First Masturbation - Self Discovery

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  1. Bboy

    Bboy New Member

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    I was 11 when I first J/O

    I did not understand sexual matters at that age.I was in the shower and for no reason I clamped both hands [straight & vertical] *like when the ref signals a goal in Aussie Rules Football* on both sides and started to roll both hands backwards and forwards like a rolling pin.

    I keep on doing this for a while.I guess I was just curious and playing around. :tongue: Then after awhile I felt a slight burning sensation,and perplexed I stopped.But then I thought,"like all boys",what would happen if I continued lol

    So I started again and the sensation got more intense.But this time there was some form of pleasure that I had never experienced before. woohoo! coolies* heh.....I stopped,and thought......what is this nice feeling "bizzo".I couldn't work it out.Why had no-one told me about this form of pleasure before!! :tongue: .Anyway,I continued and this time the pleasure reached a big intensity...lasted about 10 sec's and then dissapeard slowley.WTF??..What the hell just happened?? lol

    From there on it was a proverbial J/O **frenzy** :wank: :biggrin1:

    Boys will be boys

    I felt I was in unknown territory cause I did not know what had happened and what all this was about.I felt kinda in the dark,and insecure about it all.

    My question is: Should parents breach the subject of masturbation to there sons around the age of puberty 10 -12 with proper literature in order to alleviate any fears when on the journey of self discovery.Cause I would have felt more in control of the situation,and obviously would have given Kudos points out..... within my own thoughts. btw: I was only given sex education at school when I was 12....ish.But, by that stage I had already been Jacking off..... like *The Fast And The Furious* for about 1 yr. :tongue:

    Did you have a similar experience?.
     
  2. B_Danceswithlamps

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    Hmmm. A tough subject. If i had a son and had a really close and good relationship with him, and we understood that we could talk about anything, then sure. But if we were a little distant, then I wouldn't delve deep into the subject. I was always close with my dad, but we never talked about it and i was fine.

    My experience: Wasn't anything random that I suddenly did. I must have been 11 or 12. I wondered, if sex works like that, why wouldn't it work with your hand? So i tried it. (being uncircumsized, i needed no lube/anything like that.) Hehe. I was dead afraid at orgasm, because my cock started spasming the way it does when you shoot (but i didn't, because i was too young to shoot anything), but i didnt' know that and i thought i had screwed something up... hehe. :D
     
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    My recollection is that I was laying in a warm bath one evening when I was about 10 and, out of boredom, I started fingering my foreskin. Inevitably I got a full-blown erection and I rolled the skin back and then forward again. It felt good, so I did it again. I don't think that it went anywhere near an orgasm the first few times that I did this in the bath but eventually it became habitual (because it felt so good) and ultimately my grip became tighter and the retraction and propulsion of the foreskin became more manic as I felt the pleasure of the skin riding backwards and forwards across the tender head. Finally, I don't remember when but I remember it happening, I came for the first time in the bath and had to sit amongst all this white, sticky goo floating in the bathwater. Once I discovered that when it attaches itself to your leg or whatetever other body part it's difficult to shift I progressed to using a face flannel to ejaculate onto, rinsing it out after my bath. Next stage was those regular erections when sitting on the toilet and the inevitable temptation to have a wank whilst taking a dump - and finally the regular nighttime and early morning wanks in bed.
     
  4. D_Sheffield Thongbynder

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    I guess times have changed considerably since my first JO experience. Schoolyard talk piqued our curiosity, which all of us satisfied without dreaming of discussing it with parents.
     
  5. NIMBUS

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    Absolutely. It's not a subject that I would ever dream of bringing up in front of my parents. I was even embarrassed when, at a family gathering a couple of years ago with my mother, father, sister and brother-in-law, my sister mentioned in conversation that my 12-year old nephew had "started playing with himself". Too much information!!! :eek:
     
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    My first masturbation experience was whe I was six years old. A seven year old friend asked me if I had ever done it. Of course I didn't know what he was talking about. His older brother had shown him. Needless to say when I started stroking myself and became enlarged the feeling was great. We were both too young to ejaculate but the feeling was something I knew I would feel many times over. In our younger days, kids talked about it even on the school yard. Those of us who had lots of kids in the neighborhood, usually ended up in circle jerks where sizes became a issue also. My parents wouldn't have known where to start or what to say about masturbation issues. And if they had they would have probably said all the wrong things.
     
