!!

    MB's great post reminds me of an experiment I did with my ex. Like MB mentioned about edging, I was licking her clit and just before the orgasm, she told me to stop, so I waited a few seconds and started licking until she said stop again etc. etc. for around 10 times, I made sure that my cock was rock hard and when I entered her, I pressed it as hard as possible into her epicenter (to find it, press firmly where the dome of the cervix creates a corner with the vagina wall at the side closest to the vagina opening) I didn't use a long thrusting action but shorter strokes which didn't take my glans out of this corner since I had learned that the nerve endings of the epicenter aren't close to the surface of the skin like a clit. She had a HUGE orgasm, then many others followed.

    Another effect I noticed after doing this was the tighter feeling inside her vagina - if us guys do edging, the softer underside and glans of our penis becomes larger than usual. I think that a similar thing would happen inside the vagina.
     
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    I've seen your xtube "sex" videos rouge...

    Let's just say that any sex that slow really can't get a woman off.

    It takes quick sex to get a woman off vaginally.
     
  15. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    I've had fast thrusting, it can feel good...but not as good as the pace we go normally. In fact, i try to tell him to go slower because it feels much better to me.

    i've had sex at all paces from several different kind of cocks....no orgasm from it.
     
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    My first reaction to this was to think you have either had very few women or the majority of them have been faking... or both.

    I suppose I could be wrong - but just getting fucked quickly does very little for me. It's far more to do with angle and depth of penetration for me.

    With 'jackrabbit' sex I think a lot of young (read inexperienced) women respond to it vocally because that's what is expected (see porn etc.) but I've yet to have a female friend tell that that's what makes her orgasm vaginally.
     
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    StraightCock4Her "I've seen your xtube "sex" videos rouge...

    Let's just say that any sex that slow really can't get a woman off." <Not true

    "It takes quick sex to get a woman off vaginally." <This isn't true either.
     
  18. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    Thanks guys for reiterating my thoughts, i find slow sex to be a real treat. I feel every movement so much better. Jack rabbit sex makes me numb. I like slow shallow and deep pounding.
     
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    You can say I don't have alot of experience all you like but:

    None of the women I've ever been with have ever gotten off vaginally from sex where they were just sitting on my dick.

    Angle does mean alot, I agree, but speed and and a semblence of rythm are just as important. This was my point.

    My post assumed she already knew angle is important, as I know she already does.

    You can like it slow all you want but that doesn't mean it's gonna get you off vaginally, like it hasn't ever in the past. Orgasms are about powerful and quick thrusts with alot of contact. I can only tell you what's worked for me and the girls I've been with in the past.

    Try new things, otherwise you won't ever get off vaginally and you'll be sitting on his dick gently thrusting and wondering why you aren't getting off for the rest of your life. Really, it's the guy's job to take control and get the lady off. It takes longer in my experience and is harder for a woman to get off vaginally while she's on top.

    And to those of you who doubt my experience- you're wrong. Perhaps I could teach you a thing or two if you actually listened instead of jumping to conclusions.
     
  20. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    Maybe some of us who don't orgasm from sex just refuse to fake it to make you guys stop thrusting our brains out?

    You don't have a vagina, you are only basing your knowledge on what has worked for you and you are still telling the women who know what works for them that it doesnt work because it didnt happen that way for you.

    I find it strange that there are a few men who swear they can make any woman orgasm, because it tells me they have very little understanding of how orgasm occurs on a different psychiophysiological level for women. The proof is in MRI's on the brain during orgasm, that women arent made to orgasm as easily from men. And why are people so surprised to find out that they don't always orgasm from sex because the clitoris glans where the nerves are most concentrated are located on the OUTSIDE of our vagina.

    I also find it interesting that every one of the women who answered put Clitoral orgasms at the top of their list of the most easiest way to orgasm and the most enjoyable physically (where as vaginal orgasms have a real emotional significance with their partner) and yet people are still trying to make us orgasm like this from fucking our brains out.

    If what you said was true for most women, then they'd be orgasming like crazy from most professional porn because you see that jackrabit relentless fucking in porn all the time.

    I worry about how much men are being fooled in the bedroom because MB is right that the crescendo of sound is observed by both parties when thrusting gets faster. It doesnt necessarily mean its an orgasm.
     
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