Hello all, this is my first post. This is kind of an odd question, but here we go... I am engaged to a girl, and we are waiting to have intercourse until we are married. I know this seems odd anymore, please respect our personal beliefs. We are both very spiritual. So, we have been trying to abstain from anything beyond passionate kissing and body contact for months now, and finally gave in performing oral sex on each other this week. I am 8" long and 6" around and a virgin. She has only had sex with one guy, and performed oral on a few. I expected to cum fairly quickly, as I don't last more than 5 minutes or so masturbating. But I got hard and lasted for a while without ejaculating. I've started doing Kegels in preparation for our wedding night, but only for a week or so. Part of this is because the guys she's done oral for have all been much smaller, and she's not used to dealing with a big one. She's told me that it hurts her jaw to hold it that wide open for very long, and so she can only go down on me in for a fairly short period of time. Still, she was working on me off and on in small spurts for probably 30 minutes and I still didn't climax, but I was hard and definitely enjoying it. Does this seem unusual? I had a few mental blocks messing with me. Firstly, it's hard to resist the urge to just have sex with her, because she really has craved size and is very excited that I can give her that much size. The only guy she's had sex with was very small and never gave her an orgasm, and none of the guys who have fingered her have given her one either. So I want to be able to share that with her. Beyond that, I fingered her, and she can take 3 fingers, and is deeper than I can even hit with my middle finger, and was increasingly pleasured with each additional finger. So we both know that I'm going to give her her first orgasm (and she'll be able to take my size), and that's exciting, but we have to wait, which sucks. Secondly, I felt bad that I hadn't cummed for her, because we're very in love and unselfish about pleasing each other, and I know she wants to be able to push me to climax, so it almost like after a while I was trying to climax on purpose for her, and that just doesn't work. So my questions are this: Is it unusual to last a lot longer during oral or even vaginal sex than you do when masturbating? Do you think being mentally distracted with that other crap had something to do with it? Also, the other guys she's done oral on were small enough she could fit them entirely in her mouth, and they cummed very quickly, so she really doesn't know a whole lot about what to do with a larger one, or how to use her hands or anything. If any of you ladies have any tips on that, that would be great, because she's asked me to help her out with that. We don't plan on having a whole lot of oral sex until we're married (and then there will be a lot of it, because we are both very horny), but until then I'd like to be able to help her. Any help from you guys would be awesome. Thanks!