First Orgasm Advice

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by manstable, Apr 3, 2009.

  1. manstable

    manstable New Member

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    My girlfriend of 2 years has never in her life had an orgasm. She enjoys vibrators, but can never orgasm from them. They make her tense up her entire body, perhaps building up to something, but then it all releases and she says the sensation dissipates. We have great sex, but she occasionally gets frustrated by her inability to orgasm. I guess I'm looking for suggestions on anything that might help. I try not to make sex a search for the elusive O because then it becomes tedious and frustrating.
    I thought what I'd do is list some things she likes, and perhaps people out there will have insight into what combinations of things, or maybe new stuff, would be a good idea.
    Likes:
    getting railed, really hard
    the idea of me using her body
    a vibrator on the clit during sex, or before sex
    getting fingered, but lately the vibrator takes precedence
    being dominated
    the occasional finger in the ass during sex

    Anyone out there with similar experiences or some kind of insight? It's appreciated
     
  2. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    I had a LOT of trouble having my first orgasm. I think it was because i really didn't understand what was happening and once id build up to a certain point i would assume something was wrong and stop. So possibly its as simple as your girl only needs to relax and let herself lose control.
     
  3. dongalong

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    Research (search LPSG and google) :

    Cunnilingus
    The G-spot
    The epicenter
    The AFE zone
    Female ejaculation

    Target those spots next time you have sex.


    No more vibrators for a while - her clitoris will become more sensitive over time.

    Not all women are orgasmic, some don't have much knowledge about their orgasms, some have health issues that prevent orgasms etc. so keep your expectations low and she might surprise you some day.
     
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    It's a myth, women don't have orgasms. :)
     
  5. D_Betty Beanbags

    D_Betty Beanbags New Member

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    Never in her life?? :eek:

    I know lots of people/sources say to not use a vibrator for a while to 're-sensitize' the clit, but I disagree.

    It took a lot of time with a vibrator before I had my first real orgasm. Has she tried a Hitachi wand? They are supposed to be the best. I have an older 'back massager' that is my handy-dandy standby, my steady date. :tongue: I bought it twelve years ago, actually.
     
  6. crossy

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    The Hitachi Wand has been around along time.
     
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