...The only time I've ever people say that sexuality is fluid is when talking about straight people fooling around with other people of the same gender.
My use of and familiarity with this phrase is broader than yours.
...I usually hear the phrase "fluid and malleable." If it's so malleable, why don't gay people bend or flow their sexuality to straight?
I did not use the word malleable, I usually don't hear or read the two used together to describe sexuality (though I have read it here that way more than once) and I don't believe sexuality is something which can be changed beyond a certain stage of development.
This little part confuses the hell out of me. What?
Ask a real question, get a useful explanation. I'm posting from a phone this week, and can't see what text you have quoted. However, I think you're asking about the part of my post in which I describe what I believe are the motives of men who have homoerotic fantasies upon which they can only act with the help of a woman. Frankly, I don't see what there is to not understand. You'll need to elaborate.
I believe it might be skewed. If guys often come to you to talk about homosexual ideas, you're mostly getting the guys who who have homosexual ideas. But I could be wrong.
It is equally possible that I'm just getting regular, high-powered (my clients are pre-screened, and must be wealthy to use our exclusive service) stressed-out, overworked, type-A men who just feel safe enough with me, and with their level of anonymity to really be themselves and explore every "kinky" thought they've ever had.
So you've made people with impaired judgment do things they don't want to do. Good fucking job.Again, impaired judgment. It makes sense that he'd be confused by it, seeing as he never did it before or ever again. The fact that you don't feel incredibly guilty over what you made him do appalls the shit out of me.
Why should I feel guilty, or remotely responsible for the actions of grown men? I assume that other adults with whom I associate don't get irresponsibly drunk at parties with strangers. I also assume that if two men who have 5-6" in height on me, and outweigh me by over 100 pounds drink the same amount of liquor as I do, they'll be far less intoxicated than I. So you can keep your self-righteousness. Too much alcohol is one thing, but you can't deny that a moderate quantity promotes relaxation, reduced inhibition, and makes many people more comfortable in otherwise awkward social scenarios. That's probably the main reason people even drink at parties. I never made any ultimatums, threats, or promises. I didn't force anyone to do anything, and I believe everyone was sober enough to be able to give or deny consent. My date was initially unwilling. However, I didn't make him do anything; I convinced him. A person who is convinced is by definition doing what they want. And anyway, he doesn't have any regrets.
They both were horny. One was my date (and had been my boyfriend for two or three years at that point). The other was attracted to both of us, though I don't think the one with me had picked up on that vibe when I first joked about them looking like erotic bookends. Anyway, we had a really sexy, flirty conversation, and I talked them into kissing. My date was initially genuinely unwilling. The other guy was just being coy to avoid appearing gay. I don't remember what I said to them, but I did make out pretty heavily with both of them, and the other guy's female date (all with my date's blessing) before they managed to exchange a few very hot kisses. To be clear: my friend does not regret kissing that dude, but he does feel confused about how much it both aroused and repulsed him. Though he's never since been in a situation where he wanted to have that kind of male contact again, the chief source of his revulsion wasn't the guy's maleness, but rather his pushy, wet, too-much-tongue kissing style. In fact, he still thinks of that as a very sexy (if confusing) memory. He said he was flattered that a guy like that guy was attracted to him, even if it wasn't mutual. He stresses that he never felt a direct attraction to the other guy, but that kissing him added to his horniness, and he loved the effect their kisses seemed to have on me.
While my friend (and I) would consider himself to be straight, the fact remains that there has been at least one situation in which he had homoerotic contact, and in the moment, he felt lust. That experience is what gave me the confidence to try to get a few other guys to kiss on other occasions. Dudes want to arouse women they want to fuck. Sometimes I have gotten lucky, other times not. I still think sometimes, if a situation is juuuuust right, people will be open to things which might otherwise be out of the question. Maybe you have no situation, or maybe -just maybe- you simply have not been in that situation.
I don't know why there are any girls who aren't just lesbians. Girls are fucking hot!
This is a gross overgeneralization. Anyway. When I say sexuality is fluid, I mean it isn't black and white. I mean it's more like water; it is flexible, undefineable, and not always present in the same form if the situation changes.
. Here men seem stupid enough to express themselves as they wouldn't ordinarily do in real life. I think only other guys really knew what men are like before coming here. This place should be an eye opener for most women.
