female reaction to male sexuality

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  1. D_Anton_Pavlovich_Jerkhov

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    I think that many of the lpsg female members, after belonging here for a while and reading all those posts, may have realized that many men, if not most, who are considered to be straight, can under certain circumstances experience attraction, lust, feelings, whatever, for the same gender.

    I wonder how you have reacted to this realization, in other words, to finding out that a man's sexuality can also be a very complex thing, that it is not really clear-cut:

    1. with surprise?
    2. with repulse?
    3. with resignation? or acceptance?
    4. with skepticism? (that is, you haven't realized anything; you view a man's sexuality in the same way you did before joining lpsg)
    5. with some other feeling?
     
  2. ManlyBanisters

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    I was 33 when I got here. I've had many male friends of myriad sexualities.

    LPSG was not the source of any realisation for me.

    In fact I don't recall a time when I wasn't aware that the guy playing with my tits could be fantasising about sucking cock. Never had a problem with that.
     
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    Someone figuring out their sexuality doesn't bother me at all. In fact, if they learn more about their sexuality and themselves, it's a good thing.

    Although I've been here for months, I do still wonder why some members hide their sexuality, especially if their whole profile is private. It's like nobody's going to know them anyway so why hide their sexual preference? But this part only bothers me a bit.
     
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    With acceptance and even arousal in some cases. Mostly just acceptance though.
    (But I was accepting of this before I came here, too.)
     
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    What?

    Since when has it been the case that the amount of men who can be physically attracted to other men has been anywhere CLOSE to half of the male population?
     
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    Darpon, I don't know anything about the statistics, but I do know that sexuality is very fluid. Having worked in phone fantasy for a long time now, I have seen a particular pattern over, and over. Straight man is the boss and leader of all he sees at work. He wants to be relieved of any responsibility for anything in his sexual life. Partly this is so he can have a down time. Partly this is so he can explore taboos without having to admit to himself that he likes them, and without accepting any culpability, of feeling any guilt. After all, a woman MADE him think about sucking cock. A woman MADE him think about wearing panties. A woman MADE him think about fingers and dildos in his anus. He's straight. He isn't ever inclined to these homo tendencies. He certainly isn't about to let his underlings at work, his wife, his mistress, or any of his friends know about any of this.

    Over and over. My perception may be skewed, or biased, but my experience has led me to believe that most men under certain circumstances, but not under others, will experience a little bit of lust or arousal for other men.

    With the help of alcohol, and mutual attraction (to me) I have convinced straight men to make out at parties. Years later, one such man asked me the other day, "What was up with that? I can't believe I kissed that guy! He was so gross, all tongue and everything. But, at the moment, it was kind of hot. I'm still confused by it." I kissed that guy too, and he was awful. I wonder how different it might have been if that guy had been a really sexy kisser. Would we have had a threesome? Could I have gotten them both to suck a little cock. (Not that either of them had a little cock. LOL)

    Anyway, when men are more open to a wider variety of sexual possibilities, I find it more arousing than when they are more limited. Also, I can relate to them better because I am sometimes attracted to some women. I'm not exactly straight, I'm not exactly bisexual (I'm damn' sure not a lesbian the way I lust after fat cocks). I'm heteroflexible. I prefer to have sex with other heteroflexibles.
     
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    Look at porn statistics for your proof. 67884 total titles on AEBN, 3833 of which are Lesbian. If "100% straight" guys were not even slightly turned on by hard cocks they would not spend billions of dollars and hours staring at them fucking, while jacking off and cumming! This might not fit your definition of "attraction" but I suggest you broaden it. Solo female porn is even smaller a market niche than girl/girl, so for straight porn fiends a hard cock is pretty much a sine qua non seems to me.
     
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    Isn't this also about seeing the action itself rather than the anatomy?Just because guys watch MF porn doesn't mean they are gay, or even that the cock on screen is the main focus of their attention.....Perhaps only a guy could think that way, gay or straight? You know, the cock is the centre of the universe according to men..

    I'm a straight woman, I watch hetero porn. I watch it to see fucking, sucking, fingering, licking.
    It's not about the individual body parts, it's about seeing sex and the things I like to do, and have done to me, during sex.

    To answer the OP - I'm an adult woman. I know that male sexuality is complex. So is female sexuality. Let's all agree - human sexuality is complex.
     
