Latina, as we await some of the ladies to respond
I think many women might (naturally) have a few of the symptoms you have described after being with a larger size the first time. And, yes, they DO recover. (The bruised cervix is alarming though, to be sure...NOT good.)
Forgive me-- but, I'm here wondering about this guy whom you were with--was this his FIRST time ever? Was he totally unaware of what discomfort you were in? Did he ignore you or... did you even "speak up" ?
My reply here could go in a number of directions I suppose--from reminding you about telling your fella what feels good to you (and what doesn't) to getting down to a lecture regarding the (significant!
importance of foreplay, lube, and varying your positions to receive a larger man.
Unless the guy is a schmuck (and doesn't care about YOUR feelings and pleasure) your fella probably very much wants you to be happy. I just feel the need to remind you (and the other ladies reading this) that often we guys sometimes need a little clue (and guidance) as to what you want and how you're feeling as we go along. Boy! --if this is ever true, it's true during the first (and even the several subsequent sessions to follow!
and there's nothing wrong with "communicating" with us guys (I was SO trying to avoid using that worn-out word.)
In case you haven't read other info in this forum about "first time / what to do" (with a large man) there's always the approach for him not to fully enter the first several times and gradually build up to full entry. Since you've already tried "a full entry" though the first time, well-- you now have your (painful) results. Obviously, HE will need to take things easy, probably not use his full length for quite awhile, and YOU will need to cooperate by your leg positioning. Simply by positioning your legs straight out or wide apart will affect his penetration depth you know! Elevating your hips with a pillow underneath you might help. So...experiment. Some women prefer the "top" position to begin with and thereby help "guide him in" according to YOUR pace and how YOU want things to go. I hope your guy is one of those who will invite, even welcome your ideas, cooperate with you, and accept your concerns. It would be a real shame if he's not.
I dunno. I get the idea somehow from the "tone" of your comments that you are quite simply going to need to let your guy KNOW what you want (and how much and how soon!
to improve upon your time together. To allow him to "have at it" again (like your first time with him) is ultimately unfair....to both of you.
Afterall-- it's YOUR body that's indeed bearing the consequences!
And, no need to have a guilt trip over all this. You BOTH share a responsibility to
resolve this "challenge". And--you will.
