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I am bicurious and having a hard to find somebody willing to help me explore. I’ve been in conversations with users on here but I think I be scaring them off. Any tips? I’m looking for a top.
 

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I am bicurious and having a hard to find somebody willing to help me explore. I’ve been in conversations with users on here but I think I be scaring them off. Any tips? I’m looking for a top.
In my part of the bisexual woods, the bottoms out number the tops by 3 to 1 online. Perhaps in the 100% gay world there is more of a level field. But not in the bi world I see online. My unscientific theory is the bi guys have been fucking ladies both vaginal and anal for years. So when that bisexual itch comes (especially for the discreet married men)... It's to receive.
 

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When I was young, it was so easy to find a top, we didn't even have the internet. Being 5'5" 145 and fit and soft skinned. All I had to do is put some sexy jean shorts, hiking boots and a tank top on...and go hang out. Dining, hiking, walking down the street....the gym. It didn't matter, there was always a horny guy that wanted to fuck me. Now it's just different, It's harder to find a guy...mainly cause I'm older, but there are other reasons to.
 
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Different continents, but good luck!
 
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Going on Grindr or Scruff Et al. in my area is a guarantee if you're a top and host. As WilliamG stated, the bottoms out number the tops by a large margin.

For me, now that I am firmly in the daddy realm is seems, I have no problem getting young guys. Finding a regular versatile buddy around my age is pretty much a unicorn these days. I'd be very happy to to find someone who wants to explore and experiment without the one night stand mentality.

There's also the unfortunate fact that most people who answer ads or requests for an FWB aren't serious and have no intention on meeting. If they are interested, they have to plan fun time around the wife and go to insane lengths to avoid her finding out. It truly is a nightmare dealing with these people online.

Of course there are people who want to but are afraid to take the step and actually do anything. Fear of people finding out and/or the dangers that are present from STDs, COVID, and HIV combined with the prospect of meeting an anonymous person for sex. They usually give little to no fucks when they're meeting a woman... any woman... for any reason. Go figure.

In my case, my wife knows and is always down to watch so I don't have to sneak around or hide. That really freaks people out. Tell them you twelve toes and a tattoo of Betty White on your forehead and they'll shrug that off no problem. Tell them your wife knows and it's like you've kicked a dozen puppies. The horror...

I honestly doubt you're doing anything wrong except not waiting it out until just the right person comes along. It's like going on eBay and wanting the hot new whatever right the instant. You'll pay a price too high and end up regretting it later when it's better in the long run to wait for something that suits you to come along.

Worst case scenario is Rent Men or whatever the escort thing is called.

Good luck! Just be smart and understand the people on the Internet are more fake than WWE.
 

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Tops are like unicorns these days it seems, almost mythical creatures. If you find a patient top you've hit the jackpot. Too many total tops are all about the whole dom/sub scene and can be pretty selfish, which I gather is not what you're looking for. You want a vers dude, preferably a vers top or fully vers guy who isn't put off by showing a guy what pleasures men can bring each other. We all started somewhere.

Oh, and by the way, what part of the Old Dominion do you call home? Maybe I can help you.
 
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