fleshlights are gods gift to man (next to the real thing of course) I love mine, and have used and abused it (hee heehee) so much that its about time that i am about ready to get a new one (had it for 2+years). the key to make it as realistic as possible is to let it sit in hot/warm water for awhile, but always check the internal temp before sticking your dick in it unless you want to burn the fuck outta your cock (i speak from experience) and to use lots of lube! definately a great investment