First Love - True Love or Worst Love?

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  1. B_ScaredLittleBoy

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    Earlier while bathing I listened to a local radio station's 'Your Story' segment. It was about this couple who got together as teenagers, broke up when they were 19, got married (to other people), had kids and met again 17 years later and re-married.

    'Their' song was called First Love and I was wondering - is your first love always your best and do you never stop thinking about them?

    A line from the show was 'you know its true love when you're still thinking about the person after 17 years of never seeing or hearing from them'.

    Thoughts? How does everyone else feel about their first love?
     
  2. Not_Punny

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    Aw, heck no! Barfaroni! My first "true love" ended up giving up sex entirely after three failed marriages. Glad I got out of that one very early on!
     
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    My first love was exhilarating, but he turned out to be gay.

    My second love was a more mellow experience, but he turned out to like drugs more than he liked me.

    My third love was passionate and all-consuming, but he dumped me, and I stalked him for several years after. Fortunately, I finally got over it and gained the maturity to really love someone, which is different from wanting to possess someone, which is what most obsessions are about. It took me a long time to learn that.

    My fourth love, I married and lived with for fourteen years.

    It wasn't until my fifth love (right now) that I found The One. So no, first love definitely isn't best love in my case.
     
  4. goodwood

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    My first love was when I was 18, she was 21. She was stunningly beautiful, witty, someone I loved and trusted completely. I was just off to college and going back and forth between Boston and L.A., she was just divorced and very wealthy as a result. When I went back to New York in '99 for my 10th high school reunion I actually stayed with her and her new husband. He and I share a mutual dislike but are civil owing to being in the same social circle.
    Ten years later I wish we could have picked up where we left off, but I was respectful of her marriage even though it is a for shit marriage and he cheats on her.
    We ended up very nearly having sex late one night after her husband went to bed.
    Yes, I think of her often and fondly and wish things could have worked out.
    But it was not meant to be. The only consolation for her unhappy marriage is that she is extremely wealthy.
     
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    My first love. Man. I remember him. Very well.

    I was 19. A friend of mine met the guy and brought him to meet me because he thought my name was the same as the guy's. Turned out that it was something different, but sounded close to my name. Anyway, this guy and I grew really close. We never had sex or anything, but it wasn't uncommon for us to hug for a minute or more. He was a lean wrestler type from high school. He was 17 at the time.

    A few months after meeting him, I helped him leave the state because his parents were abusive. It wouldn't be until I turned 21 and realized I was gay, that I would realize what that guy and I had. He was gay. He knew I was. He was trying to ease me into it. He never was pushy with things and he just let things flow naturally.

    I know now that I loved him. Well, I knew 15 years ago, but it was 2 years too late. I've never seen or heard from him again. I still wonder where he is and what he's doing.
     
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    I'm still waiting to have my first love. I hope will have one, and that it will be special.
     
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    After the first love never materialized the next time I was truly in love was with the chick in the pics. in my gallery. I had given up on love and simply thought of women as sexual play partners and much to my surprise I fell madly in love with that woman. It was heartbreaking that things did not work out with her and I had to call the wedding off, but it was encouraging to know that such love is still out there for the taking and am very much looking forward to the next one and hope that the third time is indeed a charm.
     
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    My first love was the greatest emotional anything I went through, it was hard and amazing at the same time. I'm still in love with him, despite him being gay.
     
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    Hello

    I married mine, and we are still going after 20 odd years, now that we only have 2 kids to go before its just us at home ( hopefully :) ) we are looking forward to getting back some of our "personal space", i mean the kitchen table should not just be for eating should it?.lol.

    Thank You.
     
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    My first real love -as opposed to just intense infatuation - was at 19. Unfortunately, she could not deal with the idea of having a lesbian relationship, totally freaked out and then her family tried to have me expelled from school. The problem was, I had never laid a hand on her, but she had come on to me physically many times. I was frightened and just wanted to talk about it honestly. When I did, she got panicked and apparently told her father that I was coming on to her or somehow being aggressive. The distortion of the truth and the betrayal were extremely painful. That was a long time ago, but I don't believe I have ever really been right since.
     
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    My first love was the biggest emotional rollercoaster I've ever experienced.

    Will never forget it, think of him every day, wouldn't change a thing, but hope to GAWD I never have to go through that again!!!

    ...and the sex was the most amazing thing I've ever had since. Found out just how fun a car can be (still have a thing for making-out in a front seat).
     
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    i mean the kitchen table should not just be for eating should it?. lol

    ..........of course not, but a fantastic place to have appetizers! I hope you are hungry.....
     
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    My first and only love left me Nov 15, 2007.
    Turns out he wasn't the man I thought he was.
    For the first time in my life, my heart was truely broken.
    The first few weeks were bad. Most days are pretty good now.
    At least now I know I can survive a broken heart.
     
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    My first and only love I am happy to say is still at my side. From the day we met to today I am still amazed by how wonderful he is. We have two kids now and look forward to them leaving the nest so we can play grab ass all through the house again.

    I do know that when you are truly in the love time does fly cause I still can't believe we are coming up 17 years of marriage and have known each other for over 19 years.

    I can honestly say My world would be torn to peices if he wasn't by my side.
     
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    I still vow to be with my first love again before I ever settle down with anyone else, because I just NEED to know. I never felt like that before or since. I have a feeling the better question would be first love; real love or puppy love?

    I don't know if it was real or just because it was my first but I felt like I was walking on the moon every time I left her house and skipped all the way fucking home!
     
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    I have been with my first love for 13 years. Looking back, I'd change a lot of things over those 13 years but I wouldn't change her for anything.
     
  17. snoozan

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    I don't know about all this at all.

    There was someone over 10 years ago who I still think about, but I don't think it was the same for him as it was for me. It was a very intense period of my life. I still can't quite come to terms with it all.

    I've been married now for almost 7 years to a wonderful man and have a son with him. It's not as intense, but it's got staying power. I love him, but even more I respect and admire him.

    I'm still learning about love.
     
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    From my experience, my first love was the most painful love, but it truly was the best love. God, I miss him.
     
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    Every love is different. It's not just a question of more or less.
     
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    my first love was good and bad in so many ways.......the biggest prob was finding out he was screwing everything and anything behind my back......i still think of him occassionally but theres no way id go back...... he is a serial player and treats all his partners this way.......problem is he always describes himself as genuine and looking for a soulmate when he advertises......but once he has hooked you hes off with someone else behind your back........bit sad really...he was a nice guy besides his behaviour.
     
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