Flaky People

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  1. findfirefox

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    Does anyone else out there have flaky friends? It is the one thing that drives me absolutly batshit insane.

    For example:
    • You make plans with someone and at the last second they cancel
    • You make plans and they find a random excuse
    • You make plans and they made new ones (forgot)
    So many people I know seem to be flakes and it drives me up a wall, just today I was supposed to go to a Laser show and they pulled a "my phone wasn't near me to two minutes before the show starts"
     
  2. IntoxicatingToxin

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    That's not cool. I don't really have any friends like that, but I know a lot of people who are that way.
     
  3. Principessa

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    I did when I was your age; but I dumped them fast. I have no time for such trifling bullshit.
     
  4. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I was kinda thinking the same thing. I don't allow people to treat me that way.
     
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    You and NJ make a good argument.

    She is a good person though and a joy to be around, that is if you can find her...

    Anyway I feel better now, tra la la la :smile:
     
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    Hello

    Yes they are a hassle to have around you, i think most people will have there flaky friends at one time or another, i have been "weeding mine out for a long time", But i do like it when they ring and say man why didn't you tell me you were going there " you know i would of loved to go too!" Grrrrrrr......you can never win with them mate, you can still love your flaky friends just get more reliables ones so your not bombarded by flaky ones all the time.
    If your going somewhere then invite a non-flaky and a flaky, that way if the flaky comes along great if not no big loss as you still have a good friend with you.

    Good luck!

    Thank You.
     
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    I used to have friends like that.

    Emphasis on "used to".
     
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    If they were true friends they would not cancel, forget or make excuses.
     
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    It's one of my biggest issues.

    If you don't want to do something with me... just tell me. It's simple. I have the respect to tell you I don't want to go to the stupid elephant show... at least tell me you dont' want to see the movie.:biggrin1:
     
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    YES! Practically all my 'friends'. Gang of twats :tongue:

    Briefly, people that can't make their minds up and are actually quite immature and decide to go to some dive in Blackpoo at the last minute...even if it is/was New Years I'm not spending ~£200 and staying a night in Blackpoooooooooo :redface:
     
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    Oh god yes! (See now it sounds like I'm having sex, I'm funny)
     
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    The key to flaky friends is just to not have them.
    I have had many friends who say they will do something and not do it, make plans and not follow through. This is maddening to me. When I say I am going to do something, I do it. If for some reason I am not able or there is a change in plans, I am the first one to let others know so that they can plan accordingly.
    I hate flaky behavior.
     
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    Maybe they think you are flaky for making so many plans as they try to forget, cancel or make dumb excuses. Maybe they are thinking "that flaky guy can't take a hint."
     
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    I do not keep people in my life who do this. They are being completely rude and disrespectful. If they don't have the common courtesy to call and at least give a reasonable excuse, then fuck them!
     
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    I have enough flake friends to fill a cereal box with. I tend to avoid them most times. My best friend and I have been friends now for like 6 years so she and I stick together like glue
     
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    I hope that they did not bail on you for New Years Eve.
     
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    It drives me nuts, too. I've found that there are very very few dependable people out there. If you find a friend like that, keep them.

    I try to make plans that I can keep, show up to parties when I'm invited, do what I say and say what I mean. I show up when I say I'm going to show up, and I call if I'm going to be late or can't come. I also don't pretend friendship to people I really don't like, say nasty things about other people behind their backs, or block you/snub you/ignore you/delete you/backstab you without explanation if we have any kind of rapport at all. I feel like this should be the absolute minimum baseline for anyone wishing to interact with other human beings, but so many don't even do this.

    With you 100% FFF
     
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    I never paid attention; when people cancel at the last minute it just means I don't have to quit my shaningans; I don't really look forward to hanging out with quite a few of them, that is the imaginary ones, anyway. :p

    No, I don't have flaky friends; as a matter of fact I had the opposite type. Rather than being flaky they'd be clingy which sucked ass; I used to be clingy until I met these people because they'd change plans at the last minute to include me. :/
     
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    Hmm, you may be the one human we should clone. :cool:
     
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    I've suspected that about NineInch. But can we get him in a gay model, too?
     
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