Fetish Gear

Discussion in 'Underwear, Clothing, and Appearance Issues' started by Bbucko, Sep 18, 2009.

  1. Bbucko

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    I, personally, am not really into gear very much. I prefer my men naked and much prefer nudity for myself as well. But a lot of folks (men and women) really derive sexual excitation from certain types of clothing/adornment.

    These can be either leather, rubber, steel or different combinations of the three. I've seen grown men on an unbearably humid tropical South Florida night dressed in all kinds of collars, harnesses, vests, chaps, hip waders, neoprene butcher aprons and latex catsuits at a local leather/fetish bar I used to work in (still do occasionally). All I've got is a couple of leather gauntlets (wristbands) that I'll wear on certain specific nights when they're required, and a nice pair of high-laced boots.

    I also have a nice leather paddle with a belt-loop clip, but consider that more of a toy than real gear.

    What do you wear? What do you find sexy?
     
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    My speedos, thongs, and posing straps and suits (as per one of my albums). Full and 1/2 harness with lots of metal (goes well with my 5- and 7-gates of hell and varied cockrings (see another album), lots of white socks and an assortment of work boots.
     
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    My man (when we were together) seemed to be hugely aroused by the thought of "collaring" me.
    I'm not sure what the full meaning of that was.
     
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    A collar is probably one of the most intimate and meaningful items of gear someone can give to someone else. In a real master/slave relationship, it suggests total control over the person being gifted, or at least a desire to control totally.

    I hope it came with a leash :rolleyes:
     
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    Other than piercings and leather bracelets/cuffs, no fetish gear for me. Although, when I dated women, I would occasionally wear hankies. I'm sure no one does that anymore.

    For my men, I have been known to make a few wear a CB6000 or a cock ring (leather harness style), but I usually find more inventive ways to play with their junk. :wink:

    God, you're sexy.

    I'm into spanking and think your hot ass should not be teasing people by wearing a paddle - unless you're planning to use it.
     
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    1) I have never really taken part in the pansexual fetish scene, so my experience with women in this area is very limited (see below @ 4). I never knew that lesbians ever used the hanky code, but I do know that certain colors derived from the hanky code are used in lesbian, straight and pansexual scenes are in use for fetish gear: blue, red, yellow, etc.

    2) Cockrings have their adherents; I'm not one of them. They have always seemed cumbersome to me to wear, and metal ones (much like PAs) risk tooth injury. Besides, as a Dom, I pretty much de-emphasize the Sub's penis to the benefit of his ass. Ballstretchers are cool; a Sub who wears one is usually inviting CBT, which I find highly arousing with the right guy.

    3) Thanks, baby.

    4) When I worked in a local gay fetish bar, one of my duties was Paddlemaster, which I took very seriously. I remember one night we had a mixed-sex group requesting my services, which I agreed to without any issue. But as it was a gay establishment and not a pansexual one, most of the patrons and the bartender objected to seeing a woman tied to the St Andrew's Cross and it was both the first and last time I attempted it. The flogger openly refused to participate, which was his right.

    I'll take a light/moderate amount of paddling or flogging by an experienced master to prove my cred if required, though it rarely is. And when I wear my paddle, I'm never joking or teasing; I always wear it on my left where it belongs :cool:
     
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    Wearing my harness (seen in my avatar) can be a huge turn on during either play or masturbation. The combination of leather, metal and my own sweat can be intoxicating. I also like the fact the the harness can be something to hold onto if I am fucking you or something to yank if you are fucking me.

    Bubba once dressed like a drill Sargent when we played and I thought that was waaaay hot. I am also intrigued by the idea of him in fire fighter gear-namely the suspenders, tee and boots.
     
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    Bubba could really ROCK fire-fighter gear. It very much suits his style.

    I dated a guy briefly about two years ago who would morph from shyboy to powerbottom when in his harness. It was a funny thing to see.
     
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    I really like my V-stretcher. I'd like to find a Gates of Hell that fits but need to get one custom made and that's too expense (as Mr. Woo would say). I'd like a harness too but I'm still too big for one and, again, currently too expense.

    I don't like spanking at all. I much prefer flogging. I greatly enjoy CBT. The really experienced guys I've played with think I'm a good switch because I tend to get creative.

    Other than the leather, I don't get off on the doggy stuff or rubber or masks. I like those things which enhance feeling and the person I'm with more than a particular fantasy.
     
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    We have a shop down here that sells all-metal harnesses made of links that are much more reasonable that the leather ones. They also customize every purchase as required (everything is made in-house). The good thing about the all-metal harnesses is that they can be modified at any point with a minimum of fuss and expense, so they can shrink as you do :biggrin1:

    We have a couple of expert floggingmasters who work on Monday nights, when those things happen. They're both good friends of mine and both extremely reliable to deliver the goods.

    CBT either really works or really doesn't. Stretchers really get 'em attention, for sure. Like I said above, I see them as an invite to at least explore someone's limits. Sometimes it's really quick, sometimes less so. But as I have extremely sensitive nuts and can't tolerate more than a good grip and stretch, it's one of the few limits I respect with no pushing. As with all sexual acts, CBT can be experienced as a top, a bottom or as a switch; I just prefer to be the top (surprise surprise).

    I really like the way StraightHell explores CBT, but then again I really like StraightHell period.

    I'm with you on the hoods and masks. I want to see whom I'm fucking and I want to see the reactions on his face at every step. Similarly with porn: if I can't see the faces of the participants as well as their bodies and genitals, I'd rather not bother. And I never follow up on an online hook-up that doesn't have at least one face pic.

    The doggy stuff is humiliation roleplay. When I'm doing humiliation, I prefer it to transcend roleplay and have that electric quality of the actual and in the moment. I've found that guys looking for a really dominant top prefer the real thing, too.
     
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    I'm not that experienced though I'd like to be. I'm not currently capable of delving into extreme stuff due to being ill. I'm glad I have done it though. I really enjoy BDSM and hope I can do more in the future.
     
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    The codes were created long ago when it was not safe to openly approach each other, so men would wear them as a means of openly, yet secretly, communicating their desires.

    The colors all have meaning which changes depending on the pocket (right or left) upon which they are worn. Left is Top/Dom, right is Bottom/Sub. People can and do extend this to leather/metal armbands, suspenders, and tribal tattoos.

    Double D-- follow these links to learn about Hanky Codes:

    Handkerchief code - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

    Gay Hanky Codes
     
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