OCMuscleJock
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I believe very strongly in the fact that the perfect situation (whether it's your job, house, neighborhood or friends) does not exist naturally in life and that you have to create it for yourself.
We look at the media and they model these perfect little "realities" that we strive for but the real reality is that A) it's all staged and B) when the cameras turn off the "realities" go back to being real and real is not all that glamorous or smooth.
If you base your goals off of what the media shows you ... and then go out into life and search for it ... YOU'LL NEVER FIND IT, BECAUSE IT DOESN'T EXIST!
Whether that's love or friendship ... you have to work to make it what you want it to be. You have to go out there, be social, arrange gatherings or dates and make it happen for yourself ... because if you wait for it to happen "naturally" or expect it to find you ... you're going to remain lonely for a long, long time.
I know these statements sort of contradict my original post but i knew this answer when i started this thread ... it's just taken all this conversation for me to realize it again.
I was under the impression that the post meant real friends...you know people you truely trust and care about that do the same for you in return.
I had a HUGE circle of friends that I could call at the drop of a hat to do something or just hang. I know a lot of people in the OC..but it's different here. I really cant figure it out. There are a lot of *fake* people down here and lots of hidden agendas. Luckily it's not everyone but quite a few that i've met. At least in LA ...people are honest about being fake. You know were you stand and what to expect. This definitely isn't talking to the people on here from the OC...because I know like 2 of ya. so far.....
I think it really depends on where you live too... Maybe it's just the fact I've learned the hard way when it comes to trusting your friends. I really dont want to get into the details ...but some still really hurt and the people you THOUGHT were a real friend just turned out to be using you for what you could do and who you knew. So now I'm more guarded when it comes to real friends...