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Oh, if we're talking about strangers--no. I've never approached a stranger. I'll reciprocate if she starts it, but I not initiate.

Same here and one thing thats constant with me is not only do they think i'm hitting on them but they reject me at the same time. Goes with being helpful in today's world i guess.
 

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Same here and one thing thats constant with me is not only do they think i'm hitting on them but they reject me at the same time. Goes with being helpful in today's world i guess.

I think most people are terrified of others that are outside of their own social circle but just aren't aware of it. Whenevr I've approached someone they always had this look on their face like they were saying "why are you talking to me?" and were not open at all to speaking with me. I've always wondered if girls/women enjoy rejecting guys because it boosts their ego but I think it comes down to feeling uncomfortable with a completely random guy.
 

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So, how did you meet anyone?
Good question. I shoulda been more clear.

I've never seen a woman in a grocery store, or a park, or the gym and started up a flirtatious conversation, for example.

I've met, flirted, dated people that I met through school, work, common friends, etc. Technically, I guess they were strangers before I met them.
 

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Good question. I shoulda been more clear.

I've never seen a woman in a grocery store, or a park, or the gym and started up a flirtatious conversation, for example.

I've met, flirted, dated people that I met through school, work, common friends, etc. Technically, I guess they were strangers before I met them.

That makes sense, the gym never really felt like a great place to approach a girl because I always saw that as bothering her.
 
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I think most people are terrified of others that are outside of their own social circle but just aren't aware of it. Whenevr I've approached someone they always had this look on their face like they were saying "why are you talking to me?" and were not open at all to speaking with me. I've always wondered if girls/women enjoy rejecting guys because it boosts their ego but I think it comes down to feeling uncomfortable with a completely random guy.

I don't really know but i'll guess that you're mostly right. Fear of the unknown and all that. Not to mention that men are like the number one baddy bad to women across the globe. Pretty sure that helps with the stranger danger attitude.
 
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I think most people are terrified of others that are outside of their own social circle but just aren't aware of it. Whenevr I've approached someone they always had this look on their face like they were saying "why are you talking to me?" and were not open at all to speaking with me. I've always wondered if girls/women enjoy rejecting guys because it boosts their ego but I think it comes down to feeling uncomfortable with a completely random guy.

For me, I just generally dislike people. It has nothing to do with the gender. So in general, unless you have a specific reason to talk to me, leave me the fuck alone. Go about your merry way, have a good day, and don't talk to me.
 
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I don't really know but i'll guess that you're mostly right. Fear of the unknown and all that. Not to mention that men are like the number one baddy bad to women across the globe. Pretty sure that helps with the stranger danger attitude.

I always felt that was the case, sucks for me because I literally have no opportunities to meet anyone without having to do super cold approaches like that. I guess I'll have to get used to being called names, screamed at, treated like a piece of dirt etc. lol.
 

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For me, I just generally dislike people. It has nothing to do with the gender. So in general, unless you have a specific reason to talk to me, leave me the fuck alone. Go about your merry way, have a good day, and don't talk to me.

I'm kind of the same as well but I'm not rude to people when they do talk to me, I guess it depends on the situation.
 

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For me, I just generally dislike people. It has nothing to do with the gender. So in general, unless you have a specific reason to talk to me, leave me the fuck alone. Go about your merry way, have a good day, and don't talk to me.

That's why I never really felt comfortable approaching some random girl I was interested in because it always felt like I would be bothering her, since that is how I feel when most other people talk to me.
 

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I always felt that was the case, sucks for me because I literally have no opportunities to meet anyone without having to do super cold approaches like that. I guess I'll have to get used to being called names, screamed at, treated like a piece of dirt etc. lol.

I'm guessing your best bet is either finding groups to join with women in it or finding something you really enjoy then becoming good at it. As far as i've seen women love a guy that loves what he does or is at least very good at it. And then with groups of people you already have a shared interest that would brach out into other things.

Or you could somehow mission impossible idris elbowmacoroni's, benedict comeheresnatch's, jensen ankles or brad armpitt's face/body off of them.
 

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I'm guessing your best bet is either finding groups to join with women in it or finding something you really enjoy then becoming good at it. As far as i've seen women love a guy that loves what he does or is at least very good at it. And then with groups of people you already have a shared interest that would brach out into other things.

Or you could somehow mission impossible idris elbowmacoroni's, benedict comeheresnatch's, jensen ankles or brad armpitt's face/body off of them.

Not sure what you said at the end there lol.

All of my interests are male dominated pursuits, but I see what you are saying about networking and what not.
 

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Not sure what you said at the end there lol.

All of my interests are male dominated pursuits, but I see what you are saying about networking and what not.

