Hey thanks for the answers. I really appreciate it. The two posts in a row really go to show how it is different for every woman.
For example, Enid, you describe the sensation as predominantly pain, but exotikittie describes it as a 'hurts so good' that it doesn't stop her. It seems like you are both referring to the stretching feeling.
Do you think it comes down to different physicality's or just past experience and what you learned to like? For example, I grew up masturbating without lube and I'm circumcised, some men might say I'm crazy, but I like it.
Or do you think that the different sex hormone levels in women result in different comfort levels when it comes to stretching? I'm under the impression one of the major female sex hormones 'comforts' the body when the vagina is stretching. I put comfort in quotes because it is all relative. And of course different vaginas.
I was curious because I know a girl who would see porn cocks and be scared of them. This always seemed crazy to me as a guy who could appreciate a nice looking cock. Especially considering that she had an accommodating vagina. She said she had a willingness to cross that bridge when she got to it, but not any bit sooner.
My idea was to get an extender, one for length and another for girth and surprise her one night (not with both at the same time) while she was tied down and blindfolded. I wouldn't be forceful at all and I would take it at her pace. Do you think it is a good idea or should I let her just enjoy my cock the way it is? Obviously I'd love to be the guy that could give her that first thrill (if she liked it).
She isn't interested in dildos because they are just rubber penis-like things. She wants a guy she can grab and like (as a person). So I figured an extender with me would get most of the way there, even though I imagine it can't compete with the real thing.
I want to cross that bridge because we are both interested in group sex, mmf and mff and possibly more. She has yet to have a positive experience with a big cock, but if we keep looking around for other people, it is bound to happen. So maybe I can see that twinkle in her eyes before some other lucky guy?
If I asked in a non-women's issue thread all the guys would say yes, so I'm trying to get some actual perspective. I'd ask her, but it would ruin the surprise. Yes I realize this is pretty neurotic.