Flashing a gay friend

[DaveyR]

Do you think we scared-off brieflover69?

Yes he seems to have passed through briefly.

 

[B_Hung Muscle]

I hope he hangs out more though because it sounds like he has some issues/homoerotic fantasies about watching porn and jerking off together. His other post is here http://www.lpsg.org/relationships-d...38-seeing-your-father-erect-3.html#post584211:

"My dad was a bit of an alcoholic, and when he drank, got abusive. One night, he was babysitting...my mom was at work on the night-shift. I was about 10, and he had a few beers, and told me to go to my room. He started watching porn, and I snuck down and he was nude and stroking his dick. He saw me, and starting yelling at me to go upstairs....but then stopped and told me to sit next to him. that's when I got my sex ed....with porn on the VCR, he showed me what sex was. Then he stood up and taught me some male anatomy...explaining that most men didn't have cocks as big as his. He stroked it until he came and explained sperm and babies. Told me not to tell my mom...and that was it."

 

[Matthew]

LOL. Looks like we've been had.

 

[DaveyR]

LOL. Looks like we've been had.

You speak for yourself. No-one in here has had me............yet.

 

[novice_btm]

You speak for yourself. No-one in here has had me............yet.

I know the feeling, but I keep my fingers crossed. :tongue:

 

[invisibleman]

So, I'm a straight 24 year old guy. My dick is about 6 flaccid and 8.5 hard.
Anyway, I found out recently from a friend that our mutual friend, Dave, is gay. Dave came out to him, but not yet to me.

Since finding out Dave is gay, I been trying to give him opportunities to see my dick. Yesterday he came over and we watched a movie and had some beer. I purposely spilled beer on my jeans and shirt. I asked him if it was cool if I just took them off, since I was warm anyway. He seemed nervous, but said yeah. I paused the movie and turned on the light, and cleaned up the beer on the floor. Then I started to strip down -- first my t-shirt; then my jeans. I was standing there in just my light gray boxer briefs, which had a pretty good looking bulge. He just stared at my crotch. "These are a little wet too" I said, as I stripped them off. My cock, which was only half-hard at this point sprung free. He nearly choked on his beer when he saw it.

I sat back down and we watched the movie. When it was over, we sat around shooting the shit for a while. He kept stealing glances of my cock. Finally, I decided to talk about the last girl I slept with, and as I was describing an amazing blow job she gave, I naturally started to get hard. I stood up, pointed to my dick, and said "even he remembers that blow job." We both laughed.

Anyway, there's not much else. That's all that happened. For some reason though, showing off my dick like that to a friend I know now wants to see it got me so pumped. As soon as he left, I jacked off twice!

Anwyone else do something like this?

That's nice that your friend is comfortable by what you did. I dunno if that
is a good deal for every gay man. Maybe it is a turn on that you feel that you have to have gay men turned on by you in that fashion.

 

[swordfishME]

You speak for yourself. No-one in here has had me............yet.

Pardon me your holiness, I dont think anyone really wants to "have" you

 

[D_alex8]

Pardon me your holiness, I dont think anyone really wants to "have" you

Dave isn't really the Pope, y'know.

 

[jeff black]

Pardon me your holiness, I dont think anyone really wants to "have" you

*raises hand*

I think there are more than a few that are interested in the "sins of the flesh" with daverock.:tongue:

 

[D_Sheffield Thongbynder]

You speak for yourself. No-one in here has had me............yet.

Yet? (John adds mysterious to the list of adjectives describing Dave)

 

[Male Bonding etc]

"I think the truth of the matter is that one can only be defined as gay or straight according to one’s desire or willingness to identify with either term. Human sexuality is far too diverse and complex to be limited to one of two possibilities; and ‘bisexuality’ amounts to a convenient term for anyone who has either not made up their mind or is unwilling to identify with too polarised a definition. Ultimately we are just people with a world of possibilities open to us all. Gay/Straight/Bi are just labels."

Well said, Paul.

Brieflover's behavior was questionable, but he is 24. Perhaps, he thought he could help his "friend" (another condition that may be hard to define clearly) come out to him in this way AND discover if gay guys do give better head. In other words his own motivations may have been diverse and complex.

 

[curriedeggs]

I hope he hangs out more though because it sounds like he has some issues/homoerotic fantasies about watching porn and jerking off together. His other post is here http://www.lpsg.org/relationships-d...38-seeing-your-father-erect-3.html#post584211:

"My dad was a bit of an alcoholic, and when he drank, got abusive. One night, he was babysitting...my mom was at work on the night-shift. I was about 10, and he had a few beers, and told me to go to my room. He started watching porn, and I snuck down and he was nude and stroking his dick. He saw me, and starting yelling at me to go upstairs....but then stopped and told me to sit next to him. that's when I got my sex ed....with porn on the VCR, he showed me what sex was. Then he stood up and taught me some male anatomy...explaining that most men didn't have cocks as big as his. He stroked it until he came and explained sperm and babies. Told me not to tell my mom...and that was it."

Couldn't find his post in this thread HM, I looked through 75 posts. Has it been removed?

 

[D_alex8]

Couldn't find his post in this thread HM, I looked through 75 posts. Has it been removed?

Click on the link to it in Hung Muscle's post, and you'll be taken straight to it. It's post #45 in that thread.

