Fertility Specialist Anxieties.

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  1. large1988

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    After five years of trying to have a baby, my wife's OB/GYN has sent us to a "reproductive endocrynologist"...(fancy name for fertility specialist.) We had our first appointment and a plan is in place. She will have some tests and then we go back when she's at her peak ovulation.

    Early in the morning AT THEIR OFFICE I will have to provide a "specimen", have the sperm "washed" (separated) and then inserted into my wife.

    Sorry...get to the point.

    For some reason, I'm nervous about "rubbing one off" in the doctor's office. Don't know if it's because I know that several people will know what I'm doing and will be waiting for me to "produce" something for them to use or what.

    We live an hour away from this hospital...so no such luck doing it at home and taking it with me.

    Anyone else out there go through the same thing with the same anxietites???
     
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    We went through infertility treatments, a lot of these doctors have magazines or movie materials to help with this. Also, they should have no problem letting your wife assist with the sample collection. How about bringing some magazine yourself just incase they dont provide.

    I had no problem assisting my husband, how about your wife giving you oral up until the point of ejaculation? Thats why i did. If you have any questions or if either of you need to talk to someone, you can pop me up a PM. Hope this helps!
     
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    Gee Large -
    I have not had to do this. But can you get a viagra to take before hand? I read a study that indicated that men who have taken a viagra before trying to get a woman pregnant produce sperm that are stronger swimmers. So you could have an easier time of getting hard and cumming and that the little guys will make it all the way in.
    Sorry I can't be of more help. Is there any chance you could somehow turn this into some kind of "I might get caught jacking off" kind of situation? You get porn, don't you? If not, bring your own that works for you.
    I really hope it works and that you will report back that you are going to be happy, expectant parents. : ) GOOD LUCK!
     
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    Red...I thought about my wife "helping" me out, but there wouldn't be any oral involved. The instructions....yes, they actually give you instructions.....actually said no saliva or lubrication will be involved. It was the same way when I had to provide a sample for our doc here in town. Maybe she can help in other ways.

    Goodwood...I don't have to worry about the swimmers....they're fine and the doc will be placing them where they shouldn't have to swim very far. I guess I could bring my own porn and use the "getting caught" to my advantage.

    Thanks for the advice...any other is welcome. Guess I'm just stressed from the whole situation.
     
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    Large, its understandable. I can't even orgasm if my neighbor is mowing the lawn next door. Let alone in a sterile doctors office!

    Good luck with the IUI (intra uterine insemination), oh yes, i know all the acronyms, i used to run an infertility website. Ahhhh those were the days!
     
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    Yep...IUI. Hope it works.

    So, you were able to give your husband oral to help out?
     
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    Ive done it... I just went into the bathroom and rubbed out a sample. I didnt have an issue with it because its what everyone else was doing... as for the people working there they see it all day everyday. I did have a pesty spot on the front of my kakis afterward.
     
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    I wish you well and you are to be respected for taking this step. This is a normal procedure for many couples who desire children.

    You are to be congratulated for your mature attitude and willingness to be a part of the solution.

    Remember when you were a teen ager. You could rub one out anywhere at anytime.
     
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    Update....month #1 wasn't "productive." We're not pregnant. Once my wife took the Clomid and had an ultrasound to see the size of the follicles, she had to give herself a shot and then we opted for "timed intercourse." Basically, having sex to the doctor's schedule.

    This month...same thing....Clomid, ultrasound, shot....but this time I'm going to provide a sample at the office and they'll do the "sperm wash" and then do the intrauterine insemination. Sounds real sexy, eh?

    Still a little concerned about rubbing one out in the office, but I think I'll make it. Thanks for the advice/ support. Hopefully I'll be reporting some good news this time.
     
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    We went through many of those clomid pills and ultrasounds to check the follicles...it worked for us. Hang in there and see if you can get your wife to rub one out for ya!
     
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    Try and remember that for the doctors and nurses there it's so everyday they don't even think about you jerking off.
     
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