Amazing reading the different shades of grey on this thread. All of us a little different. Happily married here, but terrified of getting cooties. I have a responsibility to my spouse. That said, I have always looked for that other married guy (supposedly safer), can't seem to make that work. CL and other sites have a lot of scary people. Guys who "wanna suck the cum out of your asshole" have a red light flashing, and they probably wonder why they don't get many responses. How about being a little more subtle and appealing to a broader audience? Love to jerk and suck cock but you need to sound like a rational level-headed guy who needs the ultimate in discretion like I do.
The danger of the experience and the fact that the other guy is as "inexperienced" as you are is strangely appealing. To hook up with some guy who blows a couple of guys a month has no appeal whatsoever. Two hungry, maybe slightly awkward and sheepish married guys has a whole lot more appeal for me. I have a childhood friend, we have been hooking up as long as I can remember. He is very Christian and regrets every time we get drunk on a hunting trip and end up stroking and sucking each other off. It's perfect. Somehow, more taboo, some regrets the next day, but still exhilarating. Unfortunately, he is hung like a thumb and I can't satisfy my urge to be with a guy who is as big as I am. I have another friend who is gay who seemed strangely safe somehow, who announced to me that he is now really into glory holes. Game over for me. The search continues. Sigh.......