Finally got my girl into soft SPH

[nick-nick]

I've been with my girfriend for 10 years now, and i always had that fetish, having a girl laughing at my cock. The issue was, beside the weird side for a girl, that she never had another lover in her life so basically, my cock is the only one she saw. And beleive it or not she thinks my cock is big.
So it was kind of hard to introduce soft SPH to our relation. Until...2 days ago, she was jerking me slowly and she said "mmmm what a big cock" i replied :
"baby, you always say that, why won't you say the opposite for a change ?" And she got in the game and said " mmm what a small cock" while she was jerking me .... For me, this moment was so hot. But she asked immediately what did it do to me. I said that i kind of liked it, cause it's like she had a dominatrice kinky side, with a bigger cock appetite, and i found that very sexy and arrousing. She seemed surprised and amused but thanks god not totally weird. She said " you do know that i don't think your cock is small bb, but if that turns you on, i like it. "
I thought wow, my girlfriend is the best.
And i must admit, she's pretty good at it, after that she said " mmm i hope you know what to do with that small cock bb "
So hot...
And yesterday, she was about to blow me, just before she said " Do you think your small cock will get bigger in my mouth ? "
Man that was arrousing..
Maybe that can sounds fake for some people as she never had a bigger cock than mine, but that's just a fantasy, i wouldn't risk to blow up a very good relationship by introducing some big cock men in our sex games. So i'm really happy with what i have and i enjoy sharing that fetish with a sexy girl who likes to do it to..
That's all for me, is there other guys who got her girl into that kind of fetish ?

 

[B_talltpaguy]

Yeah, but you do have a nice big dickhead, which means if you do it right, you should be able to punish a girl's g-spot just as well as guys considerably longer than you, and perhaps even better. Thickness is very important to sex for most women, especially as they age. With quick, rhythmic thrusting, a nice big dickhead will make the pussy feel like it's getting fucked by a relatively larger cock than it really is.

 

[SR_Festus Salmonodor]

I've been with my girfriend for 10 years now, and i always had that fetish, having a girl laughing at my cock. The issue was, beside the weird side for a girl, that she never had another lover in her life so basically, my cock is the only one she saw. And beleive it or not she thinks my cock is big.
So it was kind of hard to introduce soft SPH to our relation. Until...2 days ago, she was jerking me slowly and she said "mmmm what a big cock" i replied :
"baby, you always say that, why won't you say the opposite for a change ?" And she got in the game and said " mmm what a small cock" while she was jerking me .... For me, this moment was so hot. But she asked immediately what did it do to me. I said that i kind of liked it, cause it's like she had a dominatrice kinky side, with a bigger cock appetite, and i found that very sexy and arrousing. She seemed surprised and amused but thanks god not totally weird. She said " you do know that i don't think your cock is small bb, but if that turns you on, i like it. "
I thought wow, my girlfriend is the best.
And i must admit, she's pretty good at it, after that she said " mmm i hope you know what to do with that small cock bb "
So hot...
And yesterday, she was about to blow me, just before she said " Do you think your small cock will get bigger in my mouth ? "
Man that was arrousing..
Maybe that can sounds fake for some people as she never had a bigger cock than mine, but that's just a fantasy, i wouldn't risk to blow up a very good relationship by introducing some big cock men in our sex games. So i'm really happy with what i have and i enjoy sharing that fetish with a sexy girl who likes to do it to..
That's all for me, is there other guys who got her girl into that kind of fetish ?

I did. My cock isnt small. I guess its a turn on to have the opposite of what Ive normally been told. Its get me hard to hear her say i have a pathetic little dick. She usually cant do it to long without laughing though. She ends up being like" oh fuck it i cant lie, fuck me with with your big dick" lol.

 

[joeym]

Looks to me like you have a very fat cock, with avg length. Your girth seems quite large.

 

[nick-nick]

Yeah i know i'm not that small... And i don't really know why i like having a girl laughing at it so much.
Anyway, my gf seems to enjoy that, maybe she enjoys saying what she always thinked
She is usually a very nice girl, she's the opposite of a bitch, she doesn't like to hurt people. That's why i'm wondering why she is so good at it..
Having her jerking me off between her big soft tits, looking at me and smiling, saying " oh no you're not fucking me tonight with such a small cock, i'll have to get used of the idea, maybe in a few day lil dick " and the punctuation was a very wet lick on the head..
10 years and she never turned me on like these last days.

