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bottombuddy

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YES! Practically all my 'friends'. Gang of twats :tongue:

Briefly, people that can't make their minds up and are actually quite immature and decide to go to some dive in Blackpoo at the last minute...even if it is/was New Years I'm not spending ~£200 and staying a night in Blackpoooooooooo :redface:

ewwww you need to find friends who dont use blackpool......ffs.

i went there when i was 15 and it was fine for a week then.....i went briefly in 2007 summertime as my sister dropped me off while she worked for a few hours...so while she was at her meeting i suffered....biggest shithole in uk if u ask me...no wonder folks plane hop to spain or europe.....i would never go back to blackpool as long as i breath not for all the t in china.
 

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The worst is the one you stop making plans with, they call and whine about how you never do anything with them. You tell them why. They SWEAR up and down they will be there for the next time you plan something. So you do it and guess what happens? Yep! NO SHOW!

I have no friends like that anymore because I refuse to uproot my schedule and time for such a disrespectful person. The three that did that to me? have tried to hang out with us by going through my wife. Didn't work with her either.
 

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Well dude, that's the downside to being gay - all your friends are women and all women are inherently flaky. Nah I'm just kidding. I know some people like that, and it doesn't always have to be a bad thing, I'm like that myself sometimes. And it's not about them having other arrangements, it's just that they (or I) don't feel like it. So as long as you have lots of space between you and learn what everyone enjoys doing, it's not really a problem. You just have to bargain on the fact that they appreciate a pause between activities and try to play into what they're into when you feel it's the right time to ask them if they want to hang out. Some of those flakes can be good people.
 

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It drives me nuts, too. I've found that there are very very few dependable people out there. If you find a friend like that, keep them.

I try to make plans that I can keep, show up to parties when I'm invited, do what I say and say what I mean. I show up when I say I'm going to show up, and I call if I'm going to be late or can't come. I also don't pretend friendship to people I really don't like, say nasty things about other people behind their backs, or block you/snub you/ignore you/delete you/backstab you without explanation if we have any kind of rapport at all. I feel like this should be the absolute minimum baseline for anyone wishing to interact with other human beings, but so many don't even do this.

With you 100% FFF

but talking of flaky friends........ive no friends right now in my life that id consider a true friend....and i got rid of flaky ones long ago.

Two great posts that I couldn't agree with more:smile: :up:
 

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Concrete proof and example was the last girl I was trying to see; she bailed at the last second for her kids even tho they were with their dad.

I'm like NJQT- I have absolutely NO patience nor tolerance for that kind of aggravation or horseshit.
 

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I agree with the majority on this issue.

While I understand that sometimes, things do come up, those who make it habitual get on my "never make plans with that person" list.

And cancellations are one thing. No-shows or standing someone up (without a real emergency) is unforgiveable.

If you have to cancel, then call (or email) and cancel. Simply failing to show up is not an option, and immediately puts someone on my "no further contact" list. Well, almost. They get one chance to explain; if it was not an emergency, I'll tell them I think they are shitty, and request no further contact. If they were in a serious accident, had a medical emergency, or a death in the family, that's understandable.