He is a nice guy, but text me this morning and asked me if I want to go further, I dont know....I hear now that he is a horndog, my best friend Lindsey told me she heard he is sleeping with every dude in Charleston....SO, that ends that. lol
Landon
Landon, you have some choices to make. The first one is what kind of gay life do you want right now? Do you just want to have some recreational sex with other guys or do you want to only have sex with guys that really mean something to you?
You can't know what to tell this guy until you can answer question. Then you have a right to ask him the same thing. If you both just want recreational sex and both are honest about it and take the right precautions then you can live with what you do. You won't feel cheated later.
The problem with that "later, I've been taken advantage of" has to do with honesty. If you both are completely honest with each other, I believe you will be happy with your decision.
One rule you can make for yourself is to never change you value system while on a date hot and bothered with a raging hard-on. My uncle always said a man with a hard penis has not brain. The time to seriously contemplate your relationship and changes is when you are NOT hot and bothered. If you think you are not ready, and then on the date you change your mind, wait until the next date to take the plunge.
This works well with straight dating as well. It prevents a lot of heart ache and guilty feelings later on.
Just like in straight dates, if he is not willing to wait one more date and will drop you if you don't spread your legs for him or open your mouth for him as the case may be, and he is pressuring you to make a step you aren't quite ready to make, then you don't need him if he drops you because you want to take things slowly.
Private message me or e-mail me if you need a sounding board on this. I can tell that you are an honorable young man who wants to make the right decisions in life.
I hope it all works out.