 

[D_Meneage Saltass]

i have a similar thing, but with premature ejaculation humiliation rather than sph. for me, i think it sort of reminds me of my earlier sexual experiences where i was young, in experienced, nervous, over excited and would come the moment i slipped inside a woman (or like 20 seconds into a bj). it was very embarrassing of course, but thinking back to it now there's something that really turns me on about that helplessness and the humiliation. i've worked hard at it, have better stamina, and definitely keep my gf satisfied, but SOMETIMES it's fun to relive those early unbelievably quick "accidents" . . . and if my gf teases me a bit, saying something like "oh my god, you're not going to cum ALREADY are you?!" . . . that's usually all it takes to push me over the edge.

 

[cuck4you]

I think a lot of small-endowed guys, like me, like SPH because that is one way we feel we can provide pleasure to another, whether a girl or a big-dicked man.

Since our dick, in and of itself, probably won't provide much physical pleasure, then the humiliation of it; the thinking that a woman or man is "getting off" at the humiliation of our dick, then, conversely, turns on the small-dicked guy because that is the only way someone would "get off" on our dicks - humiliation not use.

That, plus some guys get aroused by humiliation the way others get aroused by other fetishes, etc...

 

[D_Ellerby Eatsprick]

Sorry to be blunt, but your gf isn't into it at all. She is only doing it for you. She probably is only doing it so that you stop pushing her or nagging her.

My recent ex was into sph himself, and he was encouraging me to be vocal about what I really thought... I could never get into it. Only time, I'd say something was when it was accidentally blurted out. I felt like it only caused problems...

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

It's hard for a woman to have respect for you while shes calling you out on how worthless you are. Ever think that it might make her feel negative about you when you arent fucking? I know i'd be talking myself out of a relationship with that insecure of a man.

Also, my pinky can reach my gspot, so you dont have much of an excuse. Especially since there are numerous studies done that show that females are more satisfied sexually on the whole with less endowed men because their men more than makeup for their cock size by being better at other sexual things.

Whereas so many big dicked guys rely only on their cock to pleasure a female, when so many females don't require a cock to orgasm.

 

[B_New End]

I never heard about SPH until this forum, adn I find it absolutely fascinating. Then chump13's input really gets me thinking. Why people like to be humiliated during sex, I don't know, although it certainly was a pre-pubescent fantasy of mine, and other kids I knew. It wasn't until I found out that women don't really like to rape, or humiliate men, that I kind of turned that part of my id off. So I know it is certainly a lurking desire amongst many if not even a majority of people.

I think it is healthy, if you can express that, and have a lover that will fulfill it.

It's kind of like my friend and I were talking about a girl in high school he had a crush on. She had been going out with this one guy for years, and sometime, he told someone she had burn scars over like 12% of her body, which is why she never wore a bathing suit. When my friend heard that, his reaction was, "HOT". Then I told him about a girl in college I had a crush on that had a half dollar sized light brown birth mark under her eye. I mean, to these girls, ti is something they are very self-conscious about, and if you told them you thought they were beautiful, if you told them you loved their scars, they would not believe you, and yet to me, that is part of the beauty of it.

 

[RawDog]

I could never understand SPH, nor do I think I want to.

Occasionally, when my wife comments about how big she thinks my dick is, a small part of me thinks she's just lying to stroke my ego. I think going the reverse of that is totally illogical. It's akin to me lying and telling her how loose her pussy is, or how wide her hips are. They're lies, and I don't understand what enjoyment people would have by degrading themselves, or finding partners to degrade them.

Especially since there are numerous studies done that show that females are more satisfied sexually on the whole with less endowed men because their men more than makeup for their cock size by being better at other sexual things.

You don't happen to have a link for that, do you? Just curious and for conversation fodder for the next cocktail party.

 

[D_Three_Jinker_Fames]

Very nice, nick-nick. I too have introduced my gf to soft SPH. She wasn't sure about it at first, but now she loves to tease me! It's quite fun and kinky, though we both know that it is pretend (I'm actually a bit above average), and I think that is what makes her OK with it.

 

[D_Three_Jinker_Fames]

Rawdog, it isn't really degrading because it's obviously pretend. The reason I think it's enjoyable is because it suggests that your gf is naughty and wants a nice big cock to fill her up.

A lot of the time I enjoy her telling me how big my cock is and how deep it goes. But sometimes it's fun to fantasize that she wants one even bigger!

 

[B_New End]

I could never understand SPH, nor do I think I want to.

Occasionally, when my wife comments about how big she thinks my dick is, a small part of me thinks she's just lying to stroke my ego. I think going the reverse of that is totally illogical. It's akin to me lying and telling her how loose her pussy is, or how wide her hips are. They're lies, and I don't understand what enjoyment people would have by degrading themselves, or finding partners to degrade them.

But surely you can imagine yourself wincing, if you only had a 5" dick, and your wife said, "give me your big cock". I've seen chicks in porn call small guys big, and I think, "WTF, is he really that stupid?" So yeah, it doesn't make sense to me for a girl to call an above average guy big, but an average guy, sure... because the truth is, if you are average, she likely has had bigger, maybe even quite a few that were bigger, so calling you big would be kind of a lie.