  7. Bboy

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    Blimey!.6 yrs old hehe.That I believe,as we all develop and learn at a different rate.Also because as a gay person I know of someone who knew they were gay at the age of 5 yrs.I didn't fully know untill I was 13 yrs.But that's another story.

    Thanks to everyone who posted on this issue.I'm sold on the principle that "imformed decisions" are the best option.By that I mean ,if and when, I ever have a son.I plan to provide him with books about puberty and self-pleasure from the age of 10...ish.At least, I will know that I did not show ignorance on the matter.Communication is *Gold*.And if he saiz "hey thanx dad" and I get a "Hi five",then that's the bonus :wink:
     
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    This reminds me of when a former surgeon general suggested that we start teaching children how to masturbate as a way of promoting "safe sex."

    David Brinkley, the old dude who used to host the ABC Sunday morning show, was funny when he said, "Why would we start teaching something that has never needed to be taught before?" :biggrin1:

    In all seriousness, I'm a long way off from having kids. But, if I had a son and I thought he could handle it, I would like to dialogue with him (**a bit**) about the subject. I NEVER would want him to feel ashamed of jerking off -- I want him to know that it's normal, natural, and that every man does it... I think it would have been cool if my dad had expressed that much to me. Unfortunately, when I was in middle/high school, none of my buddies admitted to jacking off. I thought I was the only one.
     
  9. Freddie53

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    My sons are now all in their twenties. When my sons were in elementary school before puberty started, I explained to them everything.

    I told them about wet dreams and why they happen and that it was good for the prostate to masturbate. I told them it should be a private thing in the bathroom or in their bederoom alone. I told them there was absolutely no religious reason not to do it.

    I explained what sexual urges are and that sex was for two people who truly love each other and that is is the highest form of love between two people. I todl them it was wrong to just have sex with a girl because they were horny. I told them hat masturbation was a much better choice if the sex act was just to get releif and have a good experience.

    I explained all about penis sizes, development of girls and all. But a the same time, we all remained modest. I don't know my boys erect sizes and they don't know mine either. If they can remember that far back then they remmber what I look like soft. When they were very little they wanted to take a bath with Dad,. but that ended about age 5 to 6 or so.

    I never made any effort to see their physical development. Once or twice an occassion just happened and I would see one of them very briefly.

    And as a youth director at church I was and still am the same way. i held very open discussions with them, but disucssion of individual penis sizes was not appropriate. And I am modest around boys on youth trips. The discussion of my dick size is totally inappropriate around boys in normal circumstances.


    The key is that this disucssion should happen before puberty. Before boys even wonder about such things. At young ages, they think nothing of walking around nude. There is no embarasment or shame. But once puberty starts, most boys are confused and don't know any thiing else to do but become very private especially around adults.

    The mistake most parents make is deciding to have the "talk" when their sons have been masturbating for several year, Dads want to call thier sons in who are alrady shaving and have hair on thier legs and have "the talk" If the father has made no effort to talk to thier sons, it is usually to late to suddenly start having conversations aoubt sex.

    I believe in discussing anything with your children as soon as they are able to comprehend it and that includes issues of a sexual nature.

    As reens my boys didn't tell me when they mastrubated. I told them that was somehting they didn't have to share. Not that they are in their twenties, they share "too much information" sometimes.

    I wouldn't change a thing.

    As an elementary teacher, it was my responsibility to teach
    Growth and Development." There was no subject I didn't cover. I had them write out their questions and put them in a box. I had a male registrered nurse in the room with me. We answered every quesiton including how gays do it. I never had a complaint from a parent and I taught that for several years.
     
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    The first time I ever masterbated to the point of ejaculation was when I was 10 years old, and taking a bath at my gramma's house. I had been getting hardons for years before that, but that was the first time I had done anything with it. I remember it started with a warm washcloth as I was washing. It felt good so I started rubbing it around and whatnot. After a bit when I finally shot, it hit me in the face as I was laying there. I remember how good it felt, but for some reason I felt ubber guilty afterwards, even though I didnt really know what had happened totally.

    I never had any sex talks growing up. What I knew came from talking with one of my few friends; he lived across the road. The rest came from finding and old school sex/health textbook in the bottom of the bathroom closet also at my gramma's. Hmmm.... kinda sad now that I think about it.

