My wife of 25 years still will not let me finger her. She states it hurts, even though she can take my 7.75 X 5.75 inch dick. She is 4' 10 " [...] so I know it is not a too big thing.
Any ideas? I'm wondering if this is psychological.
Other than fingernail or rough hand issues, you may want to ask her what she likes (or if she likes it...) and then work on technique.
Personally, I prefer long (5-10min) fingering sessions - after I'm soaking wet, it can't be too hard or too deep when in the moment. In contrast, I've fingered someone that only liked the first inch stimulated (while working her clit), and not for long, or she did get irritated due to having delicate vag tissue, and a friend would rather be punched than fingered. So, it likely isn't a psychological issue as much as preference, or your technique or grooming - imo, ask your wife what she prefers and work from there.
from my point of view...
1, good fingering is better than good oral.
2, bad fingering just hurts. rough skin, scratchy nails and that proddy pokey feeling are NOT fun for my girl parts.
:yup: I agree! For me, only thing that hurts during a fingering session is his forearm.
Sorry Poim. :09: