First time tips

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    My friend and I have been fooling around and we recently decided to try anal sex. How can I make it less painful and more enjoyable for him? Is there any positions that would reduce the discomfort?
     
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    1. Go slow.
    2. Use lots of lube (water based!)
    3. Wear a condom.
    4. Again, use lots of lube.
    5. Go slow.
    6. Be gentle.
    7. Don't force anything.
    8. If he's in pain, stop immediately.


    If you don't have a foot-board, you might try placing him at the foot of a bed, with his legs hanging off, and several pillows underneath his pelvis to prop him up. More closely matches the curve of your penis with the internal curve of his colon.

    Before engaging in anal sex though, I would acquire a dildo/ butt plug and experiment with that first. Either have him by himself, or you experiment with them on him.

    Gets him used to the idea of something being inserted in there.


    Oh well, just my 2¢.

    Above all else, be safe and have fun.

    (You and your friend HAVE been tested for HIV and other STDs recently, haven't you? If not, ignore everything else I've said and have that done FIRST!)
     
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    thanks. I can't wait to see my friend and practice these helpful tips.
     
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    In order, I prefer:
    1. Astroglide
    2. Maximus Liquid Silk
    3. KY Jelly

    Cheers!

     
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    My advice will be from the bottom's perspective...

    There's a dirty little secret that the porn movies don't show you and novice couples often have to find out on their own. The bottom partner should take time to "flush out" himself. He should do this at least an hour before having sex. (I prefer several hours or more, and I also eat light if I expect to have anal sex.)

    Anal "prepping" isn't fun or sexy, but nothing kills a mood more than lying in bed with smelly scat chunks! I just wish someone had given me this kind of advice when I started having anal sex. It would have avoided several embarrassing moments and messy situations.

    Go to a drug store and buy a "fleet enema". It should cost about $2. The store brands might be cheaper and they work just as well. Follow the directions and, if necessary, do it twice or three times using plain warm tap water. It feels a little awkward, but it doesn't hurt-- and certainly more sanitary than the alternative. You're done when you can "flush out" clean water-- no scat or brown fluids.

    During sex...
    My advice to the bottom partner is to relax as much as possible. For several times, it may require the top partner to pull out, wait a minute and start slowly again, each time going in a little deeper. It's possible that the bottom partner will "feel the urge" to go to the bathroom, but in a little while that feeling should pass. In fact, all the initial discomfort will eventually subside. At some point the bottom partner should start to feel a nice tingly sensation. I urge the bottom partner to be vocal or expressive, and always let the top partner know how he's feeling-- good or bad.

    Since it's your first time together having anal sex, I would suggest that you keep a light on-- don't fuck in total darkness. (At least not yet.) If the top has a very thick or curved penis (or both), be very careful not to tear the rim of the anus. You have to go SLOW and EASY!! If there is any tearing or bleeding (the top will be able to see this and the bottom will definitely feel it), then STOP IMMEDIATELY and wait to try again another time.

    The bottom partner should expect some pain and discomfort, but it should subside at some point. After a while, if the bottom partner is not feeling any sensation or enjoyment, THEN STOP. The discomfort could be due to several reasons (position or angle, dryness, fit/size), but the bottom should not "ride out" the pain or suffer in silence for long periods of time.

    After sex...
    The bottom partner will feel like his ass got a real work out. He will probably just want to rest for a while or sit in the bathroom. That's normal. Chances are, the anus will feel "open" for the next day, but it will close to normal again.

    Also, some inexperienced tops will discover that they cannot perform ("keep it up") while wearing a condom. Bare-backing (anal sex without protection) is always a deal-breaker!! Unless you are in a long-term, committed and monogamous relationship, always use a condom. If the top needs time to build up his stamina with condoms, then be patient and work with him on doing that.

    Finally, when it comes to anal sex, I feel that the bottom should call the shots. As a bottom, I love the submissive role, but my top partners also understand that I'm in charge of my ass! I say when to start or stop, how fast or slow, how deep and hard, and which position(s) to do it all. I've been accused of sometimes being too loud and vocal, but I have found that my partners always do a better job when they know how much I'm enjoying it-- or not. Either way, communication is important.

    Hope the advice helps. Enjoy yourselves.
     
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