Wow! I can't believe this has generated so much controversy questioning everything from my intentions to my sexuality to the real size of my dick.
Also, you guys that take my absence from the site as meaningful ought to know work has been hell lately, and I didn't get scared off -- I simply haven't logged in since that post.
Needless to say, I only skimmed most of your posts, but let me reply to some of your concerns.
1) am I gay?
I said I was straight in my post, and I identify as straight. I have fooled around twice with men before -- and it just didn't do it for me. I wanted to like it, really. And I liked getting my dick sucked by a dude -- a BJ is a BJ afterall. I just didn't like having to reciprocate. (didn't try anal -- it doesn;t appeal) I thought being bi would open the doors up to me for a lot more action (come on, it is easier for a gay guy to just get no strings attached sex if he wants it. Just checkout Craigslist). But, men just don't do it for me. I much prefer chicks. Sorry. I gave it my best shot.
2) why'd I flash this dude?
Well, I think of myself as an exhibitionist. I get off being nude in public -- I frequent nude beaches, hang out naked at home, freeballing in sweats and gym shorts so people can see my cock bounce, etc. Flashing straight guys doesn't do it for me though, since they don't want to see my junk. Flashing women and gay men turn me on.
3) did I fuck up this friendship?
I don't think so. After reading all of your comments, many of you seem to think that my friend will be confused, etc. That wasn't my intention. I get off on flashing, and since I found out he was gay, I figured he'd get off on seeing my dick. No harm, no foul. Guys should be able to hang out without clothes, and this was an instance of that. Did it turn me on? Yes. Did it turn him on? I don't know, but I think so.
If he thinks I came on to him, he can think that....but from his perspective, he doesn;t know I know he's gay. IF he thinks it was an invitation to fuck around, I will simply tell him no, but that it shouldnt affect our friendship. And, honestly, if I have more than a few beers, I just may fool around. The first two times didn't do it for me, but like they say, three times is a charm.
4) Does my willingness to perhaps fool around with a guy (if drunk and desperate) make me gay?
I don't think so; but you might. I think of gay as more of an identity. I don't really identify as a member of the LGBT community, since I can pass for straight, think of myself as straight, and the world treats me as straight. But, hell, if you want to call me gay, you can do so. It doesn't bother me (so long as you don;t do it when I'm making moves on a woman). But the argument of whether a man who has sex with a man on occasion is gay or not is one that has no answer.....
Any more questions?