or The fallacy that fingers are always a sure fire way to relax and open person for anal... This has bothered me for quiet some time. I have addressed it in various threads, but other than a few people chiming in and saying "Hey that's me, too!" the the vast majority of folk drown us out, and the point is lost in the din. You see, I have never, and I mean never, (with one exception that I will address later), liked fingers in my ass as a prelude to anal sex. They don't relax me, feel bony and uncomfortable, cause me to tense, feel too rough, and are genereally unpleasant. Now don't get me wrong, after a nice session of bottoming, I LOVE the feel of fingers in my ass. Note fingers, plural. I still have issues with a single digit. Now i always chalked it up to me not bieng a strict bottom (for the record I am as vers as they come, though I may move though bottom to top and back through vers in the span of a playdate, or a few monmths) but i have heard from some people who identify as total bottoms that they have issues as well with this. These are men and women, gay, straight and bi. I was curious as to how other people felt about this. Do you aslo dislike a finger or two (or more) in you at any given time during play? If so, when? Does it matter if it is before or after anal sex? The number of fingers? If they wear gloves does it help? There has only been ONE time that I liked it before sex. I have described the incident in PART 2 of a blog about a date with him. Linked for those curious about it, but not necessary to understand or participate in tis thread. Strangely there was another time that fingers felt good, but again it was after/during anal play, and that is when I teyied to self fist. Usually at a certain girth my body stops interpreting sensation as pain or pleasure (within reason, obviously; slow and tons of lube is what I am speaking of, not just rammed in, but I digress), and tends to numb out. Normally I can't stand the feel of digits for too long in me. Its right on the cusp of pain and pleasure for me. But when I was dialted that wide, and numbed out, i wriggled my fingers and it was heveanly! I bring this up least someone who has seen the fisting forum say "but you said..." As I said there that was the only time it happened (as it was my only attempt to self fist...or really be fisted at all) I have had guys argue with me over this fact. They will insist on trying to finger me beforehand, and will tell me I don't know what I am talking about! Needless t say such trysts end in a hurry. I have also caught flack frm some bottoms who would like to tell me how MY body responds. I'm sorry, but it is my body and I do know it's intricacies and idiosyncracies of my body better than anyone else. So has anyone else felt this way? That fingers are harder to take at times (or all the time) than a cock? Or that as a means of getting you to open up and relax it is counterproductive?