first time same sex experience

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  1. Monstermanuk

    Monstermanuk New Member

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    Hi all,

    Just wanted your opinions, I have lived as a straight guy for 27 years but always been attracted to guys as well since primary school. I have never known any gay/bi guys and only met a couple briefly through girlfriends (like for 5 minutes) but obviously they didnt know I had any gay tendancies.

    I have been thinking about seeing a male escort just for a bit of an experience and just to satisfy lust and I suppose curiousity.

    I've put a pic of the guy that I'm thinking of seeing as you can see he is pretty big 10x7 to be exact......bigger than me.

    What do you think shall I go for it or carry on the way I am resisting urges and carrying on as normal.

    I realise some well say "thats a decision for you" but thats not much use really as what I am after is advice from people who have been there or just advice really

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    You know, you could probably find some hot, no-strings action for free but if you want to go the escort way...he looks like he'd fill the bill. If you want to get fucked, there's a good chance it will just hurt like hell, I can't even take that girth and I've been getting fucked since the early 90's.

    I was around 22 when I popped over the fence. You're doing just fine. Go get yourself some cock. You know you want it.
     
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    ha ha Thanks Sorcerer, to be honest at the moment I'm not looking to f*ck or be f*cked just oral and masturbation. Otherwise I think all the poundings Ive given women over the years would come back to me!
     
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    If you're just looking for oral and a mutual handjob, hit the gay bars. That certainly won't be difficult to find for free. BTW- You're gonna choke to death on that monster. Stick with the average guys until you learn what you're doing...
     
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    I negoitiated my first MM action over the net via different websites (craigslist, men4sexnow, manhunt, etc.) Be clear about your curiosity and stating what you want to explore. Believe it or not, there are guys who like "teaching" a gay new things. Always play safe and meet at a public location to make sure the person IS who they said they are and aren't crazy, etc.

    I jumped into the other yard post-30 so you're fine man. Take is slow and be careful.
     
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    Sage advice. In your position, frankly an escort might be more comfortable. It provides the anonymity that the bars wouldn't and the internet is a mixed bag.

    After much practicing in HS, I took a vacation in college alone so I could explore the world of mutual masturbation a found a few guys my age willing to spit shine mine in the privacy of my own rented room.
     
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    Lol that guy is on this site! Go find him here and save yourself some money!
     
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    There are important pieces of information you have left out. Are you presently married? If so, how does your wife fit into the picture. Assume that if you go through with it, she will find out. Consider what that will do to your present life. Do you have children? How will you feel if they find out about this? How will they feel?

    The point is CONSIDER THE CONSEQUENCES. If you can't handle the consequences, then don't do it. On the other hand, if those people who are important to you find this out and you can handle it, then go for it.

    Remember to practice safe sex. Condom always.

    I may be able to help you as much as anyone here. I am in the same boat. For me, the consequences of my family and the community I live in aren't worth the risk. But that is a decision for each person to make.

    In my case, not being exposed to true gay relationships (which is not what you are looking for) I thought gay sex was just that. No romance. I never even thought about kissing years ago. I just knew that I liked men's asses and crotches and a certain smile and look from some men would make me melt. But I have just enough bi that I can and have lived in the straight world. But now I have absolutely no interest in straight sex. My wife and I don't engage in sex. It is a good marriage, but the relationship is not sexual anymore and hasn't been for a while. Masturbation with fantasies of the hot guys is what I do.

    Now that I understand what a true gay relationship can be, I can remember a guy from college that I would have loved to share a life with. I would gladly be his "wife" I' ve never forgotten him and we still talk some. Yes we had some sex encounters. But that was in the 70's and both of us were trying to live the lives "expected" of us.

    Good luck to you. I do understand the situation you are in. Lex also fully understands as well.
     
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    Escort is probably the best way to go if you are just treading the waters as you say, and if you go to a respectable one then you know you are at least getting quality and discresion is assured from both parties involved. And anotherr upside with escorts is that you can sort of pick and choose your desired first timer as well and so by having your fantasy as such showing you the ropes, sort of eases you into the situation as well.
    Just remember to do a thorough research on the agency you are thinking of hiring from to make sure you do not end up with something less than what you are after. See if they screen their guys for diseases, have no run ins with the law and seem to have a long history and not just a flash in the pan type business that is just after a quick buck and not customer safety and satisfaction.
     
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    I'm a straight guy, but I'll speak from my heart.

    So, would you describe yourself as bisexual, then, or do you feel like you've always been gay and now finally able to be true to yourself?

    This is merely my opinion, but in general I don't think using sex workers is a good idea, especially for this. I think you should date gay men, be open and honest about your situation on the first dates, and find a man that you trust and admire. If you are simply alone and horny ... do the healthy thing ... masturbate.

    Why are you thinking of seeing this man? All you have is his picture. You have no idea what kind of human being is attached to that penis. Besides, if this is your first turn at receptive anal sex, I could imagine how it might be a problem.

    But ... it is a decision for you ... there's no getting around that. What you need to do, is get your feelings sorted out so that you can make a wise decision. Are you bi? Then meet and date men and women. Are you gay? Then meet and date gay men.

    Again, this is just what I think, and I respect the other thoughtful opinions.
     
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    I'm in the same boat as Lex. I was well over 30 before I gave in to a same-sex attraction I always knew was there.

    Personally, I think you do yourself a disservice if you make your first same-sex experience a commercial one.

    I've grown to love the male emotional landscape. Even in a one-night stand, sex gives you a little glimpse into someone else's soul, and it's part of the unique pleasure of the moment. Without that connection, then the body in your bed becomes little more than 3D porn (not that there's anything wrong with that...)

    I can understand your desire to stay in control of a new, maybe threatening, situation. But losing control, at least a bit, is part of the pleasure.

    That said, there's nothing wrong, in principle, with paying for sex. Plenty of people purchase entertainment. Why not?

    In my limited experience, most sex workers practice their craft with sensitivity and good grace. I'm sure he's come acoss men in your position before (no pun intended) And he'll work hard to make your first experience worthwhile.

    Enjoy!
     
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