Just did something with a guy for the first time yesterday. It was alright, but it wasnt as great as i thought it would be. I am bi and thought i was more gay but maybe not now. :?
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Experimenting is the only way you are going to find out what works and what doesnt work for you. As a bisexual, I can say that Ive had lots of eperiences, both with guys and women, that have been less than fulilling, and the reverse as well. Could be that the guy you were with, jsut didnt push the right buttons.
BTW, you are smokin hot. I figure it was only so so, becuase whoever yo uwere with probably blew his wad in nanoseconds.
BTW, you are smokin hot. I figure it was only so so, becuase whoever yo uwere with probably blew his wad in nanoseconds.
yea i liked the guy but he knew he was the luckier one haha 
But yea maybe i need someone that i am more attracted to
But yea maybe i need someone that i am more attracted toCan be a confusing as well as exciting (or otherwise) when you have your first time. I know it is tempting to think one session should be enough to answer all your questions but that might not be the case. Just because you were not 100% turned on by the experience doesn't really mean a lot. You might just not be compatible or perhaps they (or you) had a bit of an off day? You might also have been thinking for years about what it would be like and it felt like an anti-climax - especially if your 'education' is from porn or talk on the internet. Be gentle with yourself - I'm sure answers will reveal themselves as you grow more confident and have more experiences. Best wishes to you!
MrToolhung
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First off you are a HOT man! But like others have said maybe the other dude you were not attracted as much as you thought. First time experiences can be nerve racking because you do not know what to expect.
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Maybe he wasn't as skilled a lover as others might be...
Also it could be because you are new to each other sexually, did you tell him what you liked or what felt good/not good?
Lots of factors come into play when sex occurs, not just suck a dick or stick it in and bam done, LOL.
Also it could be because you are new to each other sexually, did you tell him what you liked or what felt good/not good?
Lots of factors come into play when sex occurs, not just suck a dick or stick it in and bam done, LOL.
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You certainly can't judge by just one experience. There were many reasons why it probably didn't go as well as you hoped. Keep trying, don't rush anything! Whether you are str8, gay, bi or whatever, just enjoy.
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You know...sometimes casual sex isn't for everyone and sometimes you have to have some kind of connection.
I was introduced to this guy at a house party. He was a dreamy tall dark and handsome guy. When he spoke I melted like butter on hot toast. For days afterwards he was all I could think about. One night I was at the local and he walked in. I invited him to join me at the bar. Later that night we ended up alone at my place. I was so excited at the thought of going to bed with him.
As we stripped down and crawled into bed my heart was racing as he slid his body next to mine, under the sheets. I snuggled in close to him and we wrapped around each other. I was so turned on by him and very ready for a session of sexual ecstasy.
As he lay on top of me, my legs wrapped around his waist he kissed my neck and nibbled my ear lobe. I was in heaven as he inserted his manhood into me. Thirty seconds later it was over. He rolled off of me, and said that was great as he fell off to sleep. I couldn't help but think to myself: what just happened here. Three strokes and he was done.
It happens to us all you are not alone. It is unfortunate that the first time was not all that you hoped for. Don't let one bad experience jeopardize what can be for you and a partner a wonderful sexual encounter. Life is full of trial and error and sex is no different.
As we stripped down and crawled into bed my heart was racing as he slid his body next to mine, under the sheets. I snuggled in close to him and we wrapped around each other. I was so turned on by him and very ready for a session of sexual ecstasy.
As he lay on top of me, my legs wrapped around his waist he kissed my neck and nibbled my ear lobe. I was in heaven as he inserted his manhood into me. Thirty seconds later it was over. He rolled off of me, and said that was great as he fell off to sleep. I couldn't help but think to myself: what just happened here. Three strokes and he was done.
It happens to us all you are not alone. It is unfortunate that the first time was not all that you hoped for. Don't let one bad experience jeopardize what can be for you and a partner a wonderful sexual encounter. Life is full of trial and error and sex is no different.
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How anti-climatic, lol, sorry it was such a "WTF" experience for you...but kind of funny when you read about it. :biggrin1:
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