First time....

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  1. Barinade

    Barinade New Member

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    Before your first time having sex, were you scared? If so, which thoughts crossed your mind??

    -What will the partner think of my penis? (too large, too small, etc)
    -What if I embarrass myself?
    -Since I'm less experienced, will it be awkward?
    -Will they compare my penis with past partners?

    These (+ others) are all thoughts preventing me from getting anywhere sexually. I don't know why I'm so worried, I know I probably shouldn't be. Just wondering if other people felt the same way, and how they dealt with these issues?? Thanks.
     
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    she wont care about ur cock if its between 5-7, if its bigger but below 9 she'll be proper chuffed...she will think about wot ur thinking of her rather than about you, girls do this, they are more concerned with their performance than yours unless their some sex god...she will compare u to past partners but then who doesn't...unless u wanna be a bishop or the pope, get over it and get laid....finally, she won't be that experienced....girls watch much less porn than blokes so unless she's about 40 then she wont know much about willies.....just as wen u finger her she's thinkin its shit, wen she tosses u off ul soon find out a good wank is way better than sex.......

    love me x
     
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    my first time was nerve wrecking, but thankfully i was reassured by my partner, she comforted me, we talked alot about sex, before we did it and i felt more and more confident.

    your first time should be special, not to lose your virginity for the sake of losing virginity. you should talk to your partner, dont be affraid, you should think of it as only sex. its like riding your first bike or your first day at school. there is'nt a perfect world where fear and nervousness are non existent. you must be strong and more relaxed. its very common for about 95% of the people in this world to get worried or nervous. if you fail to succeed this time i guarantee you will do better next time. its just a test of nerves, nothing more. you will gradually build your confidence and then you will do better.

    just remember to be calm and collective, be extremely gentle. your parner should understand that this is your first time, she should let you be in control, not the other way around. but you definately should talk to her about your worries its the only way she will understand.

    remember that if you fall you will rise, it is inevitable.
     
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    I was nervous and it absolutely sucked.

    Important lesson-CONFIDENCE IS GOOD, NERVOUS IS BAD.
     
  5. D_Lawsonne Lackingnuts

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    I was terrified and thrilled about my first time. It was with my girlfriend at the time, we had been dating for about 3 months. I wasn't worried about size, she knew how big I was. Moreso, I was worried about performance--could I please her, make her orgasm?

    It was an interesting experience. It was pretty akward and wasn't at all what I expected it to be. Yeah, it felt good, but because it was the first time it was awkward. It gets better with practice.
     
  6. D_Elijah_MorganWood

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    I was so drunk I'm afraid I wasn't much fun. I couldn't get all the way hard at first because of the booze and anxiety and basically stuffed it in there. Once I got moving, I lasted a long time but I wasn't any good. She was a hot older woman so I think she knew what was coming.
     
  7. Chuck64

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    Back when I was young and stupid...

    I got completly trashed at a club (Friday night is Hot Pink @ Carambas in Phoenix - awesome 80's theme with a funky mixed crowd. If you have a chance, I highly recommend it.) and was hanging on to the wall so I wouldn't fall down. A gorgeous guy walks up and asks me for light. His accent is just plain sexy. I tell him I don't smoke. He gets his own lighter out of his pocket and lights up. I was too naive and I'd had too much to drink to realize what was up. He asks me if I'm gay or straight. Evidently, I don't show up on gaydar at all. This has been confirmed by several studies, all of which will be published in JAMA soon. Then he asks to kiss me. Who does that? So of course, we kiss (this was my first "romantic" kiss and it tasted like an ashtray - and I was drunk. That's my only regret.), which led to making out and feeling around right there in front of my friends who had come back from the bar to the bench we had claimed. I remember being suprised at how natural it all seemed. I didn't think about it. It just happened. Then I realized what was happening and I freaked out for a moment. I knew I was gay. I was out to a lot of people, but hadn't ever acted on it with someone else. We exchanged numbers, and I spent the rest of the night avoiding him and getting teased by my friends for hiding from "<NAME REMOVED>, the hot Brazillian guy".

    What they don't know is that I called him as we were leaving the club and set up a coffee date (for noon, but we were both at the club until 5 AM). My friends thought I was starting my drive back to Texas that day, but I really spent the day with him, mostly at his place talking and getting to know him. He knew it was my first time, and tried to reassure me. There are no words to describe how nervous I was, and him being older (by almost 12 years) and hot as hell didn't help. There was a bit of performance anxiety, but either he didn't notice or pretended not to. I felt like a gumby doll the way he would just move me in to all these different positions. Looking back, I'm positive he was making an effort to teach me.

    When it was over, I decided to boldly ask him how I did... He said except for a horrible blow job, it was pretty good. I don't know if he meant it or was just being nice. We talked for a bit and he said I could spend the night. The next morning, we went out to breakfast, and then I got in my car and drove back to Texas. We exchanged e-mails a few times, and that was it. Neither one of us made an effort to stay in touch. He was sweet, but I lived in Texas and he lived in Arizona.

    I've had three relationships since then, no more than 20 first dates and no random hook-ups, except this one - depending on how you classify it.
     
  8. GBB

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    Well it helped me a lot that my first time was with a size queen.

    I was about 150lbs then, skinny as a rail, but she picked me out for my bulge.

    I had a single dorm room, and we went back to it, and she managed to get my cock out and tell me how big she thought it was.

    We were about to get it on when she looked at the clock and decided to go to class, but she promised me she'd be right back after it. Well I stayed hard for a good hour and a half while I waited for her to get back.

    Thankfully, SHE DID come back, and we spent the afternoon making the bed squeek.

    It would have been really hard for me to flub that up... she led the charge the whole way. This was in '84, and we were both CS majors, so we'd have erotic chat using UNIX's talk program from opposite ends of campus.

    yea... I guess I miss those days.
     
  9. Sam Beckett

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    I thought 'I hope she doesn't freak out/laugh at my cock'. Not because I thought it was small but because my cock is brown, a tan sort of colour and unless its sunny (which it never is here) it doesn't match the rest of me.

    Anyway, I realised its normal, and no one has ever freaked out or screamed, or had full body spasms from the colour of my cock ;)

    I also was thinking 'best not cum straight away' and I didn't. Although I wish it had been with someone else, a few tens of pounds lighter, and more attractive. Like my most recent ex or someone.

    That's about it. Actually, I also though I hope she doesn't think I'm skinny or something and takes offence to my body. Of course no one has, I'm in decent shape but because I don't have six pack and bulging biceps I had my doubts ;)
     
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