Fetishes etc

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  1. Lordpendragon

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    I was just wondering how you get into a fetish. Did someone introduce you to something and it clicked, did you always know, did you discover it by your own experiences? Is a fetish for life, or do they come and go?

    You don't have to divulge what your fetish is. I am just intrigued as to how they come about.
     
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    hrm.. I know that I used to like bondage porn, but I think it was before that. I used to horseback ride, and use a leather crop... the power it held with the animal was pretty cool. But the power it holds with people is even better. I wouldn't say it is a life style though.
     
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    Dr. Drew (is he one of my fetishes?) once said fetishes are formed at impressionable ages, sometimes as early as 4 or 5, for no apparent reason. This was after a teenager asked why he got turned on by guys wearing gym socks.
     
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    For me (in both cases) - introduced to it and it just clicked - even though I in both cases suspected it and kind of knew from the outset...
     
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    I'm the type of guy who will try most anything... twice. So sometimes new pleasures stick. But I believe my life-long fetish is related to growing up in a hyper str8 military household, combined with early crushes on men in the underwear section of Sears catalogues.
     
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    ever since i started having urges, i've thought about being dominated.

    the desire strengthens ever year that passes.

    the masochism is much the same.

    an imaginative partner is a killer! the first time my pussy got spanked...omg...just amazing.

    i think i'm kinked by nature, then twisted by nurture.

    lots of people would assume it's abuse related but the seeds of those desires predate it by years.
     
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    Damn that is the most poetic line I've ever heard about Rough sex fetishes:biggrin1:

    I don't really know if it's a fetish or not, but I can't get enough of these squirting girls...Something about watching them just totally lose all abandon and piggishly wallow in their hedonistic pleasure juices...(how's that for sex prose:cool:)
     
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    I was introduced to rubber.latex by a very sexy Italian man that I met on Vacation in Ft. Lauderdale in 2000. I ditched my friends three days into a weeklong vacation and spent the rest of the weekend with him in Palm Beach in Rubber. Now were great friends, see each other several times a year in Florida and Milano and he's really changed my life for the better in so many ways! He also introduced me to boots, sneakers and watersports and a few other things as well.

    But most of all we's the one who gave me my nickname, RubberWilli.

    He is Massimo but his friends call him RubberMax. He decided I should be RubberWilli. (You really have to hear an Italian man say that to get the full effect. It makes me just want to melt everytime!)

    I think a fetish can be for life, but it comes and goes to some extent. I know guys who were huge fetishists until they started working in an industry were their fetish became work and not fun. Then it took them some time to get away from it for the fetishy aspect to return to them!
     
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    OH...and a true fetish, as I've explained elsewhere, is where an inanimate object replaces a person or stands in for a person. IE: Shoe festishist in the classic sense lust after the shoes of a specific person, not just a specific style of shoe.

    And for me I'm not really that kind of a fetishist, although I have jacked off on someones boots before when they weren't around. It was really more of a "power of boots" thing than anything else, but they did definately stand in for him and get me all horned up!
     
  10. Lordpendragon

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    That's very transcendental RW. It is very interesting that you say it needs to be an object. Does that mean if it isn't objectified, it's just a preference/liking for something rather than a fetish?
     
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    Led into all my fetishes by an older wiser fellow
     
  12. dolfette

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    somnophilia.

    someone should post about that fetish...just because i'll get off on it.
     
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  14. Lordpendragon

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    Like my prediliction for women with real unashamed pussy NJ. :smile:

    I would have talked about somnophilia, but frankly
     
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    I was getting a haircut when the barber began talking about a certain medical procedure he had to have done.. I knew instantly I'd want to do it, and did. It was different but nice. The desire comes and goes to do it.
     
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    I think I realized fetishes by being exposed to certian things, (not exactly the fetish itself, but close enough to make a connection) and enjoying the feeling. For example, I really like getting my hair pulled. I knew before I tried because I always get wet when I got to the hairdressers. Or, I more directly just get exposed to the stimuli and get hot, and hense realize the fetish. Like guitars or stick shifts or something.
     
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    The closet i come to having a fetish is my love of watching a man masturbate.

    I assume it started by being curious of the unknown. Benig a teenager and wanting to see how a penis worked, looked, acted, re-acted to not only my touch but the touch of its owner. Then it become less about the penis and more about the interaction between the man and his penis.. the sounds, the look on his face, the breathing, and finally that sigh of satisfaction and the smile on his face when he has cum. And the fact that he would let himself be so vaunerable by letting me watch him during one of his most vaunerable and intimate moments.



    Yes, i analyse to much
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    like dolfette, my fetish is to be dominated, and i also like to be spanked, slapped across the face, bitten, yelled at, and have my hair pulled.

    biggest fantasy? a room full of blonde-haired, blue-eyed, block-headed russian men in uniform screaming at me and threatening to pistol-whip me. gets me completely wet every time i think about it.

    i'm in control every damned second of my day, and i've noticed that the more successful i've become IRL the more i want to be submissive in the bedroom. the worst sexual experience i can think of is someone looking at me and asking, "so. what do YOU want to do?" ugh.
     
  19. dolfette

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    don't forget pussy spanking.
    *sigh*
    pussy spanking is so good!
     
  20. Lordpendragon

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    I relate to what you are saying lightninggirl - but I would find it hard to slap someone across the face. I'd spank your arse, smack your cat, take your nipples to their point of tolerance and maybe a little beyond, but slap you in the face - I would find that hard, and I used to box - maybe that's why.
     
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