Finding A (str8) Friend On Grindr

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I’ve got a friend. He’s engaged (to a woman). A few months ago I was on Grindr and I saw him. When I say I saw “him,” I am 90+% sure it’s him. His profile picture had his cell phone blocking his face, but the hairline, ears, and rest of appearance are basically identical matches. We chatted briefly without exchanging face pics. He’s “curious,” and wants to “experiment,” etc. Then he deactivated his account. Like 3 days ago he reactivated it and was online briefly but hasn’t been online since.

I’m really tempted to bring it up to him if we meet for a beer. I am DL as well and he doesn’t know I am gay.

Thoughts on how to (or if I even should) bring it up?
 

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I faced a similar situation, But in this scenario I was the one who got caught, My best friend who is gay realized that I have a common friend who is gay and realized that I am also gay, But thankfully he message in one of the forums like this on the way forward , I replied in the same forum saying that I think I am that friend and I am not interested in discussing my sexuality and I would prefer to keep that part of me aloof from the friendship since he was my best friend. After years we have discussed this over beer and we are coool...


Basically if you have feelings for him and want to try it out you can take that risk but I would suggest just set proper expectation and get assurance that your friendship wont be ruined. but anyways this is a gamble. just thing should your cock guide it or your heart.
 

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I’ve got a friend. He’s engaged (to a woman). A few months ago I was on Grindr and I saw him. When I say I saw “him,” I am 90+% sure it’s him. His profile picture had his cell phone blocking his face, but the hairline, ears, and rest of appearance are basically identical matches. We chatted briefly without exchanging face pics. He’s “curious,” and wants to “experiment,” etc. Then he deactivated his account. Like 3 days ago he reactivated it and was online briefly but hasn’t been online since.

I’m really tempted to bring it up to him if we meet for a beer. I am DL as well and he doesn’t know I am gay.

Thoughts on how to (or if I even should) bring it up?
Question for me is, why does it matter to you, OP, and what do you think you might be able to bring to your friend's own initial fumblings beyond satisfying your curiosity?
 

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Question for me is, why does it matter to you, OP, and what do you think you might be able to bring to your friend's own initial fumblings beyond satisfying your curiosity?

I assume you’re looking for something more substantive than because I want to suck his dick?

I’m down to be his gay piece on the side when he’s married.
 

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I assume you’re looking for something more substantive than because I want to suck his dick?

I’m down to be his gay piece on the side when he’s married.
I have no idea what your motive(s) may be - I'm just asking if you know what your motives are :)
 
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I have run across a few people I know on different hookup apps and porn video sites and I keep my mouth shut. Is it hot that I have seen my friends/relatives online fucking? YES but I am not going to be the one to bring it up I respect their privacy and respect the same in return when they stumble across me or my wife online.