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I've never bottomed, and won't for a while, but I am exploring using a dildo. My question is how to find the pleasure in anal? With using a starter dildo I can get it in and with some patience I can get past the pain, especially once the head is all the way in or isn't getting too close to the opening once it's in.

I'm not feeling pain and I feel like I'm right on the edge of feeling pleasure bit I can't get over the hump. Do you all have any suggestions? Is it a mental thing? Do I just need practice? Maybe it's because I'm doing this to myself and lacking the human to human contact. Any ideas?
 

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lots of Lube, diet/douching so you aren't stressed about being clean/other digestive issues can help some... being relaxed and open to the experience (which is where being fucked by a person and enjoying it helps), start with fingers... but yeah its very different to actual cock imo and youll have more fun I think once youve experienced the real thing and then you know what feels good in terms of penetration to do with it instead of just guessing/shoving it in
 
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When in doubt, add more lube
Which I've done. I will say that I need to be more patient with getting the head in.
being relaxed and open to the experience (which is where being fucked by a person and enjoying it helps), start with fingers
Maybe I need to change my state on mind going into it then and starting with fingers. To be honest I may be in a rush to get to the good stuff that I may be missing the part where I have to get my self prepared mentally. What I tried with the dildo yesterday was watching a video and trying to match the tops speed/motion with the dildo. I though that would help get me over the hump of just feeling the dildo and its veins move against the rings of the anus to feeling pleasure from it.

I'm starting to think that there maybe something about not just the real thing but the feeling of a guy between your legs and up against such a sensitive area.
 

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My advice: forget the dildo for the time being and try a butt plug. You can actually find sets that get gradually thicker and you can graduate from the smallest to the largest at your own pace. They’re tapered so you don’t have to worry about getting a fat knob into your hole before you can get the rest of it in. Once you can take the largest plug, dig out the dildo again and it should be a breeze.
 
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Maybe I need to change my state on mind going into it then and starting with fingers. To be honest I may be in a rush to get to the good stuff that I may be missing the part where I have to get my self prepared mentally. What I tried with the dildo yesterday was watching a video and trying to match the tops speed/motion with the dildo. I though that would help get me over the hump of just feeling the dildo and its veins move against the rings of the anus to feeling pleasure from it.

Remember - porn is not always shown in real time and the performers knew their roles before hand and are ready for it.

The bottom may have spent a lot of time with fingers or other items getting themselves relaxed and loosened up so that when the camera is rolling the top slips right in. So trying to match their actions sounds exciting - but you may have left out the time he spent getting ready.