First guy who came onto you... but you weren't ready. what happened?

[fcviewer]

We all have our own stories about discovering our sexuality, becoming comfortable with it and coming out to others. And all of our timelines are different. Today I had a flashback to the first guy who approached me and how I reacted vs. what I would do today. And of course I thought, "You idiot, why did you do that?!" LOL Then I wondered what stories other guys have.

Here's mine.

I was a freshman in college. I knew since jr high I was attracted to guys. Times were different and it wasn't "ok" to be gay. There were no role models, demeaning jokes about gays were prevalent, and those who were out fit the Liberace stereotype. Like many gay guys during this time period I was struggling to understand myself and where I fit in. I had no experience with guys.

During spring break, I was home looking for a job for the summer. I was at the mall by myself running errands one afternoon. I was in a store looking at some shirts and a good looking, clean cut guy, wearing khakis and a polo shirt, probably a couple years older than me, came up to the same rack of shirts. He flipped through the shirts. He then said, "Hey. How are you doing?" I said, "Fine. You?" I thought it was kind of odd that he would ask how I was doing. And then suddenly I figured it out. My heart started beating really fast. I as excited and I was nervous as hell. I was attracted to him but I didn't know what to do... nor was I ready to do anything... but knew I wanted to and jacked off a lot thinking about it. At about this point his younger sister came up to him. As I walked away I heard him tell her to go find their mom. I walked out of the store and through the mall. As I got to the end, I had to turn around to get to the other end of the mall where my car was parked. As I turned around, there he was. I had to walk past him. As I walked toward him, he smiled. As I got closer, he said, "Hey. Would you like to give me your phone number?" I was so nervous, still had not figured myself out yet and didn't know how to comfortably explore. I responded to his question, "No." As I drove home I remember thinking, "Oh my god, oh my god, I can't think straight, deep breaths, oh my god. A guy just hit on me!"

Through the years I have remembered this encounter. I was definitely attracted to the guy and have wondered who he was.

1. Where did he spot me in the mall and how did he know?
2. How brave of him to be so forward, given the times
3. The only number I could have given him was my parents home number. We had two phones in the house. I remember thinking that a call would be so awkward (this was in the days before cell phones and the Internet)
4. Why did I react like I did?
5. How could it have been different? Was I stupid for not figuring out a way to take advantage of the situation?

And yes, I did jack off a few times thinking about having sex with him.

I kind of wonder what he's doing today.

That's my story. Does anyone else have a similar story? What happened?

 

[umdoistressilvaquatro]

In my first week of internship as a med student in a hospital, I met a physiotherapy student when we both had to attend a patient in an isolation room. He said he would wait for me and that I could do my job first, and stayed in the room, quietly. When I ended I noticed that I had not followed the isolation protocol at all. I was really ashamed of my dangerous clumsiness, so I tried to avoid the guy as best as I could, but he kept going everywhere I go, trying to make small talk. And my head was just so fixated on my mistake that I would never guess he was trying to get to know me because he was interested in me.
When I opened facebook at home, I noticed a friend request. I added him, and instantly he was already messaging me, asking me what year of college I was, what I was going to do after, etc. He was not ugly, had a cute soft voice, seemed well-groomed, but I just wasn't attracted to him. In that week he was leaving me messages 3x/day, and while I wasn't cutting him off, I wasn't suggesting him to go further. Eventually he messaged me asking if he could say something without me being offended (I said "no problem"). He said to me that he thought I was very handsome.
I do suppose it would be nice to have my first same-sex kiss (or even sex?) even if he wasn't drop-dead beautiful, but as the ungrateful demanding bitch I am, I kick him off. Politely. I said I was not offended, but he had interpreted me wrong. Still, it was nice to know I can be desirable to the point a guy would say so.
It's not a lot like your story, because I din't had much interest in the guy. But I think I would not act different if the guy was hot, I fealt kind of in danger in the prospect of revealing myself as gay to someone else. And I also questioned myself if his approach had to do with me being somehow visibly gay, which made me concerned and wanting to close myself.
You should not beat yourself up thinking how things might have been. It's hard to get out of our confort zone, and gay/bi people have consequences to fear when opening ourselves up.

 

[phillo12345]

I'm forbidden to answer.

 

[keenobserver]

I was in a men's room - rather isolated from the main sales floor of a department store. I was standing at a urinal. After I pissed I was standing there with my cock out just staring at the wall thinking about something and after a minute a guy who was seated in the adjoining toilet said, "I gotta suck that cock." Scared the hell out of me. While I was tucking in and turning around to leave he came over and dropped to his knees and put his hands on my belt and said, "Can I?" I was so surprised I said "Yes," and three minutes or so later I was done, and he was happy.

