Flashing a gay friend

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  1. brieflover69

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    So, I'm a straight 24 year old guy. My dick is about 6 flaccid and 8.5 hard.
    Anyway, I found out recently from a friend that our mutual friend, Dave, is gay. Dave came out to him, but not yet to me.

    Since finding out Dave is gay, I been trying to give him opportunities to see my dick. Yesterday he came over and we watched a movie and had some beer. I purposely spilled beer on my jeans and shirt. I asked him if it was cool if I just took them off, since I was warm anyway. He seemed nervous, but said yeah. I paused the movie and turned on the light, and cleaned up the beer on the floor. Then I started to strip down -- first my t-shirt; then my jeans. I was standing there in just my light gray boxer briefs, which had a pretty good looking bulge. He just stared at my crotch. "These are a little wet too" I said, as I stripped them off. My cock, which was only half-hard at this point sprung free. He nearly choked on his beer when he saw it.

    I sat back down and we watched the movie. When it was over, we sat around shooting the shit for a while. He kept stealing glances of my cock. Finally, I decided to talk about the last girl I slept with, and as I was describing an amazing blow job she gave, I naturally started to get hard. I stood up, pointed to my dick, and said "even he remembers that blow job." We both laughed.

    Anyway, there's not much else. That's all that happened. For some reason though, showing off my dick like that to a friend I know now wants to see it got me so pumped. As soon as he left, I jacked off twice!

    Anwyone else do something like this?
     
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    I don't want you to take this the wrong way but are you sure your straight?
     
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    Well,

    I think that was a bit on the torture side. He probably did the same after he left.

    btw, probably not as "straight" as you want us to believe.:wink:
     
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    You wicked boy! Teasing Dave like that, naughty, shame on you! LOL
     
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    I think that's pretty cool--especially cool that it turned you on! I can't believe he didn't see through it though.
     
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    Dude that's awesome -- any more interactions with the dude since then? Maybe he would've licked up some of that spilled beer??
     
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    I have beer...
    and a TV...
    :naughty:
     
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    What was the point of doing that?

    It's difficult for gay guys to keep straight friends because a lot of straight friends aren't comfortable around them. This was flat out gay. Very, very, gay.

    Now he's wondering what the point of that all was and he's probably worried your mutual friend blabbed about him being gay and now he discovers not only are you not straight but you're hitting on him? Or are you gay baiting him so you'd have an excuse to beat the shit out of him or worse in your own home? This is a very real fear of gays because it happens. Often.

    Don't think that just because he's gay he think's you're hot too. Contrary to popular belief, gay guys won't have sex with anything that has a dick and having sex with your friends is a really good way to fuck-up a friendship. Most gay guys go way out of their way to remove any trace of sexual attraction to their straight friends if only to prove a gay guy can be, "one of the guys," just like anyone else. It takes effort because he's always working to prove that he's your friend to be a friend, not a sex partner. The last thing he needed was this. It's like waving heroin in a recovering addict's face. Of course, all this assumes he's attracted to you, which he may not be at all.

    This was not a good move. He needs an explanation once you've worked out in your own head what it was you wanted. I don't think you realized just what kind of position you've put him in.

    Treat your friends better than that.
     
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    My room mate in 12th grade was gay. He wasn't out at the time, but everyone knew it. There was a guy who lived on our dorm named Bill, who was very straight, very athletic, and very cute. A soccer player, long term girlfriend, highly outgoing, refined features, preppy, perfect body...

    Anyway, Bill became good friends with my room mate...I think they were in a play together. One day my roomie was walking down the hall, and as he approached Bill, Bill pulled the pantleg of his shorts up and flashed his dick. My roomie was shocked (but I am sure he enjoyed getting a private show from one of the school jocks). His reaction was to bust out with this huge laugh.

    From then on, whenever Bill would see my room mate, and there was a private line of vision, he would flash his dick (a very nice dick I am told). In the cafeteria, in a crowded hall, sports, outside. Every time, my roomie would bust out laughing, and attract great attention. Of course nobody knew why he was laughing, it was their own private joke...no harm done.

    Not exactly the same, but similar dynamics.
     
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    Well said, and thank you for posting this.
     
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    Very well put Jason.
     