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    i am fairly new here, and i can pretty much nothing about the sexuality of anyone surprises me. life experience has taught me that very few things are either black and white, muddy gray is where it's at
     
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    As far as I can tell, the whole "fluid sexuality" thing is bullshit, though I'll say that I could be entirely wrong in its meaning. The only time I've ever people say that sexuality is fluid is when talking about straight people fooling around with other people of the same gender. I've heard it used MULTIPLE times by gay people trying to convince straight people to fool around with them. Never, EVER have I heard it used to talk about gay people fooling around with people of the opposite gender. I usually hear the phrase "fluid and malleable." If it's so malleable, why don't gay people bend or flow their sexuality to straight? Does that sound offensive? Well it's offensive to me when gay guys try to tell me that, because "sexuality is fluid," I should let them suck my cock.
    This little part confuses the hell out of me. What?
    I believe it might be skewed. If guys often come to you to talk about homosexual ideas, you're mostly getting the guys who who have homosexual ideas. But I could be wrong.
    So you've made people with impaired judgment do things they don't want to do. Good fucking job.
    Again, impaired judgment. It makes sense that he'd be confused by it, seeing as he never did it before or ever again. The fact that you don't feel incredibly guilty over what you made him do appalls the shit out of me.
    I don't know why there are any girls who aren't just lesbians. Girls are fucking hot! :biggrin1:
    So you're saying that most porn involves a guy and a girl? Well duh, guys like to watch sex that they'd like to have. You're not making any point at all here. What's this "proof" supposed to prove, exactly?
    They aren't staring at the cocks.
    ...Why?
    Your argument really irritates me. You think that, if you're completely straight, lesbian/solo porn is the only porn you should enjoy? It makes sense that you're 90% gay. Even if you watch MF porn for the cocks, it doesn't mean everyone does. A penis is a tool in porn. I like seeing girls sucking and riding cock, and I think it's incredibly sexy when a girl gets cum all over her. It has nothing to do with the cock itself, only the girl's interaction with it.
     
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    Maybe Ron White puts it in a way that Darpon will understand.

    "My brother's a big homophobe, and he's always sayin things like 'Man, the queers are ruinin' this country!' Look, the next time you have a thought, stop. Everyone's a little bit gay."

    "Man I'm not gay, I'm one hundred percent straight!"

    "No, you're not, and I'll prove it."

    "Shoot. Prove it."

    "Alright. Well, do you like porn?"

    "Hell, man, I love porn! You know that."

    "Well, do you only watch porn with two girls doin' it?"

    "Nah, man. I like to watch a man and a woman makin' love."

    "Well, do you like to watch porn where the man has a tiny, half-flaccid penis?"

    "No way! I like to see big, hard, throbbing co... Oh. I did not know that about myself."
     
  12. Darpon

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    Again, the penis is a tool in porn.

    A man who likes to build things cares about the things he builds, not his tools. But he still wants good tools.

    It's sexier to see a woman sucking and fucking a massive cock than a tiny one. Seeing her pussy being stretched and all that.
     
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    most fems fantasize about being with another.... some act on it some dont... so if a man wants to be with another...doesnt bother me none... matter of fact it turns me on so much... I demand that my male subs are with another male.... and they love.. I mean LOVE pleasing me... by themselves, or with another male, etc... its ALL good lol To think we are offended or jealous is just silly... to each their own. A few at first perhaps think it odd...but after they thank me for intro them lol... and so they are pleased...I am pleased.... Weve come to far in society to hold back on anything we want to explore ...man on man..woman on woman or multiple phuck partners....
     
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    I think everybody has a certain attraction to their own gender so it makes me skeptical when anyone claims to be 100% straight. I also think it's something everyone should experiment with at least once in their life.
     
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    I don't think there is any 'should' about it. I don't think there is any 'should' about any aspect of sex or sexuality.

    There are more than one or two gay men out there who have never had a sexual experience with a woman and have never felt the desire to try it. Do you think they 'should' experiment with women?

    Some think sexuality is nature, some think nurture, some (like me) think it is a combination of both - but whether a person's desires come from experience, from biology, from somewhere else no one but that person can decide what he/she wants and what he/she should do about that.
     
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    I tend to be pretty accepting about people's choices surrounding sexuality though I may not understand it all. One of my greatest fantasies is to watch two *straight* men have their first experience sucking each other's cocks. Have no idea why this seems like such a turn on to me.

    And, I'm 47 and have never been with another woman but...I'd love the opportunity to experiment with it - to see what its like. I don't think this makes me gay or even bi, I think it makes me just curious. I'm not sure why there's a even a need to put a lable on it.

    I also happen to love watching guy on guy porn. For some reason this is more enticing to me than male/female porn.
     
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    Acceptance I guess. Really, I don't care. Whatever floats another person's boat as long as no one is harmed. Depending on the men, I can find it arousing to see two guys together. I don't mean their physical attractiveness, but rather, if it's someone I know and care about and I know he is fulfilling his fantasy, I feel good about it too.

    A.E.- "heteroflexible" - I LOVE that!! Mind if I borrow it?
     
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    i am 100% straight. meaning i have no sexual attraction to women. i of course am able to determine if a woman is attractive and admire certain style, but at no point do i want to touch another woman in a sexual way, but i could be broken
     
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    Hence my point of nobody being 100% straight. I think we all have a natural curiosity of the unknown, and for a lot of the unknown is being intimate with someone of the same sex. It's just for some the curiosity is strong and some choose never to act upon it.
     
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