First Time Hookup Anxiety

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For a while I've been wanting to hook up with another guy, but I always end up chickening out before I am able to set something up. Did anyone else experience something like this and how did you finally overcome it? I've been trying since 18, now am 20 lol
 

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For a while I've been wanting to hook up with another guy, but I always end up chickening out before I am able to set something up. Did anyone else experience something like this and how did you finally overcome it? I've been trying since 18, now am 20 lol

Took years for me to get the courage. Don't state your virginity up front. Chat/Find the guy that meets your standards because the chemistry means everything. Only when you decide to hookup tell him you are new to this and whether he can help you. I couldn't get hard my first time and he was totally cool with it. Just my 2 cents. Good luck.
 

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Only when you decide to hookup tell him you are new to this and whether he can help you.

I'm a little unsure about this, at least with an unfamiliar. If he's a decent guy, it's more likely the OP divulging this would be helpful. If he happens to not be a decent guy, divulging this information could actually heighten the risk of the situation. I've heard enough stories to know that there are some men out there who enjoy taking advantage of the unexperienced. Whereas if such a man weren't aware OP was unexperienced, he might be more on his guard. The key difference between what sort of man he's hooking up with is something he will have to discern. Unfortunately, those who are new to hooking up are often not as skilled at reading through the bullshit fronts predators put up. So sharing such a fact with a hookup seems a bit of a gamble.
 
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My first experience was with someone I didn't know at a glory hole. I didn't even know their name. I don't think mentally I was accepting of being gay. I was labelless for a long time.

I went through periods of being so horny I'd almost go out hunting for it but I suppressed the need with masturbation. It's very much like hunger, it's more urgent than thirst. It's all you can think about.

Eventually I tipped over the edge and crossed the line. After you cum, you feel fear, guilt, regret. Not because of the act, but because you had to go to the gutter to feed.

Looking back, I think the better path would have been to become friends with someone willing to teach. I would have had sex much more often, I would have got feedback to accelerate my skills faster, also I would have respected myself and honored who I was more.