 

[RawDog]

Rawdog, it isn't really degrading because it's obviously pretend. The reason I think it's enjoyable is because it suggests that your gf is naughty and wants a nice big cock to fill her up.

I still can't wrap my brain around this. Sorry. I had a cleft lip growing up (surgically "fixed" when I was in high school), and the teasing/insulting prior to that just wasn't any fun.

But surely you can imagine yourself wincing, if you only had a 5" dick, and your wife said, "give me your big cock". I've seen chicks in porn call small guys big, and I think, "WTF, is he really that stupid?" So yeah, it doesn't make sense to me for a girl to call an above average guy big, but an average guy, sure... because the truth is, if you are average, she likely has had bigger, maybe even quite a few that were bigger, so calling you big would be kind of a lie.

Yeah, that I understand. I look down and I see small. I read articles and statistics, I see above average/fat. I see videos of us doing it, I see huge. I hear her talking up my cock, I get confused.

 

[nick-nick]

I don't get why people that cannot understand the pleasure of humiliation keep on tryin to prove those people are sick.

@ agirlonfire, rawdog & praying mantis :

In our case, you have to understand that it's a sexual game, and she knows it itsn't small. But she understands why it turns me on, and turning me on is a turn on for her, and vice-versa. She doesn't call me small dick outside our sexuality nor has a lack of respect for me. Why is this so hard to understand ?
Things aren't always like your brain analysed it, works maybe for you, not for the rest of the planet. She likes dirty talk in bed, calling her names is very arrousing for her. Does it mean that i rethink my relationship on a long term ? like : "i cannot picture me having kid with this girl, she's a real slut, she couldn't make a good mother."
NO NO NO !!! and you know why ? cause it's just a GAME, and i'm sure she'll make a wonderfull mother, beeing understanding and always talking with me about what's inside of us.

@ Free thinker james :

We are totally on the same page here, that's exactly why it turns me on, having a nasty girlfriend who wants more

 

[thebeast1]

I find the SPH a really fascinating thing. Cuckolding really turns me on, and I really want to have sex with a guys gal who is into cuckolding and sph.

I see no difference in SPH and Big cock worship. You could say that someone who requires their cock to be worshipped and ego padded is just as "Sick" as someone that recognizes they have a small dick and likes being made fun of it. From what I see or have talked to people, those who are into SPH get really turned on by it. I think it is more of a channeling embarassment and jealousy into a turn on. Both are very strong emotions, and people who are into SPH seem to channel those emotions to benefit them.

The cuckold relationships and dynamics are really interesting. Its a selfless thing. A guy realizes he can't really take care of his wife and is turned on by her being with other men. She realizes his interest and does it for him.

Obviously this isn't for many, but power to them.

 

[B_New End]

I still can't wrap my brain around this. Sorry. I had a cleft lip growing up (surgically "fixed" when I was in high school), and the teasing/insulting prior to that just wasn't any fun.

A cleft lip is different. They are very unattractive, a deal breaker for 99% of women, (thank god for modern surgery)*. A small or average dick is not a deal breaker for 95% of women*. In fact, to most, it really isn't a big deal at all. To men it may be.



*statistics pulled from my ass.

 

[trackdude]

there are numerous studies done that show that females are more satisfied sexually on the whole with less endowed men because their men more than makeup for their cock size by being better at other sexual things.

Sources?

 

[hunglikeamouse]

I get what you mean nick-nick and you're very lucky to have a gf who will play along. I have an average sized cock but find it a real turn on to be teased for being 'small', and hearing about how much a women likes big ones, potentially leading to cuckolding.

For me it's a fairly complex fantasy which reminds me of an early feeling of jealousy which I found a real turn on. I have no problem finding vanilla relationships, but am yet to find a partner that I can fully explore these fantasies with, in a mutually enjoyable way without it feeling too contrived to get me off. Perhaps I'll find a size queen on here who enjoys humiliating a guy with an average cock, and hopefully avoid hostility from people who don't get it.

I do think there is a darker side to this too though - on one of the other threads, a guy (with a perfectly normal endowment incidentally), describes suicidal feelings and having no hope of holding down a loving relationship. This skewed perspective which attributes a disproportionate importance to size is clearly unhealthy. Whether this is a progression of a kink that gets accidentally reinforced, or down to other underlying reasons, I don't know. It does suggest that we must take more care of our emotional well-being and retain an accurate perspective (naturally distorted by the monster cocks on here!).

My two pennies worth... Naturally if any size queens do want to ridicule my little cock while telling me how much they love taking a huge one (or two), do get in touch!!