Before you all start reading this, it's relatively random ... Im just sitting at home feeling sort of alone in the world. I'm putting these comments out there just to get them off my chest and to see what the general consensus is. Feel free to comment or not ... Im not really expecting anything in particular out of this post. I was wondering if any of you have had difficulty in finding people socially that you can relate to? I'm talking about people who you can talk to about anything and you won't get ridiculed or alienated because you're interested in certain topics ... people who are roughly your own age? (Or my own age ... which is 30.) With roughly the same level of intelligence and desire for personal advancement and knowledge. I dont know if it's where I live or where I look ... but it seems so difficult to find people I can really relate to. The kind of people who are so like you that you dont really have to explain stuff to them ... they just understand where youre going and they can complement your thoughts and ideas with their own. Most of the social groups I belong to that deal with my primary hobbies and interests are loaded with great people but they're all much older and mostly male. (Which in itself is not really a problem but I am looking for a girlfriend.) While I truly enjoy spending time with them, conversing with them and learning from them ... it's hard to really relate to them when 98% of them have about 20+ years on me and have full fledged families. (Which is something I can't relate to at all being a single guy ... though I do want a family.) If I go to a bar or a club or similar establishment I run into people who are either too young, too old, not very ambitious, intolerant, too obsessed with their appearance, social status and/or material possessions. Their views on the state of the world and or technology are either nonexistent or ridiculously conservative. If I go to a more intellectual group it's nice because I can hold a good conversation with them but ultimately I will frighten or confuse them with some of my extreme viewpoints, existential or philosophical topics and ultimately I become outcast or disillusioned with that group as well. Highly intellectual groups also tend to be very logical and lack the creativity I thrive on. If I go for the more extreme adventurous type they tend to be very "xtreme" and physical but also very aloof and fail to really follow me on complex conversational topics. Artistic groups are pretty good ... but they tend to fade when you get onto more logical topics like business and the economy. I also get driven nuts when artistic types get overly "earth friendly" and "vegan" on me (not that I have anything against the earth or vegans.) If I could pick the perfect group they would be relatively young, comprised of men and women, all of which are very ambitious, adventurous and outgoing ... while simultaneously maintaining an upbeat, friendly and level headed attitude. Healthy (no smoking or heavy drinking) and relatively physically fit with an equal desire for physical adventure, artistic and intellectual pursuits. They would also need to be socially involved (contributing to society), very optimistic and good at solving problems. I would also want them to be somewhat knowledgeable in science, history, art while also maintaining a very hands on work ethic and not be afraid to get their hands dirty when necessary. They would also need something of an extreme edge to their attitude that drives them to be different. These traits just seem so hard to come by in people these days ... actually any day. I mean, a large percentage of people in the world are good, moral, hard working people who lead good lives ... absolutely nothing to complain about ... but their perception of the world tends to be rather small and when their pulled outside of that ... they get uncomfortable. It's like they're locked into their little bubble and don't want to break out of it. Then on the other hand you have people who are unstable in one way or another and constantly making bad choices and then constantly blaming everyone but themselves for why everything is going wrong for them. I dont know ... I just seems like the really forward thinking, motivated people who break the mold and get excited by the adventure of doing things their own way are few and far between. People who confront every problem knowing that there is a good solution, they just have to find it. People you can never really get down because no matter what comes their way, they're going to work through it and come out on top ... or at least survive it to fight another day! It's these lonely Friday and Saturday nights where I sit at home and stare at my monitor wondering where I can find people to relate to ... and if I go out I usually just come home disappointed. Those are my thoughts for the evening ... take em or leave em.