first time experience and after

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  1. foumaleka

    foumaleka New Member

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    hi there ladies..
    i tried having sex but apparently the thought of pain stopped me.
    well i just wanted to know what first sex pain can be compared to. what exactly did u feel the first time he actually penetrated you in.
    for example, cutting your finger., menstrual pain. etc
    this would help me alot. Be very frank about it please.
    and also the next few times or days you did it, how was the pain like
    did it reduce..same????
     
  2. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    Im guessing your next time will work out better now that your over that first intital bit of being scared and hopefully you know you can trust the guy your with the be gentle with you. It is painful but soon enough you will enjoy it, the pain only lasts a few minutes.

    And the pain isnt as bad as you must be thinking, honestly. Just make him go slow and use lots LOTS of lube if you need it. Also remember no one is expecting you to be a porn star so keep it simple.
     
  3. wonderland

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    It is individualized. Some people have a terrible first experience and others have a wonderful one. Mine was not painful.
    If you are all that worried buy yourself a small dildo start using it.
     
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    Depends on his size. Not so much length, as girth.

    If he is thick, then he's a 'hole stretcher' lol. But as long as you go slow, have lots of foreplay and touching and sucking and kissing and build up to insertion it will be fine.

    Ask him to just put a tiny bit of himself inside you and hold it there til you're comfortable and then push a bit more, then more etc. He could kiss your neck or lips etc while doing it to help you.

    The main thing is NOT TO WORRY. If you're scared, it will be very bad. Be brave, and he might let you suck on his lollipop hehe.
     
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    For me, the first time was not that gr8 i was very, nervous and scared and my bf was not even huge or anything!.. i did not expereince pain or anything..once i got comfortable with it all i had a lot off fun and have been since!! :smile: just dont worry and have fun!!
     
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    If you are that aprehensive about the pain you will tense which makes matters worse.
    I know it was painful the first time for me, but can`t remember what it was like really. It was also his first time, so he was awkward, and we could have done with more foreplay from my point of view.
    In hindsight we should have spent more naked fooling about time, and got round to it gradually. Even if he only sticks it between your legs the first time its a start.
     
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    how old are you? how old is he?
     
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