First time - bi?

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  1. joeyjoey

    joeyjoey New Member

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    I have a friend that is gay and he is interested in me for some reason. He knows I am straight but has made it clear that he is interested. I have never experienced a bi-sexual encounter before. I have fantasized about it many times but never acted. I have always heard that fantasies should stay just that. But I am really curious. I am not sure how I will react afterward though. It’s kind of like having sex with a complete stranger, seems like a good idea until your done. What do you guys think I should do? I know this is my choice; I’m just looking for a little input.
     
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    If you really wanna give it a try, and it seems that you do, go into it with an understanding that it wont effect your friendship. I have done that and it works well. Nothing changes the friendship, whether you do it again or not.
     
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    Hey, If you fantasized about it. Maybe you should give it a try. You might like it!
     
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    Go for it if you are really interested but use protection.
     
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    ok from the other side
    I always thought of myself as gay
    always liked guys better but I dated girls in high school.
    I fooled around with girls but never came till 1996 an ex girl friend and she became a close friend. we were having a party and lots of guys were there
    I told her no 3 times the 4th time she put a condom on me and rode me for all I
    was worth. and i loved it
    i still prefer guys but I like girls sometimes too
     
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    You only live once! My motto: I will try most anything once, if I like it I may do it again!!! Go for it
     
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    The guy is a friend of your and he may well have an interest in you sexually and you may be close to him as a friend, the question you should ask yourself is could you see yourself having sex with him if he was not a friend or indeed another guy. You have to be settled in your own mind that sex with another guy is something you really really want to do, just be mindful that if you try it and its not for you you could screw not only your friendship but also your own mind.

    Think carefully think again and then if you are content

    go for it being bi sexual is so liberating :smile:
     
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    Try it if you both feel comfortable about it, tell him your not sure, because you don't want to mess up you life, if it's not for you, or you friendship with him

    If you still are both happy, try wanking over some porn together, if you don't like that, then nothing else is gonna work. If still happen try wanking each other, blowjobs etc, if you don't like it or it does feel right don't do it.

    But do use protection, or the may NOT live longer enough to regret it.

    Good luck
     
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    I would say that if you are really interested , go for it. You must call the shots though and let it be clear what you are comfortable with. I doubt he would be dissapointed with anything you said you wanted to try. And remember not to doubt your sexuality after. Since you are straight (maybe not 100 percent) your feelings toward women will not change!
     
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    .........If you dont try, you will never know :wink:
     
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    You have a friend who is gay who is interested in you for some reason...

    ...I'd say it was sex. How long have you known him? Did this friend just recently appear in your life or is he long long time ago term?

    If you can't envision it, don't do it. The pee wee gallery here would like you to jump, but I'll say it. Think it over. If it doesn't feel right or good, don't do it. If you can't envision yourself holding and man and giving him a kiss, I'd say you wouldn't be up to the cock in the mouth portion of the encounter.
     
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    You have a point if his friend is interested in a romantic relationship,, However maybe joeyjoey just wants a blowjob or something less involved and maybe that is all his friend wants to give him..kisisng a man is something much more personal
     
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    I think its worth a shot, just go into it with open eyes. There is no guarantee that you will like it, or that it will not change things between you and your friend. Its a choice you will have to make. What is more important to you, trying gay sex with someone you are already comfortable with, and possibly hurting the friendship, or leaving well enough alone?
     
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    Thanks for the input... It gives me something to think about. I appreciate it.
     
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