    -B
     
  11. kenshin_281

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    I was 4 or 5 when i first started to play with myself. I didnt know what I was doing. I just knew that it felt good whenever I did it. It wasnt til I was 11 that I was able to shoot semen out of my cock. The first time it happened though I was in the middle of a church service playing with my self inconspicuously cause I had been bored. I freaked out cause I thought something broke cause nothing like that had ever happened before. I went to the bathroom to see what had happened and found that a had a fairly good amount of cum in my underwear but not so much that it seemed through. :eek:
     
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    I was about 5 when I really started touching and playing with my penis..... I shot semen for the first time when I was 11..... I caught our ranch hand in the barn playing with his and shooting as well... So, I kinda had the idea of what it was all about, once I became older.. Just knew it felt good and am still doing it daily....:tongue:
     
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    All right, I’ll grab the shaft on this thread and give this a new phallic curve. Yes, I discovered the Manly Art of Choking the Chicken at an early age. One magical night in the summer of my 11 th year, I discovered that trying to get rid of a boner by rubbing it would lead to an explosive mess. I was hooked. I was also pretty damn naive. I didn’t know what they called this, but, damn, I wasn’t going to stop. An insatiable abuse of my manhood proceeded for many years. My father walked in once and was horrified—“Don’t do THAT!!” I told him I had an itch. I’m not sure he bought it , but the minute he was gone, I took care of that itch with great style. After that I found better times and places to practice my new hobby.
     
  14. davince

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    i was a really late bloomer. i dont think i began getting pubic hair until iwas around 13 or maybe a little later. i wish i could return to that time period for a while because it was the best masturbation i ever had. i could jack off as hard as i wanted for an hour or more without climax . i got to where i would go to my room and watch tv shows and never stop jerking except to change arms because they got so tired. i was not mature enough to reach climax. every stroke felt as good as the next and i learned early on to use plenty of lotion. i didnt have an older brother to learn things from .i didnt know what a climax or orgasm was because i had never had one but i could make that thing feel good for a long long time. boy if i could just do that now. then one day i found some thing in the bathroom cabinet. itwas a vibrator with a soft rubber cone shaped end that fit my penis perfectly. i still wasnt fully mature so i could hold it against my penis for as long as i wanted with no friction or lotion and enjoy constant pleasure for what seemed like hours, i had to make myself stop. but this was a lot of stimulation for the little fellow and finally one day i just felt like i exploded in pleasure. my hour long fun times quickly started getting shorter and shorter but that climax made up for alot of it. about 1 min with the vibrator. an era of pleasure had ended for me. i guess this is a story of my first climax instead of myfirst masturbation
     
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    I started playing with my cock at 7 years, don't know how I started on it, but I found I loved it and it quickly became a daily habit. Obviously I couldn't ejaculate then but from the beginning I did have very intense dry orgasms and by 9 years old I was doing it several times every day and for sometimes for quite long periods, and having several dry orgasms every session. I never talked to anyone else about it until 11 years when I went to an English boys prep school and discovered that everybody was doing it and most boys talked about it quite openly and laughed about it. I was a small skinny kid for my age but I found my cock was already a bit longer and certainly thicker than my friends, both when soft and hard. I have always had a bit of a private theory that an early start, and very frequent masturbation before puberty even begins, can loosen up the youthful cock and make it grow more at that stage, but I have no idea if it is true. Physically I was a late developer, so all this activity certainly didnt bring on early puberty. I didn't spurt until I was 13, and had no public hair until nearly 15, and i am still small and skinny...no jokes about stunting growth please. But when I was 15 I was 5ft 2ins and 87 pounds and my cock was 5 inches full soft and nearly 8 hard, so I looked a bit weird.
     
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    My first time was when I was maybe 12... I remember I was in my room and I started to play with myself.. I had done it before but never the point to ejaculation/orgasm. Well, when it got up to the last thirtys econds... I just literally COULD-NOT-STOP. It was impossible for me to stop. So, I assume it's natural to do it as noone told me what it was, about it, how to do it... and so on.
     