 

[saabman]

I'm gay, and I disagree with the guys telling you this means you must be gay or it must be somehow sexual or wrong. I think it's just male.

Guys are proud of their bodies as a rule, and if they are friends, they have to find something physical to share or do, whether it's sports, building something together, drinking, talking about sex, hunting, or something that is a little more adventuresome like this. Gyms involve the same stuff--the pride of your strength working out and then being naked in the shower or sauna. I think it's very male, but it's not sexual (unless the other guys are gay or bi).

I've had some kind of naked experience like this with every single one of my close straight friends, HS, college and afterwards. It's actually my gay friends who seem more squeamish or prudish about being naked around me, maybe because the risk of sex there is real. But that just doesn't exist in a straight-gay friendship (and I don't think there are that many bi- guys).

I have 2 straight friends who are big exhibitionists, and I love it, even if it does give me blue balls sometimes. They have good reason to show off, and I like it when they do. But pride in your body and a little vanity or exhibitionism is not the same thing as an interest in a sexual relationship or even a capacity for it. Nor is intimacy between friends, straight or gay.

BUT...this went beyond just exhibitionism. My brothers and I like hanging naked in the sauna after lifting at the gym. We laugh at the stares we get. We work hard in the gym so we can get away with being naked, lol. I got some good buddies that I do the same with - gay and straight. I almost never have a shirt on during the summer, lol. This is not the same, imo.

This guy got all boned up and then busted not one, but two nuts after his friend left. The op is twisted. His friend was the bigger man, and this dude was the bigger homo.

 

[curriedeggs]

Click on the link to it in Hung Muscle's post, and you'll be taken straight to it. It's post #45 in that thread.

Yeah.. thought that's what I'd done. Thought I'd been throught the whole thread too, but now I try again and there it is! Weird.

 

[curriedeggs]

Brieflover's behaviour was questionable, but he is 24. Perhaps, he thought he could help his "friend" (another condition that may be hard to define clearly) come out to him in this way AND discover if gay guys do give better head. In other words his own motivations may have been diverse and complex.

Yes, Indeed. Brieflover may have been better advised to act in a more responsible way, but we must not forget the possibility that Dave may have been equally excited and thankful for the experience. Life is full of these kinds of bitter-sweet exchanges; nature seems to have a way of fusing pleasure with pain (I am not an SM fetishist, BTW) but often it is the bitterness which makes the sweetness more appreciable.

Given BL69's conspicuous absence since his OP, and the notion - as Matthew put it - that we have been 'had', it is interesting that this potentially hypothetical scenario has generated so much interest. I am very close to Umma’s head splat.

If BL is still tuning in and this was a real situation, I would suggest that the least BL can do is face up to his own responsibilities, try to be honest about his own intentions and his own vanity and offer an explanation/apology to Dave for any possible damage caused. Maybe there is something to be gained from this experience for both of them.

On the other hand, it is precisely ambiguity and lack of honest communication that has given rise to the sexual charge. This is the catch 22: consider the scene: BL sets up an absurd premise that his behaviour is ostensibly innocent and non-sexual (whilst both parties are aware that this is obviously not true, but neither wants to say so). If either party is secretly hoping for a repeat of the situation under the terms of the absurd premise, then talking about it will break their cover and make a repetition impossible. If one of them wants something more meaningful and honest, then the absurd premise must be exposed, since it is this which protects them both from the accusation of making the first move. The problem is: do you risk exposing the absurd premise in a bid for something more substantial? You might end up with nothing, whereas, the stalemate of a tantalising frisson could go on forever. This situation is all too familiar to me.

I’m sure that BL’s prime objective in making the Original Post, whether the story is true or not, was to get off on telling us about it, just as he got off in his story. I don’t expect he was looking for psychoanalysis or advice. But for those of us with some empathy with the scenario, it certainly makes for an interesting discussion.

 

[hot-rod]

Don't let your dick write a check your ass can't cash.

That's too funny....never heard that before L O L

 

[hot-rod]

Of course the final irony would be that Dave really isn't gay and your other friend and he suspected you were and so concocted this little plot to see your reaction.

Yeah, that's what really happened. The joke is on YOU

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

Anyway, Bill became good friends with my room mate...I think they were in a play together.

From then on, whenever Bill would see my room mate, and there was a private line of vision, he would flash his dick (a very nice dick I am told). In the cafeteria, in a crowded hall, sports, outside. Every time, my roomie would bust out laughing, and attract great attention. Of course nobody knew why he was laughing, it was their own private joke...no harm done.

The key there was the good friends part. I know straight guys that flash each other and such. They always crack up laughing about it. I think it's the kid living inside them that does it all. I'd laugh or tell them they have my most profound sympathy.

Jason, thanks. If ya do that kind of stuff to a gay guy and aren't close buds, you aren't his friend. You are disrespecting the man. Treat him with respect, life is difficult enough for any man.

Nice nuts exwhysee

 

[ballmantx]

I had a gay friend in college who lived next door. He would always joke about how good he was at oral and that I should let him show me. I never did, but I was always a little uncomfortable around him as he never seemed to be shy about saying stuff like that, asking to see it, etc. He would even tell me that he would sit against the wall near my room when my girlfriend and I were in there, listen to us and imagine that it was him rather than her.

He was a good guy and a good friend, but I hated when he did that.