First Time Anal

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  1. hackalive

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    Hi guys,

    Im really at a loss to how to prep myself for anal, im 18 virgin with guys and want to know what I should do. Fingering? But I have no idea what to do or how to start out :(

    I have lube (a requirement i believe :)) but for the rest I have no idea :p

    Cheers in advance guys (& gals)
     
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    1. Always use a lubricant as there is never enough lubricant. Unlike the vagina, the small amount of mucus a rectum produces is completely insufficient for anal intercourse. Therefore anal penetration should always be accompanied with an ample supply of lubricant. Water-based lubricants are latex-compatible and highly recommended.
    2. Stop immediately if your partner asks you to stop. If your partner is too tense to experiment, all forms of anal penetration will cause a great deal of pain. I am not saying to stop trying completely, just don’t push yourself into your partner, as this will only result in a bad experience for them, and make them less willing to try again.
    3. Take it slow. When experimenting with anal sex for the first few times, go slow. There is no rush and if you take your time you will probably both enjoy the experience. There should not be a great deal of forcing required. If lubricated properly, an object should slide in somewhat easily. We recommend using your fingers ahead of time to loosen your partner up first for the first few times.
    4. Always communicate with your partner. As with any sexual activity, communication is essential. Talk about what you want to do, discuss beforehand your desires, tell your partner what you like and don't like while engaging in anal intercourse. Basically, be open about your preferences and feelings, and, be receptive to theirs.
     
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    I'd say you def need lube for the first time...

    I'd always use a condom as well, for 2 reasons - the obvious one about preventing STIs and second, if you decide half way through it hurts too much, at least he can take it off and you won't feel too uneasy about sucking him instead hahaha

    about an hour before you do it, you should douche (look it up on the internet) - that way you'll be able to avoid him pulling out and having shit on his dick which is massively embarrassing! (that never happens in porn cos they all do it)

    When you're actually down to it, don't let him just stick it in there, see if he'll rim you first to relax you (he might... he might not) and def get him to finger you to loosen you up... then start off slow. You could also practice fingering yourself with 1, then 2, then 3 fingers to get used to it... can be kinda fun too :p
     
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    How did people have anal sex before lubrication was invented?
     
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    Saliva has always been popular, and works as well as anything if you can get enough of it in place.
     
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    painfully?? :cool:
     
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    Lubrication "invented?" It's always been around. Ox carts existed hundreds of years ago; no doubt they used animal fat or some such thing to lubricate the crude bearings. Since early ancient times, people have been using olive oil and coconut oil for various purposes.
     
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    Another important thing for being penetrated, (and I wish I had known this the first time anyone did it to me,) is to 'push' like you are trying to, well, you know.... Since one should have already douched, (very important, using ONLY water in there,) there is no chance of anything coming out, but you will be opening the sphincter and making it easier for the penis to enter. By the way, douching is good for cleanlyness, obviously, but also good to make sure there is more room for a penis inside. A penis hitting waste inside someone can be very painful for the bottom.

    Another thing is that it is generally best for the first time for the receptive partner to be on top and totally in control of the penis entering until the anus is totally comfortable. Having a penis forced into an anus, no matter how tender the top might be, can be very painful, while one entering this way, with the bottom expanding his anus and controlling the initial entrance, can be incredibly pleasurable.

    As for having a top rim an ass before fucking it, that is only common curtasy, in my opinion, not to mention incredibly hot and pleasurable for the bottom. :)
     
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    I used a little spit and determination..I made it work. When i was 20 i was going out with an 18 yo guy..I had really just met him on a friendly basis..He attended the same swim club..We' say hi from time to time..He was smokin hot, figured he was straight..Anyway for some reason he didnt have a license to drive..I was leaving the pool one day he asked me for a ride home..We started to hang out and do what most kids our age did at the time and party..One night we were driving in the country away from the city lights..He asked me if he could drive and if i let him he would have a surprise for me later..I let him drive all the time thinking what was up his sleeve? After i took the wheel back over we drove a short distance and he says take a right up there. I did and parked..We got out of the car and he grabbed a blanket in my back seat, lays it out and then says here's your surprise. He took off his pants,lied down and said to me,let's fuck.I was floored. It came out of the blue. I didnt have any lube so i got down and started to rim him.He was really clean which made me think he had planned all of this.I worked him up slowly eventually slid a finger then two in and he was ready. I am 53 now and remember this like it was yesterday. It was still one of the best fucks i ever had.I didnt have much experience and was surprised when he blew a load while i was fucking him. I didnt know at the time that was possible.I did not plan on telling such a long true story but after you read this you may understand how to loosen someone up and get comfortable before you do the deed....Good Luck!
     
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    There's also oil and lard. Don't forget butter, too.

    People are creative. They'll figure out a way to do it.

    You should do a search. There have been so many great and informative threads about how to have anal sex. I've given enough tips to write a book.
     
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    Start five more threads on this same subject to go with the 42 threads that are already on here maybe someone will come up with new words of wisdom.
     
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    Use a good lube, there are many to choose from, practice safe sex and go slow you should be ok.
     
  13. D_LeonardoDeCrapio

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    Be in the mood, Use Lube, Go as Slow as possible. On intial penetration go in until there is some resistance, and slide out, push back in, but making sure it's in farther. Continue until the full cock is inserted.
    Use Lube. Use Lube. Use Lube.
    And make sure you're in the mood and to enjoy it try to get your partner to go towards the prostate.
     
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