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    I Must Have Been About 9 Or 10 And Had Been Getting Hardons For Sometime. I Ask Diffrent Family Members About It And Their Respond Was To Just Be Quite And It Would Go Away. Anyway One Nite My Dad Was Giving Me A Bath And He Notice That My Penis Was Hard And Seen That The Skin Didn't Go Back Like It Should So A Dr. Appointment Was Made A For The First Time My Dad Took Me To The Dr. In The Examing Room The Nurse Told My Dad To Undress Me And The Dr. Would Be In Shortly. Waiting For The Doctor My Penis Got Hard I Was So Scared I Didn't On What Was Going On . The Doctor Came In He First Listen To My Heart Looked In My Ears, Mouth Etc. Finally He Laid Me Back On To The Table Pressed On My Stomach And Felt Around Finally Taking Ahold Of My Penis. He Pulled The Pee Hole Opened And Felt Of My Balls. Then He Turned To My Dad And Said That My Foreskin Was Still Attached And Need To Be Pulled Back And Did He Want To See. Dad Said Yes He Knew About My Foreskin And To Go Ahead And Do What Need To Be Done The Doctor Turned Took Ahold Of My Penis And Pull The Foreskin Back With A Little Bit Or Pain And Some Pleasure Too. He Then Told Me And My Dad How Treat It Gave Me A Few Strokes To My Penis And Told Me To Get Dress. On The Way Home Dad Said For Me To Be Sure And Keep The Skin Pull Back. That Nite During My Bath Dad Reminded Me Of What The Doctor Had Said. This Lead Me To Play With Myself And About A Year Later To My Frist Time. AND MANY GOOD TIMES SINCE THEN LOL.
     
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    I Must Have Been About 9 Or 10 And Had Been Getting Hardons For Sometime. I Ask Diffrent Family Members About It And Their Respond Was To Just Be Quite And It Would Go Away. Anyway One Nite My Dad Was Giving Me A Bath And He Notice That My Penis Was Hard And Seen That The Skin Didn't Go Back Like It Should So A Dr. Appointment Was Made A For The First Time My Dad Took Me To The Dr. In The Examing Room The Nurse Told My Dad To Undress Me And The Dr. Would Be In Shortly. Waiting For The Doctor My Penis Got Hard I Was So Scared I Didn't KNOW What Was Going On . The Doctor Came In He First Listen To My Heart Looked In My Ears, Mouth Etc. Finally He Laid Me Back On To The Table Pressed On My Stomach And Felt Around Finally Taking Ahold Of My Penis. He Pulled The Pee Hole Opened And Felt Of My Balls. Then He Turned To My Dad And Said That My Foreskin Was Still Attached And Need To Be Pulled Back And Did He Want To See. Dad Said Yes He Knew About My Foreskin And To Go Ahead And Do What Need To Be Done The Doctor Turned Took Ahold Of My Penis And Pull The Foreskin Back With A Little Bit Or Pain And Some Pleasure Too. He Then Told Me And My Dad How Treat It Gave Me A Few Strokes To My Penis And Told Me To Get Dress. On The Way Home Dad Said For Me To Be Sure And Keep The Skin Pull Back. That Nite During My Bath Dad Reminded Me Of What The Doctor Had Said. This Lead Me To Play With Myself And About A Year Later To My Frist Time. AND MANY GOOD TIMES SINCE THEN LOL.
     
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    When i was 10 I heard about getting off from older boys and tried it of course at home. it felt funny and finally i got an orgasm. i came and i was surprised although i knew about sperm. since then i have been jerking off daily :D

    i started to get pubic hair, my dick became larger, balls started to hang and i was trying to hide these changes with real tight briefs. when i was 11-12 i was known as "sausage-boy" among other boys. once after the gym class couple schoolmates tried to quess my dick size when it's hard.

    that was embarrasing and i started to go and get shower as quickly as possible before others.
     
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    Yeah for me, the experience was a pleasant one but it's not that way for every guy, so I do tend to think we should tell young people about the pleasure they'll experience, so they're not afraid of pleasure. That seems like the most damaging result of NOT communicating about the *orgasm*...for boys, your dick will spasm, it'll feel great, you might even make liquid, etc. I'm not sure how to say it, or if it truly SHOULD be said. Just a general feeling I have. This aspect of it probably should not be taught in school, but talked about in the context of the family relationships that are most suited for that.

    For me, it happened as a result of wet dreams....had those for a good few months before I realized I could touch it & make it happen on its own. Oh, the pleasure of it, it was amazing.