the title kind of says it all, my first boyfriend and current love of my life is pretty big about 7 or 8 long, and i forget how thick, but it looks pretty big to me, he's also my first. I still remember the first time, and the first thing that comes to mind is ow, hurt like hell. Got better after a few minutes, but just ow. My boyfriend spent the rest of the night and drive apologizing to me. It still hurt pretty bad afterwards, the actual pain didn't go away for a few days....and it ached until the next week. I felt bad enough about him being upset about hurting me... so when he asked i didn't tell him about that.... anyway, back on topic, sex definitely doesn't hurt as much as that first time, but it's still a little on the ouch factor, he goes really slow when we have sex, and lube is involved, but it still hurts any suggestions...... !besides relaxing!