Yeah that last bit was a play on how some women find those guys attractive. And i was referencing tom cruisemissile's mission impossible movies. The parts were [spoilers] and [spoilers] all of a sudden [spoilers] after the scene were they [spoilers]. :D
 

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Yeah that last bit was a play on how some women find those guys attractive. And i was referencing tom cruisemissile's mission impossible movies. The parts were [spoilers] and [spoilers] all of a sudden [spoilers] after the scene were they [spoilers]. :D

I recognized that but I wasn't entirely sure what you were getting at lol.
 
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I'm kind of the same as well but I'm not rude to people when they do talk to me, I guess it depends on the situation.

I never said I was rude..... I'm perfectly civil unless someone gives me a reason to not be. I AM curt/short and to the point.
 

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I'd like to hear the lady flirt fails, too. I've had my share. Again, due to the oblivious nature of the male psyche. I think they're so much in the conquest mode that they completely ignore any attempt to be conquered or even invited.

The one and only really younger guy I was ever attracted to did not catch a single signal. Lots of laughing and touching and moving closer. Nope. I was 26 and he was barely 21 if that. Even when I said "You're so cute" he just became shy.

Eric, you missed out.
 

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Any gentlemen have a tale of failed flirtation? Maybe an overly-aggressive lady, or
I think most women assume a guy is trying to pick them up, hit on them etc. whenever they are approached by one. This is why I almost never approach a female stranger that I find attractive because it never ends well.


To be fair, when a guy flat out asks for your number and is obviously checking out your body as he does it, he's kinda trying to pick you up/possibly get some. There's nothing wrong with that.. I'm totally fine with that.. but his phrasing "make yourself available to the rest of us". That's fucking stupid. That was the fail.

I get flirted with by strangers from time to time. It only bothers me when the person doing it is being a jack-ass about it and doesn't know when to just drop it.
 
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Any gentlemen have a tale of failed flirtation? Maybe an overly-aggressive lady, or



To be fair, when a guy flat out asks for your number and is obviously checking out your body as he does it, he's kinda trying to pick you up/possibly get some. There's nothing wrong with that.. I'm totally fine with that.. but his phrasing "make yourself available to the rest of us". That's fucking stupid. That was the fail.

I get flirted with by strangers from time to time. It only bothers me when the person doing it is being a jack-ass about it and doesn't know when to just drop it.

I don't even understand what that phrase even means or what he was trying to accomplish by saying that lol, whenever I have approached someone I never said anything weir like that. Generally I would try to be polite, introduce myself etc. but it never really got anywhere, a lot of the times I would get a rude reaction but that wasn't always the case.
 

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I don't even understand what that phrase even means or what he was trying to accomplish by saying that lol, whenever I have approached someone I never said anything weir like that. Generally I would try to be polite, introduce myself etc. but it never really got anywhere, a lot of the times I would get a rude reaction but that wasn't always the case.

Well you wouldn't end up in this thread then :)

I'm never intentionally rude to a man who's just trying to flirt and be friendly.. I'm kind of dismissive because I don't like to lead people on but I'll be polite about it.

It bugs me when people are straight up assholes to someone who's just showing a natural interest in another human being, but it bugs me a lot more when jack-ass guys talk about how an attractive woman in a relationship needs to be available for the rest of the men in the world.I know he probably wasn't being literal, and thought I'd be flattered by it, but I'm not a simple person who hears someone tell me I'm attractive and swoons.
 
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Well you wouldn't end up in this thread then :)

I'm never intentionally rude to a man who's just trying to flirt and be friendly.. I'm kind of dismissive because I don't like to lead people on but I'll be polite about it.

It bugs me when people are straight up assholes to someone who's just showing a natural interest in another human being, but it bugs me a lot more when jack-ass guys talk about how an attractive woman in a relationship needs to be available for the rest of the men in the world.I know he probably wasn't being literal, and thought I'd be flattered by it, but I'm not a simple person who hears someone tell me I'm attractive and swoons.

LOL based on the rest of the story he sounds like he could just be socially inept or clueless and not have a good way with words, like it meant something different in his mind while m forost people it would be perceived in a negative way.
 

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Now I'll throw my own fail out there.
LOL based on the rest of the story he sounds like he could just be socially inept or clueless and not have a good way with words, like it meant something different in his mind while m forost people it would be perceived in a negative way.

Likely the case.. but I feel like my response to him was a decent one. I didn't go off on him, or raise my voice.. I just sternly stated that I'm not here for his 'entertainment' . We all gotta learn sometime. If he never learns a better way to talk to a lady, he just doesn't get the number when he asks for it. Simple as that. Even if I was single, hearing a guy I don't really know at all say something like that is a huge turn off for me no matter how he meant it.

I've had my share of awkward moments with strangers.. I'm trying to think of a time I failed at flirting to share too, but I don't initiate a flirtation all too often. It's been awhile, but I'[m sure something will pop into my head.