I have to reverse the question since I'm straight, but here you go...
Of the various women I've slept with, the one to whom I lost my virginity was the wettest. The other women still got wet, but the first one, she got wettttt. Her panties would literally get soaked when she was excited, and it was so much fun to peel them off of her if we'd been fooling around dressed for a bit first.
But it never "ruined me" or anything like that. I didn't go on hoping that each girl would be as wet as she was, and I wasn't disappointed that they weren't.
It's something to remember and smile, but I don't feel that I've been suffering some kind of loss since.