First relationship in a few years…proceed with caution?

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Ok first a little background. I’m a Latino-American (parents are Cuban and Columbian born and met in college in the US) 32 yo gay man. I’m an ER/Trauma DR working out of a large hospital. I’m entering my second year as a board certified physician. Because of the demands and hours of med school and residency I have not had a relationship in 7 years. Just casual dating and hookups to keep me sane and to relieve stress.
I recently met and started dating this amazing guy who works at the hospital in radiology. He checks all of my boxes both in and out of bed. He is 7 years younger (25). But my heart is starting to catch feelings. This is the first guy in a long time that I’ve let get to me, emotionally. I get the same butterflies in my stomach if we are just at dinner or watching a movie or in the bedroom. I just want him around 24/7. Am I loving too fast? I’m worried that I’m just a fling to him because of the age difference. Any advice would be appreciated.
 

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Ok first a little background. I’m a Latino-American (parents are Cuban and Columbian born and met in college in the US) 32 yo gay man. I’m an ER/Trauma DR working out of a large hospital. I’m entering my second year as a board certified physician. Because of the demands and hours of med school and residency I have not had a relationship in 7 years. Just casual dating and hookups to keep me sane and to relieve stress.
I recently met and started dating this amazing guy who works at the hospital in radiology. He checks all of my boxes both in and out of bed. He is 7 years younger (25). But my heart is starting to catch feelings. This is the first guy in a long time that I’ve let get to me, emotionally. I get the same butterflies in my stomach if we are just at dinner or watching a movie or in the bedroom. I just want him around 24/7. Am I loving too fast? I’m worried that I’m just a fling to him because of the age difference. Any advice would be appreciated.
You should give it a shot. I've been with my husband for almost 8 years and you should know there is no perfect time to be ready for love. Love comes and it's up to you to act on it or let it go but know you won't have forever in terms of finding true love. The older you get, the harder it will be. I am starting medical school soon as well but I understand my marriage will not stop my career goals pr any other endeavor I have for this life. Good luck.
 
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Let me know how it goes bro. Make room for love and it will make room for you. Good luck.
Thanks for the advice! I was fidgeting with my wine glass at dinner and he asked, “What’s on your mind?” I just blurted out that I thought he was amazing and that I’m catching feelings for him and this is no longer something casual for me. And it scares me to admit it because I hoping that you feel the same way. And then I said, “Would you consider being my boyfriend? “
He smiled and said “I was trying to figure out how to say the same thing to you, but I didn’t think you’d seriously be with someone as young as me.” I smiled and chuckled and told him I’ve never met anyone like him, and that he was perfect, well almost.
Let’s just say we didn’t stick around for dessert. It looks like I have a boyfriend. :)
 

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Thanks for the advice! I was fidgeting with my wine glass at dinner and he asked, “What’s on your mind?” I just blurted out that I thought he was amazing and that I’m catching feelings for him and this is no longer something casual for me. And it scares me to admit it because I hoping that you feel the same way. And then I said, “Would you consider being my boyfriend? “
He smiled and said “I was trying to figure out how to say the same thing to you, but I didn’t think you’d seriously be with someone as young as me.” I smiled and chuckled and told him I’ve never met anyone like him, and that he was perfect, well almost.
Let’s just say we didn’t stick around for dessert. It looks like I have a boyfriend. :)
Congrats my man. Enjoy this time getting to know your new guy.
 
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You should give it a shot. I've been with my husband for almost 8 years and you should know there is no perfect time to be ready for love. Love comes and it's up to you to act on it or let it go but know you won't have forever in terms of finding true love. The older you get, the harder it will be. I am starting medical school soon as well but I understand my marriage will not stop my career goals pr any other endeavor I have for this life. Good luck.
Thanks for the advice! I was fidgeting with my wine glass at dinner and he asked, “What’s on your mind?” I just blurted out that I thought he was amazing and that I’m catching feelings for him and this is no longer something casual for me. And it scares me to admit it because I hoping that you feel the same way. And then I said, “Would you consider being my boyfriend? “
He smiled and said “I was trying to figure out how to say the same thing to you, but I didn’t think you’d seriously be with someone as young as me.” I smiled and chuckled and told him I’ve never met anyone like him, and that he was perfect, well almost.
Let’s just say we didn’t stick around for dessert. It looks like I have a boyfriend. :)
If he is on this sight, I would proceed with great caution! otherwise, have fun
 

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I'm 6 months into my first relationship in over 10 years.

I go from being off-the-charts happy to terrified.

I keep having to remind myself that this new person can never hurt me the way the last one did and that true love is also sacrifice.

Cheers, good luck
 
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I'm 6 months into my first relationship in over 10 years.

I go from being off-the-charts happy to terrified.

I keep having to remind myself that this new person can never hurt me the way the last one did and that true love is also sacrifice.

Cheers, good luck
Good luck! Don’t let your thoughts get the better of you. This is going to be great!!!
 
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Let’s just say we didn’t stick around for dessert. It looks like I have a boyfriend. :)
That's nice! I think there is a sigma about younger-older relationships that transcends even gay or straight. Strictly from my online world alone, I'm still always surprised when a much younger guys wants to chat or meetup.

My only concern is he works with you. Not saying it's a bad thing. And maybe there's enough space around there to allow this to be fruitful. But in the "old days" there was a saying: Don't get your sex where you pick up your checks. But times have changed. And love is still love... So enjoy!
 
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That's nice! I think there is a sigma about younger-older relationships that transcends even gay or straight. Strictly from my online world alone, I'm still always surprised when a much younger guys wants to chat or meetup.

My only concern is he works with you. Not saying it's a bad thing. And maybe there's enough space around there to allow this to be fruitful. But in the "old days" there was a saying: Don't get your sex where you pick up your checks. But times have changed. And love is still love... So enjoy!
He’s in another department. He works in radiology and I’m an ER trauma physician. So we really don’t run into each other normally. And he’s 7 years younger, which doesn’t seem to be a problem, right now?
 

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Ok first a little background. I’m a Latino-American (parents are Cuban and Columbian born and met in college in the US) 32 yo gay man. I’m an ER/Trauma DR working out of a large hospital. I’m entering my second year as a board certified physician. Because of the demands and hours of med school and residency I have not had a relationship in 7 years. Just casual dating and hookups to keep me sane and to relieve stress.
I recently met and started dating this amazing guy who works at the hospital in radiology. He checks all of my boxes both in and out of bed. He is 7 years younger (25). But my heart is starting to catch feelings. This is the first guy in a long time that I’ve let get to me, emotionally. I get the same butterflies in my stomach if we are just at dinner or watching a movie or in the bedroom. I just want him around 24/7. Am I loving too fast? I’m worried that I’m just a fling to him because of the age difference. Any advice would be appreciated.
Enjoy to the fullest but do be careful. I thought because of my years of not being in a binding relationship or even having that someone special that I had grown pretty strong not having someone. Then when I started seeing guys I discovered how weak I was for affection and love. I find I can fall so quickly when chemistry is right.

Have fun but always be on guard for YOU.
 
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Enjoy to the fullest but do be careful. I thought because of my years of not being in a binding relationship or even having that someone special that I had grown pretty strong not having someone. Then when I started seeing guys I discovered how weak I was for affection and love. I find I can fall so quickly when chemistry is right.

Have fun but always be on guard for YOU.
Thank you! I fall too easily and love generously. It is a gift and a fault. Thank you for your thoughtfulness and concern and sharing that you are similar. We givers enjoy many blessings, but also get hurt easily. :)