Finding guys in college

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  1. johnsmithrainbow

    johnsmithrainbow New Member

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    I've just started college, and I want to hook up with some cool gay guys, but I don't want to "come out of the closet"...how do I meet them
     
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    be observant of others' eye contact

     
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    When you say "meet" do you meet them to date or are you talking about hooking up? If you're just talking about hooking up, I've not seen a college campus yet that didn't have a cruisy men's room or locker room somewhere on campus. I attended four different colleges in my undergrad and graduate studies (in three different states), and I was always able to "stumble" on a place to get a blow job or whatever at each campus.
     
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    I agree with RedDude: Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact. Also, go to the kinds of events where you'll meet cool gay guys (alt music shows, art shows, sports!) and don't be afraid to strike up conversations with guys you're attracted to.
     
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    Does your college have a queer students association? That's a good place to start.

    If by "hook up" you mean sex, well there are hundreds of gay male "dating" sites on the internet. Perhaps thousands. Be careful with them - don't just go straight to some stranger's house, etc. - but there's no shortage of men out there who will fool around with a dude who's not out. Before you break some young gay man's heart, though: Do be clear that you're not out and not interested in being out.
     
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    College campuses are usually a treasure trove of guys. Do you live on or near campus JSR?

     
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    You want to meet cool gay guys and yet not be out to them. Honestly, sex is everywhere in college. But "cool gay guys" maybe want guys comfortable with the scen. Good luck though to you
     
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    I was just back on campus for homecoming. Grindr worked well for me.
     
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    gay.com, adam4adam, few others.
     
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    manhunt.net ...
     
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    Well I live close enough to campus
    Thanks for the eye contact advice, I think I'll start making an effort to talk to guys who look interested or who I'm interested in
     
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    Find the theater majors.
     
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    Why, is that what you did? The stereotype is offensive. How do you know that the biggest bottom on campus isn't the wide receiver on the football team?

     
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    Hehehehehehe.
     
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    RedDude I was about to say the same when he said "find the theater majors". We are everywhere, we are in your health clubs, we are in your classes, your work, your teams, and some of us like the theater...not much different from str8 guys actually.
     
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    Eye contact, eye contact.... I still have problems with that. My friends tell my I'm getting checked out, I'm glad they tell me....
     
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    I had to leaven it with a little humor. :wink:

     
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    Welcome to my world! I'm in the same situation, although I'll say that I recently had a conversation in the locker room with a guy (and we had lots of eye contact). :smile:
     
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