Why is it wrong for women to sleep around and acceptable for men. Why even in 2011 do we still have this outdated notion?
Why is it wrong for women to sleep around and acceptable for men. Why even in 2011 do we still have this outdated notion?
to petite: No wonder you're so outspoken and obviously well-read - 5,000 books, wow! I'd love to see what's in your library.
Lets start a movement to banish this idiotic notion
I got confused by the first sentence. Do you mean white men aren't preoccupied with that notion? Or that white women don't get treated like that? I've seen white women treated like that by white men.I find it interesting that when I compare those situtaions with the white (American or European), there's not the same preoccupation. But then, the assumption among black women is that black guys will treat a white women better than a black woman.
These days, if I started dating a guy who was too interested in my sexual past, that would be a red flag.
Maybe it's because I have about 5,000 books in my house. :tongue:
An estimate based upon counting all the books in one bookcase, then multiplying by the number of bookcases I own. I have not read them all! If I read one a week for 20 years, that would be just over 1,000 books. I literally own more books than I can reasonably be expected to read in my lifetime. :tongue:Is that a literal 5,000 books or a figurative 5,000 books? Either way - damn that's a lot of books! I only have 100ish (I'm guessing) and they are all childrens books haha.
I'm glad to hear it! :smile:Getting back to the topic of the thread. I am a young man and I don't believe the double standard. The way I see it, if a woman or man wants to be promiscuous then why not? As long as they keep things safe and controlled then I don't see any harm in it. Be yourself, no matter what they say!
I have nothing new to add. This topic has been debated to death. However, I'll say again for the record that this is not a notion that I agree with or suscribe to.
Why are young men most likely to have the most old-fashioned values, at least when it comes to oppressing female sexuality?
Why is it wrong for women to sleep around and acceptable for men. Why even in 2011 do we still have this outdated notion?
An estimate based upon counting all the books in one bookcase, then multiplying by the number of bookcases I own. I have not read them all! If I read one a week for 20 years, that would be just over 1,000 books. I literally own more books than I can reasonably be expected to read in my lifetime. :tongue:
I'm glad to hear it!
When I was ~20, the thing that made my blood boil was the fact that most of the young women accused of being promiscuous weren't really promiscuous at all and had actually slept with very few people, but due to some sort of twisted double standard law, just by sleeping with the wrong guy a woman could be branded a "slut" in a sort of witch hunt that men were never subjected to. I never experienced it, mainly because I was so afraid of becoming the next victim that I was fanatically private about my sex life and extremely careful, but I saw it happen to other young women and the mere fact that I was afraid of that happening to me still makes me mad.
Why is it wrong for women to sleep around and acceptable for men. Why even in 2011 do we still have this outdated notion?
Conversely, why is everyone ok with female bisexuality, but a great many men and women are offput by male bisexuality (male homophobes, and females who worry that their "straight" guy is really gay)?
Haha, I have to confess that I'm relieved to hear that. I felt like a completely uneducated fool, assuming you had read them all!
Yes, you're right to be angry. These stupid beliefs are still around but they are slowly fading and personally, I feel that they are practically gone. Anyone with common sense and any amount of reasonable thought can see how ridiculous it is to brand a person a 'slut' for sleeping with a few partners. The times they are a-changin' - thankfully.
Conversely, why is everyone ok with female bisexuality, but a great many men and women are offput by male bisexuality (male homophobes, and females who worry that their "straight" guy is really gay)?
Extarordinary question. You're right. There is a huge double standard there.
I think the reason why female bisexuality or lesbianism isn't as threatening as male bisexuality or homosexuality is because it isn't taken as seriously. I think a lot of men who think like that would consider a lesbian who has never had sex with a man to be a virgin waiting for the right guy to come along.
Plus the fact that men who are the most homophobic are most likely simply closeted gay men themselves, so lesbians don't make them feel those funny feelings that make them get so angry.