Flirtatious or Friendly?

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I recently was chatting with a female co-worker & noticed that she seemed very interested in the conversation we were having. She as led a question and when I answered it appear to me that she got really into my answer, She seemed to turn more toward me got closer & was listening intently to my every word. She also appeared to stand fairly close while engaged in the conversation. Earlier in the day other co-workers were discussing the topic of a new gentlemen's club in my area. When I approached them to ask about it, she looked & smiled then said I don't think you'll want to know what they're talking about. I then answered oh I'm aware and am curious about the place. She then looked and said please tell me you wouldn't go there, and she seemed very surprised. She kept saying my name and was said wow you don't want to go there, I couldn't see you going there. I did notice the pitch of her voice did seem to get higher while talking the entire time. I then sent a request on Facebook and she sent me the following message: I got out early today and sprinted out so fast I didn't even say bye! Hah :). I do find her attractive and one of my friends/co-workers had stopped and said that he thought she was really into me. The debate & confusion is whither she was flirting, flirting playfully at all or just being friendly. I know she's in a relationship with someone but don't know what to make of any of this. I'm usually extremely bad a picking up signs of flirtation and an interest someone may have in me. If you have any ideas please sound off below.
 

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Your gut tells you she was flirting with you. Always go with your gut. I wasn't there but from what you've indicated it does sound as if she was. At any point did she touch you? Like laugh and grab hold of your arm?

I wouldn't make a move on her as she does have a boyfriend but if it become obvious, especially to co-workers, you may want to have a chat.
 

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Although she does sound interested in you there's a bunch of baggage that's going to have to be handled at some point. She's either tired of her current relationship or there's not enough excitement for her. Or she's complacent with it knowing it's going to be there and she just wants to see where it goes with you. Or he's one of those LPSG guys who wants to see his girlfriend pounded by a monster.

Just don't be surprised if you get pounded by a monster if you go forward with this.
 

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1. she's in a relationship
2. she is a co-worker

both of these are red flags. Flirting is ok as long as it is harmless. But the more you accept and return her flirtatious behavior the more you encourage it to become more than something "harmless."

Just keep it very casual. Keep your distance. If she' being friendly you will notice the same behavior with other peers. If, it is as you say, she is treating you differently.... my advice is to keep the conversation with her work related only.

There is a guy on this site that could probably give you some good advice about "attractive women acting inappropriately at work"..... (well probably more than one guy...)
 
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