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    Not the same at all, in fact, imho. The tale you describe relates to something that's clearly set up as a jokey thing at which both sides could laugh with ease.

    The initiator of this thread's story involves fucking with someone's mind by doing clearly sexual things behind closed doors in a one-on-one situation. As Jason has already said, Dave is probably left with all kindsa questions now, not least perhaps also relating to whether this was an attempt by the initiator of this thread to 'come out' or to initiate sexual contact.
     
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    Now....If I had of been Dave..I wouldnt of just sat there. lol
     
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    Let me add to the chorus of disdain for your behavior towards your gay friend:


    1) Please, acknowledge your homo-eroticism, brieflover69. I don't think your critics are asking you to identify as "gay", but your actions are plainly homoerotic. You are turned on by having another man admire you.

    2) Please acknowledge your sexual immaturity - not in technique, but in terms of personal understanding. This situation has less to do with the fact that your friend is gay than with your personal psychology. This situation is analogous to teenage girls who knowingly parade and taunt older men and then take false offense when older men notice them. The behavior is annoying.

    3) You really are violating your gay friend's boundaries. He's maintained his boundaries by not revealing himself to you, hoping not to violate your comfort zone. So, why are you violating his comfort zone? If you truly respected him, you would respect his boundaries. If you truly cared about his comfort, you would discretely make some attempt to let him know that you hold no malice towards gays. ...

    All you've done so far, brieflover69, is to make him wonder if you are subtly making advances. Will you be one of those guys who takes in 4-6 beers, gets drunk, gets involved in gay sex, and then denies it the next morning? That's the scenario you've probably painted for him. Is that the result you are looking for?
     
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    how pathetic, first off, you shouldn't call yourself straight, especially after a stunt like that, it sounds like that you are at least bi, especially after you said that you had to beat off after he left.

    second, you put this guy in a extremely uncomfortable position, sure he kept sneaking a peak every now and then, but none the less, he had to have been uncomfortable, and now he suspects that you know that he is gay, and since he didn't tell you that he was gay, and only told another friend, he now knows that he can't trust that friend any longer, and he probably feels that he can't trust you either, I can't say that i would blame him, you have probably humilated him just so that you could get a cheap thrill, I sure as hope that you and your friend are proud of yourselves for this stunt of yours.

    maybe he was going to work his way to telling you that he was gay, with hopes that you would still accept him as a friend, you may have fucked things up, maybe next time you will think before you do something so stupid.




     
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    And there are those straights who wonder why gay guys are hitting on them.

    Dude, you totally did a disservice to your friend. First of all he came out to another friend and not you, so your behavior towards him could be considered sexual harrassment. And you had the hardon and jerked off after he left, who's the homo here?
    Rather than making it comfortable for your friend to continue to relate to you on a non-sexual basis, you have thrown this wrench into the whole deal. You may have compromised any future friendship with him.
    What's more he may now go around and spread the word that you came onto him and now you have to deal with the "gay rumours".
     
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    If he was REALLY YOUR "FRIEND", You wouldnt start making moves or try to initiate sexual favors just b/c you found out something new about him (Being Gay). A real friend wouldnt jump to the front of the line just b/c he knew that. The same way maybe you wouldnt bang your best friends sister just b/c everyone labels her a whore, or would you. Thats a different story though.
     
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    Well brieflover,
    Sounds like a lot of mixed messages to me.

    Be honest with yourself and your friend.

    If you want him to give you a blowjob just say so.
    Tell him it turns you on that he's Gay and that
    you would be ok with him helping you out.

    You certainly likely got a lot more responses from your post,
    especially critical ones than you expected.

    Perhaps you might consider making an apology to your friend
    for coming on to him when he assumed you did'nt know he was gay.

    I would also reconsider what friend means ,if one you trust to be
    confidential tells another information that was given in trust breaks
    that confidentiality, doesnt say much about that friends character
    does it? You might want to consider who your friends really are...

    I guess you could consider this a lesson in learning values, and the
    meaning of trust and friendship. Hopefully this post will enlighten you.

    Even if one is Gay, it does not mean that one has no values,
    Everyone deserves to be treated as worthy of respect, straight or gay!

    Ok, done with the sermon, Good Luck!
     
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