Best service I ever had in a department store.

 

[igotthebigone]

I very very shy,so I really didn't know what to do ,or say,i wasn't quite sure at first what was going on,so I walked away and when I thought about it later I knew he was coming on to me ,but it was too late to do anything about it

 

[Anton565]

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[tangas]

This guy invited me to his place to sleep over night. Never had slept over with a guy besides friends. I have an underwear fetifh so I told him to wear something tight. I got there at 9 PM. He put on gay porn and we started to watch with a beer. He sat in the chair and I on the sofa. I told him when he was ready to let me know. Halfway through the porn we were both getting horny and he said he was ready. I moved over to the chair and knelt down playing with his dick through his pants. I unbuttoned his pants and rolled down the zipper. I took off his pants and he had tight boxer briefs and a nice buldge inside. I started to eat his dick through his underwear. I pulled down his briefs to reveil a nice 6 incher. I started licking and sucking. He was very hory so he told me to stand up. He unbuttoned my jeans and pulled them down. He saw my Joe snyder camo bikini briefs. He turn me around bent me over and pulled down my briefs. He lubbed up and started to penetrate. It was awesome. He fucked me for 10 minutes and said he was coming and ask where I wanted it. For my first time I said I would swallow. I swallowed and liked it. We took a beer both of us naked. He said to come to his room and he could do this all night. I was thinking too much and chickened out. I put my pants on and left. It was 11 PM. Till this day I never slpet over with another guy and still regret my decision.

 

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[elixer26]

My stories are uninteresting

 

[Auggiecakes]

I'm forbidden to answer.

me too.

i did call the police tho..... cause you know....

 

[elixer26]

me too.

i did call the police tho..... cause you know....

Just curious why you call the police? I always wonder about these guys that call the police just because they see someone jerking off in a stall or just because they see two guys doing it in the stall or whatever it is, like it's really none of your concern and I think the police have more important things than to deal with your bullshit. If somebody is not man enough to take care of their own problems or their own situation that I feel sorry for them Welcome to the Real World

 

[elixer26]

Seems like that's the quick answer to everything call the cops if somebody approaches you and ask you for your number or says something nice and gives you a compliment you call the police on them that seems kind of mentally ill to me

 

[Auggiecakes]

Just curious why you call the police? I always wonder about these guys that call the police just because they see someone jerking off in a stall or just because they see two guys doing it in the stall or whatever it is, like it's really none of your concern and I think the police have more important things than to deal with your bullshit. If somebody is not man enough to take care of their own problems or their own situation that I feel sorry for them Welcome to the Real World

Seems like that's the quick answer to everything call the cops if somebody approaches you and ask you for your number or says something nice and gives you a compliment you call the police on them that seems kind of mentally ill to me

You're an idiot... Lol read the original post and read the comment I quoted and then read mine. Gather up some context clues and if you still can't get what I'm trying to say then God help you.

 

[elixer26]

You're an idiot... Lol read the original post and read the comment I quoted and then read mine. Gather up some context clues and if you still can't get what I'm trying to say then God help you.

Why do you want to be a bitch lol. Ignored.

 

[elixer26]

You're ugly anyway.

You're an idiot... Lol read the original post and read the comment I quoted and then read mine. Gather up some context clues and if you still can't get what I'm trying to say then God help you.

 

[Auggiecakes]

You're ugly anyway.

 

[fordonfire]

You're ugly anyway.

i love when someone calls another person ugly but doesn't have a single pic of themselves posted. coward.

 

[elixer26]

i love when someone calls another person ugly but doesn't have a single pic of themselves posted. coward.

You're ugly too

 

[SillyGayBoy]

I had a handsome mexican man tell me at one of those phone stand things at the mall "tell me what you are thinking, be honest with me". I was thinking about fucking him, but that seemed inappropriate to say that, so I made something up I don't remember. Then he told me the number to call there if I wanted to tell him something. My friend told me this was a come on but it confused me. Would have been good sex maybe but I doubt we had a future. It wasn't that kind of connection. Maybe I should have done something. Indirect come ons can be confusing.

I had a hot dumb mexican who was very masculine take me behind a house to "tell me something" then pulled my pants down and played with my balls. Afterward he asked me if he could see me again but I was drunk and forgot to exchange numbers.

Both these experiences I may have had a little regret. Not much. Although both I doubt we had a future for different reasons so I don't care much either.

I'm married now, and I know a real connection when I feel one, and those were not.

 

[fordonfire]

You're ugly too

you're a spineless coward and everyone can see it. i feel sorry for little immature boys like you.